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Falling for a widower, or dating again after losing your own spouse? Here's how to tell normal grief from real red flags, and how to know when he (or you) is ready for love after loss.
Read moreThe end of a marriage can leave you asking: Who am I now? You may have spent a long time being somebody's wife, co-parent, or keeping the household moving through much tension. Then the structure disappears, and even freedom can feel disorienting.
Read moreAfter divorce, what could be shaping your chances of finding love before the next date even begins? Laurie Gerber raises questions about belief in love, self-care, telling people you are looking, dating rules, and where you look.
Read moreFinding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
Read moreWhen a man says he is ready but pulls away as things get real, the answer is rarely in his words. Laurie Gerber talks with dating coach Jonathon Aslay about the self-love deficit that can make emotional availability feel impossible. They explore the questions, patterns, and…
Read moreDating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
Read moreDesire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
Read moreI have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
Read moreIf you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
Read moreSomething feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
Read moreThe third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
Read moreAre there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
Read moreEligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
Read moreYou see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
Read moreI've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
Read moreI was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
Read moreA woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
Read moreLet me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
Read moreLet's be honest, one of the hardest parts of dating after 50 is dealing with rejection.
Read moreIs your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
Read moreYou're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
Read moreMy family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
Read morePeople lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
Read moreDating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
Read more"If lots of self-awareness were enough, wouldn't you have fixed this by now?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm sitting down with therapist Dawn Wiggins to talk about the gap between knowing your love patterns and actually changing them. She said one thing that totally…
Read moreIf you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
Read moreI coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
Read moreWorried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
Read moreI'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
Read moreI hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
Read moreI'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
Read more“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
Read moreA client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
Read moreMen say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
Read more“I missed my chance.” “I have to start all over now.” Maybe you don't say it out loud, but you think it. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I'm going to argue for hope.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreRejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
Read moreIf you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
Read moreAre you pushing love away without even realizing it?
Read moreThere is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
Read moreThis episode is a special one. I’m sitting down with someone very close to me, my coach and mentor. Lauren Handel Zander is not only a dear friend, but she is the creator of the Handel Method, the personal development framework behind my dating coaching.
Read moreOnline dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
Read moreDating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
Read moreToday’s conversation on Love at Any Age is a spicy one, and it's for people over 50 who still want intimacy, pleasure, and sex in their love lives. I’m joined by the extraordinary Joan Price, an internationally recognized expert on sex in later life, and at 82, she is living…
Read moreIf you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
Read moreYou do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
Read moreAfter 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
Read moreIf dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
Read moreIn today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
Read moreToday’s episode is the season finale of Love at Any Age — and I’m doing something new. I had a guest on the podcast: dating coach Evan Marc Katz. And I’ll be honest… I came into this conversation feeling more than a little fired up.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
Read moreThinking about dating again? I say there's no expiration date on love. Here are 6 hidden obstacles blocking you. You are not too late.
Read moreIf finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
Read moreLaurie is the guest on the Financial Wellness Hour with host Hirsch Serman, CPA and CDFA, on how to go through the holidays alone.
Read moreDating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
Read moreIf the fear of rejection has ever kept you on the sidelines of dating (or sent you running back there), this week’s Love at Any Age episode is for you. I can’t take away the fear, but I want to help you move forward despite it.
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreEver ask yourself, “Am I undateable?” Here’s the truth: maybe, but not for the reasons you think.
Read moreI promised myself I'd start a podcast in 2025, then grief and a move rearranged everything. Love At Any Age is what came next.
Read moreIn this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
Read moreA reader wrote me her weight and years of celibacy were stopping her. I tackle body image and dating with honesty and compassion.
Read moreDating after 50 isn’t the problem, our expectations often are. We carry old beliefs, past heartbreak, and outdated dating rules into new situations… and then wonder why nothing feels right. Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down the most common…
Read moreeHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
Read moreDo the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
Read moreIf you’ve ever sworn you were done with your ex… but still find yourself checking his social media or comparing every new guy to him — this one’s for you.
Read moreI wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
Read moreWomen quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreI don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
Read moreHost Wendy Battles talks with Laurie Gerber on Reinvention Rebels about how getting fired, reworking a marriage, and reframing menopause led Laurie to reinvent her own life, and what that means for dating after 50.
Read moreWomen send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
Read moreDating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
Read moreIf you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
Read moreCringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.
Read moreI used to run truth-telling workshops. If you have an STD, I want you to consider dating honestly, without shame, and free yourself.
Read moreMet online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
Read moreStaring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
Read more“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
Read moreOn our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
Read moreWhy do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
Read moreTrying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
Read moreEver Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
Read moreFeel like you're pulling teeth to get a man talking? The secret isn't more questions. It's real listening, and it makes you more attractive.
Read moreAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Read moreIf dating feels like a tightrope over lava, you're not broken. These 4 tips helped my clients calm dating anxiety and enjoy the process again.
Read more“Is it me?” That’s the question many women ask when ED (erectile dysfunction) shows up in the bedroom—whether they've been with a partner for decades or are just starting a new relationship.
Read moreSex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreDating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreNot attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
Read moreDating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
Read moreBeing ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.
Read moreWhat do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
Read moreGhosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
Read moreFinding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
Read moreTired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
Read moreCurious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
Read moreQuick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
Read moreThe dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
Read moreAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Read moreThe right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
Read moreAs a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber returns to help us unpack the emotional weight of the mother-daughter dynamic. Through her “Pedestal Ditch Perspective,” we’ll explore how we see our moms—either as flawless or flawed beyond repair—and how those extremes keep us stuck. Let’s talk…
Read moreIf you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
Read moreI had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
Read moreAfter 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreBefore a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.
