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Strong chemistry can make you overlook a mismatch you noticed on date 1. Before you get attached, find out how your lives would actually fit together. Here are the 7 compatibility areas I want you to talk about in your first 3 dates, including the conversations most people put…
Read moreFalling for a widower, or dating again after losing your own spouse? Here's how to tell normal grief from real red flags, and how to know when he (or you) is ready for love after loss.
Read moreThe end of a marriage can leave you asking: Who am I now? You may have spent a long time being somebody's wife, co-parent, or keeping the household moving through much tension. Then the structure disappears, and even freedom can feel disorienting.
Read moreFinding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
Read moreDating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
Read moreI have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
Read moreSomething feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
Read moreThe third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
Read moreIf you’ve ever taken “I’m over her” at face value… and later wished you hadn’t, this one’s for you. In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere, relationship expert, author, and coach of men, to talk through 3 behavioral signs that tell you whether a…
Read moreEligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
Read moreI've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
Read moreI was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
Read moreA woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
Read moreYou're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
Read moreMy family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
Read morePeople lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
Read moreDating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
Read moreIf you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
Read moreI hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
Read more“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
Read moreA client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreRejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
Read moreThere is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
Read moreOnline dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
Read moreDating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
Read moreIf you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
Read moreAfter 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
Read moreIf dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
Read moreIn today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
Read moreThinking about dating again? I say there's no expiration date on love. Here are 6 hidden obstacles blocking you. You are not too late.
Read moreIf you’re heading into the New Year thinking, “I want love… but I’m not sure how to get it,” this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Love at Any Age, we’re continuing the self-love series and looking at the other big obstacles that sabotage dating: bad habits, family dynamics,…
Read moreDating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreI promised myself I'd start a podcast in 2025, then grief and a move rearranged everything. Love At Any Age is what came next.
Read moreIn this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
Read moreeHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
Read moreI wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
Read moreWomen quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreI don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
Read moreWomen send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
Read moreDating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
Read moreOn our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
Read moreGood banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
Read moreTrying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
Read moreEver Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
Read moreAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreDating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
Read moreBeing ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.
Read moreWhat do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
Read moreGhosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
Read moreFinding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
Read moreTired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
Read moreCurious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
Read moreAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Read moreIn this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
Read moreThe right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
Read moreAs a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber returns to help us unpack the emotional weight of the mother-daughter dynamic. Through her “Pedestal Ditch Perspective,” we’ll explore how we see our moms—either as flawless or flawed beyond repair—and how those extremes keep us stuck. Let’s talk…
Read moreIf you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
Read moreI had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
Read moreFlirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.
Read moreAfter 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
Read moreStaying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreThe biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
Read moreSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Read moreExhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
Read moreThe myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
Read moreDating after divorce can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, we’re joined by relationship expert Laurie Gerber to break down the dos and don’ts of dating after divorce, how to know when you're truly ready to date again, and how to avoid repeating past…
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreScammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
Read moreIf dating work isn't paying off, you may be overlooking one key step. This exercise helps you fix your picker using your 3H's.
Read moreThe Divorce to Bliss Podcast host Rachel S. Ruby talks with Laurie Gerber about why strong parental partnerships after divorce matter for children of every age—and how cooperative co-parents can model healthier relationships.
Read moreShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Read moreFather’s Day can certainly generate strong feelings about the relationship we either have or had with Dad. A father is a daughter’s first and most influential love. That relationship plays a critical role in a woman’s choice of romantic partners and how she sees herself.…
Read moreI keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
Read moreI had the privilege of sitting down and talking with Laurie Gerber about Dating After Divorce.
Read moreThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Read moreSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber joins family-law attorney and A Year and a Day host Jaime Davis for a candid guide to dating after divorce: when you are ready, how to change old patterns, rebuild confidence, vet new partners, and protect children from a relationship moving too…
Read moreRemember the "click" I talked about? It's when you stop whining, resisting, and fearing, and know you deserve a great partner. What blocks it?
Read moreDeciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
Read moreIf your New Year's resolution is more romance, take my quiz. See how you're showing up, then try five strategies to keep love hot.
Read moreHere is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
Read moreFAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
Read moreNo two people want the same holiday. If you haven't talked about what matters most, you'll likely end up stressed and short on what you needed.
Read moreShopping for a love-seeking friend or yourself? Skip more stuff. Give my Master the Art of Love course, plus a year of group coaching.
Read moreI know holidays can stir loss, loneliness, and comparison. Gratitude is my antidote, and here are 8 ways to practice it.
Read moreFacing another solo holiday? You can make peace with being single, handle family questions, and create a delicious season for yourself.
Read moreCompatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
Read moreDon't let first-date nerves turn you into someone you're not. Here are four tips to keep your charm and lose the spooky factor.
Read moreDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Read moreCouples fight about division of labor. Successful couples name invisible labor, appreciate it, and may redistribute responsibilities.
Read moreDating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
Read moreDating requires awkward talks about sex, STIs, kids, and monogamy. I have an 8-step cheat sheet to make them less painful and a little easier.
Read moreNever assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
Read moreThe format of a good apology should go like this…
Read moreYour partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
Read moreDoes your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
Read moreI'll be frank: the patriarchy is getting on my nerves. Too much household work still falls to women, and it is not a fair tradeoff.
Read moreI had a near divorce and repaired my marriage. In this podcast, I share sex dates, lube, candles, and the fun in marriage fundamentals.
Read moreIn a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
Read moreVacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
Read moreI'm writing to anyone with or without a father: imagine the dad you wish you'd had, then feel into those traits and all the love you wanted.
Read moreMy husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
Read moreI see clients struggle with phone promises. Our phones are making us less present, and it is time to change the relationship.
Read moreIt’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
Read moreOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Read moreIf you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
Read moreHave you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
Read moreCan't stop thinking about someone, even years later? That may be addiction. Use my free 6-step detox to believe in love again, starting now.
Read moreNot everyone can afford coaching, but you deserve help debunking bad relationship excuses. I cover the 15 most popular ones by category.
Read moreI made plenty of relationship excuses: I was better than most, I blamed my partner, then I swore I'd tried everything. Excuses hide the truth.
Read moreCoaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
Read moreI promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
Read more"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
Read moreI almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
Read moreI told my coach I'd tried everything, but I meant nagging, complaining, blaming. My quiz offers new things to try and a fresh start.
Read moreIn 2021 I kept a New Year's promise for the first time. Here's what I learned about ending your year powerfully, plus my birthday struggles.
Read moreNo two people want the same holiday. Ask your partner what matters most in a calm moment, or you'll both end up stressed and disappointed.
Read moreThis is not about sexual technique, though we will get there. It is about love as a verb, and what love actually means in practice.
Read moreFor years I blamed my partner for my unhappiness. When my coach asked why, I said it was all his fault. Here's what I learned.
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