Lasting Love After 50: The Complete Guide to Long-Term Relationships
Finding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
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He Says He's Ready But Isn't: The Self-Love Deficit Behind It
When a man says he is ready but pulls away as things get real, the answer is rarely in his words. Laurie Gerber talks with dating coach Jonathon Aslay about the self-love deficit that can make emotional availability feel impossible. They explore the questions, patterns, and…
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Why Good Enough Beats Perfect in the Dating Game
You keep swiping because someone better might be one profile away. Here's why good enough on Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha beats chasing perfect.
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How to Communicate in a Relationship: Laurie Gerber's Complete Guide
What makes a relationship work isn't chemistry or love. It's whether two people can tell each other the truth. Here's my complete guide.
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You’re Not a Gold Digger
Are your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single? In this mailbag episode, Laurie answers six real listener questions about trauma and attraction, “wife appliance” fears, eight-out-of-ten chemistry, height and income filters, introvert compatibility, and…
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3 Signs a Recently Divorced Man Is Ready to Date
Dating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
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First Dates After 50: The Complete Guide to Early Dating
If you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
Something feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
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She Left a 25-Year Marriage at 50 and Made Every Dating Mistake in the Book
In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Silke Schwarzkopf, creator and host of Second Act TV, who left a 25-year marriage at 50 and made every classic midlife dating mistake there is. After 1 internal shift, she met Paul on Match.com, and they have been together for…
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
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3 Signs He’s Not Over His Ex
If you’ve ever taken “I’m over her” at face value… and later wished you hadn’t, this one’s for you. In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere, relationship expert, author, and coach of men, to talk through 3 behavioral signs that tell you whether a…
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Living Apart Together: Is It the Right Choice for You?
Eligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
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How to Stop Settling in Relationships and Finally Date Like a Woman of Value Over 50
In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest collection of real love success stories. We dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating: knowing your worth. Sandy made a…
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6 Red Flags in Dating Over 50 You Keep Ignoring
You see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
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5 Things Divorced Men Wish Women Over 50 Knew (with Lisa Copeland)
Still feeling like men are from Mars? You are not alone! In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m with dating expert Lisa Copeland to answer what men are bringing into new relationships, and why they feel rejected by us even when we're meaning well.
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Changed these 3 things in Dating Profile and Was Shocked by The Results!
I've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
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💔 Dating a Divorced Man: What You Need to Know Before You Get Attached
I was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
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How to Stop Repeating Old Relationship Patterns
A woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
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How to Establish Monogamy Before Sex
How many dates in before you realize you've stopped looking at other profiles? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m addressing the "are we exclusive" talk. I know it's scary. I cover how the early assumption of monogamy is costing you, how to know if you’re ready for it, and…
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The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself
Let me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
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When to Have Sex in a Relationship: The 6 Questions Every Woman Over 50 Must Ask First
Is your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
You're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
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3rd Date Mistakes That Cost You Months
"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
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Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?
My family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
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The Second Date Mistakes That Cost You the Relationship
You got the second date, so why does it feel like something keeps going sideways before date three? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 most common second date mistakes that quietly tank real connection, and why most people make them without even…
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
People lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
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3 First Date Mistakes Women Over 50 Keep Making (And How to Fix Them)
"Why do I keep leaving first dates feeling like something was off ?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm laying out 3 first date mistakes I see made over and over again. They're not dramatic blunders. They're small, fixable choices that cost you second dates with people who…
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Dating Over 50: How to Actually Feel Good About It Again
Dating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
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How to Break Toxic Dating Cycles After Divorce
"If lots of self-awareness were enough, wouldn't you have fixed this by now?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm sitting down with therapist Dawn Wiggins to talk about the gap between knowing your love patterns and actually changing them. She said one thing that totally…
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Attracting The Wrong Men After 50? The Real Reason
If you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
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Why Your Dating Life Isn't Progressing: 5 Reasons Women Over 50 Stay Stuck
You're texting. You're going on dates. You're staying hopeful. And nothing is actually moving. I call it: action without traction. In today's Love at Any Age episode, I break down the 5 reasons your dating life isn't progressing. If you're putting in the work and still not…
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
I coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
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Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
Worried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
I'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
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He Won't Open Up Until You Stop Doing This One Thing
He talks to strangers on airplanes. He opens up to colleagues he barely knows. But with you? One-word answers. "Why is it so easy for him to talk to someone else?"