Read moreThe biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
Read moreSo many midlife women believe they're not enough to deserve love. The truth? You are worthy right now. The work is believing it enough to act.
Read moreSome men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
Read moreI hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.
Read moreSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Read moreAttraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreFrom the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
Read moreExhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
Read moreBack by popular demand, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins me to unpack one of life’s toughest transitions: divorce. How do you know when it’s truly time to walk away? And if you do, how can you navigate the emotional detox needed to heal and move forward? In this episode,…
Read moreThe myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreScammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
Read moreIf you’ve tuned in before, you already know the fabulous guru of love and dating, Laurie Gerber. I’m thrilled to have her return for this episode, where we revisit the world of midlife dating but this time with a strong focus on emotional and physical safety. Laurie will share…
Read moreIf dating work isn't paying off, you may be overlooking one key step. This exercise helps you fix your picker using your 3H's.
Read moreThe Divorce to Bliss Podcast host Rachel S. Ruby talks with Laurie Gerber about why strong parental partnerships after divorce matter for children of every age—and how cooperative co-parents can model healthier relationships.
Read moreShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Read moreI keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
Read moreThe Rewrite host Wendy Sloane talks with Laurie Gerber about the near-divorce that changed her life, the Handel Method, and two decades spent helping people rewrite the patterns that shape love and relationships.
Read moreThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Read moreSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Read moreWhat happens if you are not OVER your divorce? You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
Read moreLaurie Gerber joins Enneagram and Marriage host Christa Hardin to unpack why honesty can feel unsafe between partners—and how couples can tell harder truths, receive them without shutting down, and build a marriage where candor creates closeness.
Read moreRemember the "click" I talked about? It's when you stop whining, resisting, and fearing, and know you deserve a great partner. What blocks it?
Read moreThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Read moreDeciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
Read moreIt’s a new year and I hope lasting healthy love is on the top of your list of goals for the year! If so, here is your checklist for preparation:
Read moreIf your New Year's resolution is more romance, take my quiz. See how you're showing up, then try five strategies to keep love hot.
Read moreHere is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
Read moreNo two people want the same holiday. If you haven't talked about what matters most, you'll likely end up stressed and short on what you needed.
Read moreI know holidays can stir loss, loneliness, and comparison. Gratitude is my antidote, and here are 8 ways to practice it.
Read moreCompatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
Read moreDon't let first-date nerves turn you into someone you're not. Here are four tips to keep your charm and lose the spooky factor.
Read moreDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Read moreRejection is part of dating, but it doesn't have to wreck you. Here are 3 tips to handle it like a pro and keep your heart open.
Read moreCouples fight about division of labor. Successful couples name invisible labor, appreciate it, and may redistribute responsibilities.
Read moreFrustrated your partner can't give you something? Maybe you're expecting the wrong thing. A partner should enhance you, not complete you.
Read moreThere are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
Read moreNever assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
Read moreHere is another example of a bad apology. If you missed last week’s example…
Read moreThe format of a good apology should go like this…
Read moreYour partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
Read moreSo many people feel their partners don’t listen well. Here is what doesn’t work to inspire listening…
Read moreI find secrets hiding in almost every dater I coach. The way out of shame starts with self-love, and here is how to begin.
Read moreDating without the right ingredients is like making pancakes without eggs. Let me show you how I master love, with real experience.
Read moreI couldn't stop interrupting just by wanting to. Here's how Pavlok-style shock therapy might help you break bad relationship habits.
Read moreDoes your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
Read moreI'll be frank: the patriarchy is getting on my nerves. Too much household work still falls to women, and it is not a fair tradeoff.
Read moreGiving tough feedback? Own your part first. These 8 questions help you see your side of a conflict before you ever speak up.
Read moreWe practiced listening in a clinic, and learned 3 curious things about truth, attention, and what people reveal when you truly listen.
Read moreWhat we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
Read moreI had a near divorce and repaired my marriage. In this podcast, I share sex dates, lube, candles, and the fun in marriage fundamentals.
Read moreIn a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
Read moreVacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
Read moreI'm writing to anyone with or without a father: imagine the dad you wish you'd had, then feel into those traits and all the love you wanted.
Read moreMy husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
Read moreI see clients struggle with phone promises. Our phones are making us less present, and it is time to change the relationship.
Read morePopcorning is interrupting your partner to get attention. Here is why you do it, what it costs your relationship, and how to stop.
Read moreIt’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
Read moreOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Read moreIf you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
Read moreRipping off a bandaid is scary, but giving your partner feedback is similar. I say do it all at once so the wound can heal quickly.
Read moreHave you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
Read moreCan't stop thinking about someone, even years later? That may be addiction. Use my free 6-step detox to believe in love again, starting now.
Read moreNot everyone can afford coaching, but you deserve help debunking bad relationship excuses. I cover the 15 most popular ones by category.
Read moreI have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
Read moreI made plenty of relationship excuses: I was better than most, I blamed my partner, then I swore I'd tried everything. Excuses hide the truth.
Read moreCoaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
Read more"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
Read moreI told my coach I'd tried everything, but I meant nagging, complaining, blaming. My quiz offers new things to try and a fresh start.
Read moreNo two people want the same holiday. Ask your partner what matters most in a calm moment, or you'll both end up stressed and disappointed.
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