Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
If you've ever wished for a way to streamline your interactions while maintaining personal touch, you’re in the right place.
The secret? Canned responses.
Allow me to pitch you on how much more fun dating will be when it’s efficient and uncomplicated. Canned responses are simply pre-written messages (or memorized lines) you can use over and over in common dating situations, which help you get your point across and still be charming.
I want you to memorize these go-to, consistent responses while still sounding like yourself–because you write your own versions. My goal is for you to have the best canned responses to make your online dating experience easier, more successful, more enjoyable, and have improved response times in your communications.
Why Canned Responses Matter in Online Dating
Most online daters get very overwhelmed when they first start out with how to manage interest effectively and how to move along conversations that stagnate.
Here’s how canned responses help:
Make a A Good First Impression: A well-crafted opening line makes you stand out.
Save time: No more overthinking every reply. Quick replies keep conversations flowing.
Boost confidence: Having pre-written responses for tricky situations prevents awkward silences or miscommunication.
Handle rejection smoothly: Knowing precisely what to say when you’re not interested saves you from guilt or ghosting.
Best Practices for Using Canned Responses
Personalize When Necessary
Even though you are using a pre-written follow up, you have to add detail
Example: Instead of just saying “I had a great time,” say, “I had a great time at the art exhibit—it was fun seeing our different tastes in paintings!”
Conext Matters
Texts can be short and literally cut and paste, but for verbal interactions you’re going to have to write them out and then practice a few times so you’ll remember when you’re face to face.
Use Quick Answers for Routine Questions
Many dating conversations start the same way: “What do you do for work?” “What are your hobbies?” Having pre-written replies keeps things effortless.
Example: Instead of typing the same response a dozen times, cut and paste: “I’m a marketing consultant and love helping businesses grow. I like dealing with a lot of people more than I like the analytics but it’s a great job all around. How about you?”
Canned Responses for Common Dating Situations
Below are some of the best examples of canned messages for some of the most common dating scenarios. These response examples will save you additional time and effort while keeping interactions smooth.
1. First Messages: Making a Great First Impression
Sending the first message can feel daunting. Try this:
Simple & Engaging: “Hey [Name], I see you love hiking. What’s your favorite trail?”
Playful & Fun: “If you had to eat one type of cuisine for the rest of your life, what would it be?”
Straightforward & Confident: “Hey! You seem interesting—I’d love to get to know you better. Can I ask a few questions?
Remember, a quick reply with an interesting question is “the hook” to get an interaction going.
2. Handling Unclear Interest: Encouraging a First Move
Let’s say you’ve been texting a bit, or already had a video chat, and you’re not sure if someone wants to ask you out. Instead of waiting, use this approach:
Canned Response: “If you asked me out, I’d say yes!”
This gives them a nudge while keeping the conversation playful.
3. Turning Someone Down Politely
Rejection is part of dating, but handling such situations with kindness is key.
Canned Response: “It’s been lovely getting to know you, but I don’t think we’re a romantic match. I wish you best of luck!” or “You seem great but I don’t think we have a sufficient spark for a romantic relationship, I wish you all the best though!”
This response is clear, kind, and doesn’t invite further interaction. Let the last thing you say to them be kind!
4. Managing Long Response Times
If you’ve been slow to reply, it’s a great opportunity to acknowledge it while keeping things light.
Canned Response: “Sorry for the delay! Life’s been a little hectic, but I’d love to continue our conversation.”
Alternate canned response If you’re on the other end: “Hi, I notice you’ve been more out of touch recently, are you still interested in getting to know each other better? No hard feelings if not, but I’d love to know one way or another.”
This is the best way to prevent all the negative side effects of ghosting. The best canned messages smooth things over without much effort.
5. Moving from Messaging to a Video Chat
When you’re ready to move things along after 1-2 weeks of texting, instead of another routine question or a phone call, you should ask for a video chat::
Canned Response: “I’m really enjoying getting to know you, could we hop on a 10-minute video chat to see if we have chemistry?”
A direct approach makes it easier to figure out if the person is serious and if you have real chemistry once eyeball to eyeball.
6. Flirting 101
You’ll know someone is flirting with you when they give you a compliment. It’s a great chance to answer back with these cute responses:
“Flattery will get you everywhere. Keep going.”
“You’re just saying that because you have good taste.”
“Well, aren’t you sweet? I might have to keep you around.”
7. Keeping the Conversation Going the Easy Way
“That’s interesting—tell me more.”
“I like where this is going, but let’s make it even more interesting.” (ask another question)
“I have a feeling this conversation is just getting started.”
8. Suggesting a Second Date
“I had fun—should we pretend this was just a warm-up and do it again?”
“That was too much fun for just one date. Let’s make it two.”
“I vote for a second round. How about you?”
Texting Etiquette in Early Dating
There are many ways to reduce anxiety in dating, but using canned responses online is one of the most important things you can do to simplify your interactions while maintaining a strong personal touch. I hope I have pointed you in the right direction and convinced you it’s not that hard to learn.
It can be overwhelming to go from loneliness to numerous texting and chatting conversations all at once! You do not need to answer everyone in a timely fashion but it’s rude to leave someone hanging for more than a couple of days in the middle of a dialogue (or if it’s live chatting, more than a few minutes).
For good karma, wrap everything up with an elegant goodbye if you are not interested, and if you are interested respond within 24 hours to all (non-live) communications. If you are going to be unavailable for a bit, just let the other person know.
In general, do your best to keep conversations balanced, doing about half the talking and half the listening.
Keep Good Conversations Going Forever
If you’ve gone to the trouble of making conversing and moving dating along easier, by using pre-written messages, you are going to also want to get better at communication in general. Once you are seriously dating someone, awkward topics are bound to come up as you explore the possibility of choosing each other long term. These can also be prepped for.
Every person has liabilities they are going to explain, and I suggest you prep those in advance. Topics you know will be hard like living arrangements, communication needs and everything about sex should also be pre-planned using my recommended 8-step rubric.
Want to know more? Check out my free webinar “3 Secrets to Finding and Maintaining Healthy Love”.
Love,