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Where Are the Good Men?
I hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
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6 Reasons He Ghosted and Exactly What to Do Next
You felt the shift. You told yourself it was nothing. You texted more. "Why does this keep happening to me, and what am I missing?"
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Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire
I'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
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4 Types of Men on Dating Apps and How to Spot the 1 Worth Your Time
“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
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How (Not) To Use AI For Your Dating Profiles
A client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
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6 Subtle Red Flags You Keep Rationalizing (And Why You Do It)
You saw it. You told yourself it was fine. You kept going anyway. "What if the most dangerous pattern in your dating life isn't about him at all?"
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Are You Sending Mixed Signals? 7 Things Women Say They Want and What They Really Mean
Men say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
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8 Dating Patterns That Keep Smart Women Stuck in Love
“I missed my chance.” “I have to start all over now.” Maybe you don't say it out loud, but you think it. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I'm going to argue for hope.
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Dating Over 50: Are Your Girlfriends Helping or Hurting?
Dating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
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Dating over 50: 7 Compatibility Factors That Predict Success
Chemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
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Handling Rejection After 50 Without Losing Hope
Rejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
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8 Traits That Get A Man To Pick You
We are not the same as men, and our guesses as to what they want are often wrong. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I asked dating coach Lisa Copeland to set the record straight.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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5 Signs He Is Emotionally Available (and 5 He’s Not)
He might be texting. He might be charming. He might say he wants a relationship. And yet… something still feels off. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is he emotionally available… or am I about to waste months (or years) figuring that out the hard way?” this episode is for you.
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The "One" Didn’t Get Away: Letting Go and Moving Forward
There is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
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How to Tell if a Man is Ready for Long-Term Commitment
Online dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
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4 Reasons You Keep Attracting the Wrong Man (and how to fix it)
If Valentine’s Day has you thinking, “I don’t want to repeat that again,” this episode is for you. In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I break down why so many smart women keep choosing the same kind of man and how to interrupt that pattern before another holiday comes…
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
Dating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
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Sex, Erectile Dysfunction, and the Myths That Hurt You | Epi #14
Today’s conversation on Love at Any Age is a spicy one, and it's for people over 50 who still want intimacy, pleasure, and sex in their love lives. I’m joined by the extraordinary Joan Price, an internationally recognized expert on sex in later life, and at 82, she is living…
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Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most
If you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
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The 10-Step Guide for Getting Ready (When You’re Done Wasting Time)
If you’ve been thinking, “Maybe this is the year I actually date differently,” this one is for you. Season 2 of Love at Any Age opens with the foundation: how to prepare for dating so it feels purposeful, effective, and stretch goal: fun.
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
You do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
After 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
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The Secret Reason You're Not Ready for Love: How to Detox from Your Past Relationships
If dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
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Finding and Building a Healthy Relationship in Midlife: Laurie Gerber
In today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
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Is AI Helping—or Hurting—Your Dating Life?
Today’s episode is the season finale of Love at Any Age — and I’m doing something new. I had a guest on the podcast: dating coach Evan Marc Katz. And I’ll be honest… I came into this conversation feeling more than a little fired up.
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The One Pattern That Subconsciously Wrecks Midlife Dating (and How to Stop It) 💥
If you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
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Self-Love After 50: 6 Hidden Obstacles That Block Love
Thinking about dating again? I say there's no expiration date on love. Here are 6 hidden obstacles blocking you. You are not too late.
