Doing Holidays Solo? 5 Strategies for Making Peace with Being Single
Hello single folks,
Are you headed into another holiday season without a "special someone" by your side?
Wouldn’t it be easier to handle your family’s craziness if you had a partner with you? At the very least it might get them focused on something other than your singleness!
Well, you still have a few weeks to seal the deal with someone you have your eye on or are dating or you could make peace and embrace your solo holiday!
If you choose Option B, below are my suggestions for making it a delicious holiday season.
Because PEACE can be VERY attractive!
1) Don’t apologize for being single:
Decide here and now that if you are currently single it is what is best for you RIGHT NOW. It does not imply anything about the future. But it is your choice right now. Have an answer ready for anyone who asks: saying “I am happily single” usually shuts people right up.
2) Focus on gratitude:
My goodness if you are in a position to be reading this email it means you have so much to be thankful for. Life itself is literally a miracle! Gratitude is always a choice and I recommend choosing that mental framework as much as possible.
3) Receive from yourself:
You cannot receive love well from others if you can’t receive it from yourself. What makes you feel loved, by you?
A warm bath?
Plenty of time for sleep?
Exercise? Playing with your friends?
Time outdoors? Looking at art, making art, cuddling your pet?
Whatever it is, give it to yourself!
4) Give to others (once you are filled up):
One of the best feel good activities a human can engage in is giving to others. Whether it is sending a love note to a friend, offering to babysit someone’s kid, volunteering in a soup kitchen or just smiling at the people you pass–know this, you make a difference.
5) Stay wide open to finding your love:
Yes, working in a concentrated manner to find love can be very fruitful, but times of inaction can also bear fruit, if your heart and mind are in the right place. You know the story of “love shows up when you least expect it.”
Perhaps “love” is attracted to that state of peace and joy you are cultivating!
I wish you a holiday season filled with warmth, gratitude, and the delightful crunch of self-discovery.
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Frequently Asked Questions about Being Single During the Holidays
1. How do I handle nosy questions from family about being single?
Have a confident response ready. Try, “I’m happily single right now,” or “I’m focusing on building the kind of relationship I actually want.” Own your situation with pride—it diffuses judgment quickly.
2. Why is gratitude so important when I’m feeling lonely?
Gratitude changes your emotional state. Even in moments of loneliness, shifting your focus to what you do have grounds you in abundance and helps you feel less “behind” in life.
3. What does “receiving from myself” actually look like?
It means treating yourself the way you want a partner to treat you—with care, attention, and generosity. Whether that’s a long walk, a hot bath, or time with art or friends, give yourself the love you deserve.
4. Isn’t it selfish to focus on myself instead of giving to others?
Not at all! When you’re full, you give from overflow—not depletion. Fill your own cup first, then offer your energy to others in a way that feels natural and nourishing, not forced or obligatory.
5. Should I even bother trying to date during the holidays?
Only if it feels good. But know this: people absolutely meet their person in November and December. When you show up joyful, peaceful, and open—even in “off” seasons—you’re magnetic. Love can (and does) show up any time.