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New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Work
If you’re heading into the New Year thinking, “I want love… but I’m not sure how to get it,” this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Love at Any Age, we’re continuing the self-love series and looking at the other big obstacles that sabotage dating: bad habits, family dynamics,…
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How Women Can Get Ready for Dating Sunday and Make Their Love Resolution Come True
If finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
Dating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
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💔How to Give and Receive Rejection Without Shutting Down
If the fear of rejection has ever kept you on the sidelines of dating (or sent you running back there), this week’s Love at Any Age episode is for you. I can’t take away the fear, but I want to help you move forward despite it.
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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🚦5 Dating Mistakes You May Still Make (and Exactly How to Stop Making Them)
In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I’ll reveal the five most common mistakes women make that sabotage their dating experience—and how to fix them before they derail a great match.
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We're Finding Love On My New Podcast: Love At Any Age
I promised myself I'd start a podcast in 2025, then grief and a move rearranged everything. Love At Any Age is what came next.
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❓The Most Important Questions for Your First Dates
Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
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💬Here’s How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off)
Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…
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Body Image and Dating Over 50: What’s Really Holding You Back
A reader wrote me her weight and years of celibacy were stopping her. I tackle body image and dating with honesty and compassion.
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How to Answer eHarmony Prompts (Especially for Women Dating Over 50)
eHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
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Stop Wasting Time on “Maybes” — Your 3-Date Strategy
Ever go on a date and think, “Hmm… maybe?” — but never quite know if you should keep going or move on? That’s exactly what today’s episode of Love at Any Age is about. I’m breaking down how to use your 3H Chart in real-world dating, and how to follow the 3-Date Strategy so you…
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The Secret to Choosing the Right Partner (for Real This Time)
If you’ve ever said, “I don’t even know what I want anymore” or “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?” — this one’s for you.
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4 Myths About the Dating Site Algorithm That Need Busting
Do the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
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How to Detox from Your Past Relationships and Date Again with Confidence
If you’ve ever sworn you were done with your ex… but still find yourself checking his social media or comparing every new guy to him — this one’s for you.
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
I wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
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Stop Repeating the Same Love Mistakes After 50
Are you tired of spinning your wheels in dating? Feeling like every man is the same guy… in a different shirt?
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4 Bad Reasons 50+ Women Quit Dating (and 1 Good One)
Women quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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Unpopular Opinion: Men Over 50 Deserve a 2nd Chance
I don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
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I Can’t Fix Your Dating Profile Without These 2 Things
Women send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
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Laurie Gerber: Dating and Finding Love Over 50
Host Nancy Lang Gibbs talks with Laurie Gerber on Loving Later Life about dating and finding love over 50, and Laurie gently calls out some of her host's own beliefs along the way.
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Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?
Dating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
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What to Expect When Dating a Man Over 50
If you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
Cringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.
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So you have an STD, To Date or Not To Date?
I used to run truth-telling workshops. If you have an STD, I want you to consider dating honestly, without shame, and free yourself.
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
Met online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
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The Do's and Don'ts of Dating Site Prompts
Staring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
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Dating Over 50: Do Older Men Really ONLY Want Younger Women? What's Real and What's Not!
“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
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How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?
On our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
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The Real Reason So Many Women Fake Orgasms—And What To Do About It
Why do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
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3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter
Good banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
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The Problem with "Love Languages" in Early Dating
Trying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
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How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow
Feel like you're pulling teeth to get a man talking? The secret isn't more questions. It's real listening, and it makes you more attractive.
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Navigating Dating with Ease: 4 Tips for Soothing Anxiety
If dating feels like a tightrope over lava, you're not broken. These 4 tips helped my clients calm dating anxiety and enjoy the process again.
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How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction
Sex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
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What Makes 2 People TRULY Compatible: It's Not What You Think
What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
Not attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
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5 Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted Forever 🚫👻
Being ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.
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What Do Older Women Think Men Want—and Are They Right?
What do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
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Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching
Ghosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
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Dating Over 50: Profile Mistakes That Make You Undateable! (The Harsh Truth)
Think your dating profile is helping you find love after 50? Think again. 🙄Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber delivers a brutally honest breakdown of the biggest dating profile mistakes that are turning people off — and keeping you single. From outdated photos and…
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Top 5 Reasons To Believe In Love and Romance Again
Finding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
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The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous)
Tired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
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Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?
Curious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
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The Top 5 Reasons Women Give Up on Love
Quick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
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7 Best Dating Sites for Women Over 50 in 2026 (Reviewed by a Dating Coach)
The dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
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How to Protect Yourself From a Narcissist
As a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
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Reignite the Spark: Secrets to Lasting Love with Laurie Gerber
In this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
The right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
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Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind
As a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
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Untangling Mom: Learning to Love Her and Finally Be Me
Relationship coach Laurie Gerber returns to help us unpack the emotional weight of the mother-daughter dynamic. Through her “Pedestal Ditch Perspective,” we’ll explore how we see our moms—either as flawless or flawed beyond repair—and how those extremes keep us stuck. Let’s talk…
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Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?
If you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
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The Importance of Shared Values in a Romantic Relationship
I had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
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How to Flirt Naturally (and Still Be Your Authentic Self): Clean and Dirtier Come-ons Included
Flirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
After 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
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The Biggest Dating Dealbreakers for Women
Staying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Fun First Date Ideas
Before a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.
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Dating After 50: No games, Just Real Talk
Success isn’t just about milestones — it’s about alignment. Because how we live, love, and lead matters just as much as what we achieve.
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
First dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
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EP 228: Reclaiming Romance After 50 with Laurie Gerber
How to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
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Am I Good Enough to be Loved for What I Am?
So many midlife women believe they're not enough to deserve love. The truth? You are worthy right now. The work is believing it enough to act.
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
I hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.
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First Date Signs He Likes You
So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
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Dating Over 50: How Do You Meet More People in Real Life? The Key Steps to Approaching Someone IRL!
How do you meet someone in real life? That’s the top question on the minds of thousands of singles dating over 50 who are tired of online dating. Dating and Relationship Coach Laurie Gerber, who was a resident “love expert” at some of the biggest dating sites, provides…
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How to Make Yourself More Attractive: 4 Practical Strategies
Attraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
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What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?
The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
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You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction
From the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Exhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
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Life After Divorce with Laurie Gerber
Featuring renowned life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, the episode delves into handling breakups, dating post-divorce, and the importance of honesty and self-discovery. Highlights include Gerber's advice on the pitfalls of rushing into new relationships, the…
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The Big Myth About Older Men and Younger Women: Busted!
The myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
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Dating over 50: What’s the 3 Date Rule? Essential Dos and Don’ts for First Second and Third Date!
Frustrated with dating over 50? According to Dating Coach and Love Expert Laurie Gerber, dating over 50 does not have to be so difficult or frustrating if you apply the “3 Date Rule”. In this video, Laurie explains the 3 Date Rule, and shares the essential dos and don’ts you…
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Do You REALLY Know Your Type? The Key to Discovering Your True Type Dating Over 50!
Do you really know what “your type” is? If you’re dating over 50, your “true type” might have significantly changed from your younger days. What are you really looking for now in a partner? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber explains why discovering your true…
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
Scammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
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Visualizing, Designing & Executing Your New #postdivorce Life ft. #relationship expert Laurie Gerber
In this uplifting episode, we dive into the exciting opportunity of visualizing and designing your new post-divorce life. I know how overwhelming it can be to think about the future when you're going through a major life transition, but today we’re flipping that script. We'll…
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Ensuring Emotional and Physical Safety in Your Search for Love
If you’ve tuned in before, you already know the fabulous guru of love and dating, Laurie Gerber. I’m thrilled to have her return for this episode, where we revisit the world of midlife dating but this time with a strong focus on emotional and physical safety. Laurie will share…
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Get Your Baggage out of Your Dating Life With This Exercise 🙃
If dating work isn't paying off, you may be overlooking one key step. This exercise helps you fix your picker using your 3H's.
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Honesty in Relationships: A Path to True Connection. With Laurie Gerber & Samia Bano
How to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
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Dating in Your 50’s: Mastering the New Rules of Romance
In this episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast, I'm joined by New York based life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, who shares her wisdom and practical advice on navigating the modern dating landscape.
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Magnetizing Your Perfect Match and Cultivating More True Love in Your Life with Relationship Coach Laurie Gerber
Awakening Aphrodite host Amy Fournier welcomes Laurie Gerber to explore head-heart-body wisdom, what prospective partners really want, and how radical honesty helps people magnetize a compatible match and cultivate lasting love.
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Are You Ready to Date Like You Mean It?
TeaTime Midlife Edition host Regina Young asks Laurie Gerber what it means to date like you mean it—bringing clarity, intention, and honest self-assessment to the search for love in midlife.
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Let's Get Honest: Is it Lying, A Liability, or a Limiting Belief
Shot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
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Daughters, Dads, & Their Complex Relationships
Father’s Day can certainly generate strong feelings about the relationship we either have or had with Dad. A father is a daughter’s first and most influential love. That relationship plays a critical role in a woman’s choice of romantic partners and how she sees herself.…
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Got Daddy Issues?
I keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
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Create the Relationships of Your Dreams in Midlife
Wellegant Woman host Karen Viesta talks with Laurie Gerber about the lies that keep women from the love they want—and a practical three-step process for creating more honesty, passion, pleasure, and connection in midlife.
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The Head, The Heart, The HooHa
Unmatch Me Now host Idan sits down with Laurie Gerber to talk about dating after 50, the promises and pitfalls of dating apps, radical honesty, and balancing the head, the heart, and physical attraction.
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Laurie Gerber: Expert in the Field of Life and Relationship
The Rewrite host Wendy Sloane talks with Laurie Gerber about the near-divorce that changed her life, the Handel Method, and two decades spent helping people rewrite the patterns that shape love and relationships.
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Dating After Divorce
The Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
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A Guide To Dating As A Single Mom: Happy Mother's Day
SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
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Divorce Detoxification: Do You Need It?
What happens if you are not OVER your divorce? You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
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Date Like You Mean It: Dating Advice For 50+ Women with Laurie Gerber Ep 78: Too Young To Be Old
Modern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
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Affordable Online Dating Courses: How One Love Expert Makes Her Coaching Accessible
Wondering if there's an age limit to love and intimacy? Navigating relationships after 50 can feel unfamiliar and challenging. Finding love and connection in later years, including identifying compatible partners and maintaining open communication, comes with challenges. It…
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Obstacles To The Click
Remember the "click" I talked about? It's when you stop whining, resisting, and fearing, and know you deserve a great partner. What blocks it?
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Have You Had "The Click?" The One Where You Know You Are Going To Find Your Soulmate?
The "click" is when you stop being a victim of past love failures and become the author of a brave new chapter of love-hunting.
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Finding Love: Insights and Guidance for Every Stage of Life
We are diving into the intricacies of love and dating, joined by none other than relationship expert and renowned dating coach, Laurie Gerber. With her profound insights, Laurie advocates that enduring love is within reach for all. Drawing from her comprehensive approach, Laurie…
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Are You An Unhappy Single Person? Here's Help.
There are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
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Why Must I Swipe Swipe Swipe, Delete, Delete, Delete
My first answer: dating is honest work. My second: maybe you don't have to work SO hard, because you may be making it harder.
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5 Questions to Ask to Know If You're Ready for a Committed Relationship
Deciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
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New Year's CHECKLIST
It’s a new year and I hope lasting healthy love is on the top of your list of goals for the year! If so, here is your checklist for preparation:
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5 Strategies to Infuse more Romance
If your New Year's resolution is more romance, take my quiz. See how you're showing up, then try five strategies to keep love hot.
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7 Questions to Ask Yourself at the End of the Year
Here is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
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Are Your Holidays Delightful or Disastrous? A Little Design Goes A Long Way!
No two people want the same holiday. If you haven't talked about what matters most, you'll likely end up stressed and short on what you needed.
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My One and Only Gift Guide for Those Looking for Their One and Only
Shopping for a love-seeking friend or yourself? Skip more stuff. Give my Master the Art of Love course, plus a year of group coaching.
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The Antidote To Fear And Loneliness: Gratitude, 8 Ways To Practice It
I know holidays can stir loss, loneliness, and comparison. Gratitude is my antidote, and here are 8 ways to practice it.
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Doing Holidays Solo? 5 Strategies for Making Peace with Being Single
Facing another solo holiday? You can make peace with being single, handle family questions, and create a delicious season for yourself.
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Charm, Don’t Spook Them: 4 Essential First Date Tips Revealed! 🎃
Don't let first-date nerves turn you into someone you're not. Here are four tips to keep your charm and lose the spooky factor.
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Testing the Dating Waters: 6 Red Flags to Watch Out For During the First Three Dates
Do you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
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Best 3 Tips for Handling Rejection Well While Dating
Rejection is part of dating, but it doesn't have to wreck you. Here are 3 tips to handle it like a pro and keep your heart open.
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4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating
Why is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
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Discovering Invisible Labor In Couples And What To Do About It
Couples fight about division of labor. Successful couples name invisible labor, appreciate it, and may redistribute responsibilities.
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4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date
Dating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
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Top 5 Dos and Don’ts For Your Slam Dunk Dating Profile 🏀🧺
Everyone makes the same profile mistakes. Here are 5 dos and don'ts to make yours accurate, clear, and more likely to find your match.
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Unlocking the Mystery: What is Love Actually? 🤔💭💖
What do you think “Love” actually is? It’s give and it’s take. I love you, so here is what I want to give you:
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Setting the Record Straight: What A Good Partner Does (and Doesn't) Do For You
Frustrated your partner can't give you something? Maybe you're expecting the wrong thing. A partner should enhance you, not complete you.
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Dating Hack: 5 Things You'll Learn From A Video Chat That You Need to Know
There are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
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Attention Daters: How to Get off the Apps and Into Real Life Dates
Tired of endless texting and no real dates? Watch my talk with Alison Wellington, who gives exact texts to get off the apps.
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Make Awkward Talks Less Painful with this 8-Step Awesome Cheat Sheet 📜
Dating requires awkward talks about sex, STIs, kids, and monogamy. I have an 8-step cheat sheet to make them less painful and a little easier.
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
Never assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
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Apology Pitfalls Are Everywhere. I'll Tell You How to Avoid Them
Here is another example of a bad apology. If you missed last week’s example…
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Effective Apologies: This Is How They Work
The format of a good apology should go like this…
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4 Secrets To Evaluating Your Relationship
Your partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
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Partner Not Listening? I’ll Show You How to Change That
So many people feel their partners don’t listen well. Here is what doesn’t work to inspire listening…
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I find secrets hiding in almost every dater I coach. The way out of shame starts with self-love, and here is how to begin.
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Practicing Happiness, Love and Better Relationships with Laurie Gerber
In this video, Laurie Gerber shares some tips on how to practice happiness and create better relationships. She talks about the importance of the truth, communicating effectively and being present in the moment. By following these tips, you can create more fulfilling and lasting…
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Love is the Only Game in Town, Here's How to Play
Love is the only game in town. In this podcast you’ll hear how to play the game…
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How an Expert Masters Love: Take Advantage of My Experience 💖
Dating without the right ingredients is like making pancakes without eggs. Let me show you how I master love, with real experience.
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Would Pavlok-style Shock Therapy Work For Your Relationship Problems?
I couldn't stop interrupting just by wanting to. Here's how Pavlok-style shock therapy might help you break bad relationship habits.
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How to Keep Your Love Connections Fresh, Tight and Lasting
This conversation is full of A-HA moments, tips, and straight up great advice to keep your love connections fresh, tight, and lasting.
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My 4 Best "Back to School/Real Life" Hacks
Does your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
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Is the Division of Labor Fair in Your Household? 🙋♀️
I'll be frank: the patriarchy is getting on my nerves. Too much household work still falls to women, and it is not a fair tradeoff.
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In Conflict, Do You Own Your Part? Ask Yourself These 8 Questions!
Giving tough feedback? Own your part first. These 8 questions help you see your side of a conflict before you ever speak up.
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3 Curious Things We Learned from Practicing Listening 🙉
We practiced listening in a clinic, and learned 3 curious things about truth, attention, and what people reveal when you truly listen.
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🏆 The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Success Revealed 🥇
What we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
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The Secret Ingredients To Getting The Love (And Sex 👉👌) Back
I had a near divorce and repaired my marriage. In this podcast, I share sex dates, lube, candles, and the fun in marriage fundamentals.
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Are you A Good Listener? 👂🙉 Find Out and Fix With These 3 Steps.
Ever been accused of being a bad listener? We need a training camp for listening. Here are 3 steps to find out and fix it.
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The #1 Communication Problem in Couples, Do you have it?
In a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
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Vacation Planner for Couples and Families
Vacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
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Father’s Day Re-Imagined
I'm writing to anyone with or without a father: imagine the dad you wish you'd had, then feel into those traits and all the love you wanted.
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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
My husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
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Your Phone Is Stupid, and It's Making You Stupid 📱😱
I see clients struggle with phone promises. Our phones are making us less present, and it is time to change the relationship.
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Popcorning: What it is, Why You Do it, And Why you Have to Stop
Popcorning is interrupting your partner to get attention. Here is why you do it, what it costs your relationship, and how to stop.
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Determining Your Type in 3 Easy Steps
It’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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Your Parents, and Why You Suck at Love the Same Ways They Did
If you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
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Become More Competent at Love: Learn the Art of The Bandaid Trade 🩹
Ripping off a bandaid is scary, but giving your partner feedback is similar. I say do it all at once so the wound can heal quickly.
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Do You Have Integrity in Love? It's Urgent You Analyze These 3 Things!
Have you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
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Are you Addicted to A Person? 🤔 Use this Free 6-Step Detox To Believe in Love Again, Now.
Can't stop thinking about someone, even years later? That may be addiction. Use my free 6-step detox to believe in love again, starting now.
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15 Excuses for Bad Relationships and Why They Are Actually Certified Crap 💩
Not everyone can afford coaching, but you deserve help debunking bad relationship excuses. I cover the 15 most popular ones by category.
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Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
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These Excuses are Killing Your Relationship
I made plenty of relationship excuses: I was better than most, I blamed my partner, then I swore I'd tried everything. Excuses hide the truth.
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My Favorite Dream Writing Exercises
I want your relationship to have a joint dream. Try my favorite dream writing exercises to turn shared values into a vision.
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How to Trust Your Head, Heart and Hoohah When It Comes to Love with Relationship Coach Laurie Gerber
Laurie tells host Elayne Fluker how she fell in love with coaching and how she began the journey.
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The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Coaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
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I Found a Better Purpose for My Marriage, Have You?
I promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
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Why My Coach had a Great Marriage and I Didn’t
"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
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How I Almost Lost My Marriage
I almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
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You Have Not Tried Everything!
I told my coach I'd tried everything, but I meant nagging, complaining, blaming. My quiz offers new things to try and a fresh start.
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I Finally Did it 💪🏼
In 2021 I kept a New Year's promise for the first time. Here's what I learned about ending your year powerfully, plus my birthday struggles.
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Avoid the Top 3 Relationship Pitfalls: Holiday Edition
No two people want the same holiday. Ask your partner what matters most in a calm moment, or you'll both end up stressed and disappointed.
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Are you a Good Lover?
This is not about sexual technique, though we will get there. It is about love as a verb, and what love actually means in practice.
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Whose Fault is It?
For years I blamed my partner for my unhappiness. When my coach asked why, I said it was all his fault. Here's what I learned.
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My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?
Is your relationship on the rocks? I've coached thousands, and the hard truth is you can't be happy in love if you're not happy with yourself.
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