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You want chemistry. But the thought of getting naked with someone new can bring up questions you haven't had to face in years. Laurie Gerber and Suzanne Noble discuss sex after 50, from different levels of desire to the fear of saying what you want. Their conversation includes…
Read moreYou're dating someone you really like. Then you find out they cheated in a previous relationship.
Read moreFinding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
Read moreDating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
Read moreDesire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
Read moreI have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
Read moreSomething feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
Read moreThe third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
Read moreThink everyone who's dating is actually ready for a relationship? Think again.
Read moreAre there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
Read moreEligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
Read moreYou see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
Read moreI've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
Read moreA woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
Read moreHow many dates in before you realize you've stopped looking at other profiles? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m addressing the "are we exclusive" talk. I know it's scary. I cover how the early assumption of monogamy is costing you, how to know if you’re ready for it, and…
Read moreLet me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
Read moreIs your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
Read moreYou're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
Read more"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
Read moreMy family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
Read morePeople lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
Read moreDating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
Read moreI coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
Read moreYou meet someone… and it feels like this could be it. And then, something shifts.
Read moreWorried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
Read moreI'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
Read moreI hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
Read moreI'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
Read moreA client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
Read moreMen say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreHow long are you willing to ignore the signs?
Read moreChemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
Read moreRejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
Read moreIf you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
Read moreThere is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
Read moreOnline dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
Read moreDating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
Read moreIf you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
Read moreYou do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
Read moreAfter 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
Read moreIf dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
Read moreThe “friend zone” isn’t the same for men and women, and that misunderstanding keeps many women stuck in almost-relationships that never turn into commitment.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
Read moreIf finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
Read moreDating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreIn this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
Read moreeHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
Read moreDo the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
Read moreI wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
Read moreWomen quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreWomen send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
Read moreDating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
Read moreIf you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
Read moreMet online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
Read moreStaring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
Read more“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
Read moreWhy do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
Read moreGood banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
Read moreTrying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
Read moreEver Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
Read moreAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Read more“Is it me?” That’s the question many women ask when ED (erectile dysfunction) shows up in the bedroom—whether they've been with a partner for decades or are just starting a new relationship.
Read moreSex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreDating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreAs a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
Read moreNot attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
Read moreDating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
Read moreWhat do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
Read moreGhosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
Read moreTired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
Read moreCurious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
Read moreThe dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
Read moreIn this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
Read moreThe right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
Read moreAs a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
Read moreIf you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
Read moreWhat do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
Read moreI had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
Read moreAfter 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
Read moreStaying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreA couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
Read moreFirst dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
Read moreThe biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
Read moreHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Read moreSome men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
Read moreAttraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreFrom the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
Read moreExhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
Read moreThe myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreDo you really know what “your type” is? If you’re dating over 50, your “true type” might have significantly changed from your younger days. What are you really looking for now in a partner? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber explains why discovering your true…
Read moreHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Read moreShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Read moreModern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
Read moreWondering if there's an age limit to love and intimacy? Navigating relationships after 50 can feel unfamiliar and challenging. Finding love and connection in later years, including identifying compatible partners and maintaining open communication, comes with challenges. It…
Read moreDeciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
Read moreIf your New Year's resolution is more romance, take my quiz. See how you're showing up, then try five strategies to keep love hot.
Read moreShopping for a love-seeking friend or yourself? Skip more stuff. Give my Master the Art of Love course, plus a year of group coaching.
Read moreCompatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
Read moreDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Read moreWhy is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
Read moreCouples fight about division of labor. Successful couples name invisible labor, appreciate it, and may redistribute responsibilities.
Read moreDating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
Read moreEveryone makes the same profile mistakes. Here are 5 dos and don'ts to make yours accurate, clear, and more likely to find your match.
Read moreDating requires awkward talks about sex, STIs, kids, and monogamy. I have an 8-step cheat sheet to make them less painful and a little easier.
Read moreNever assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
Read moreThe format of a good apology should go like this…
Read moreYour partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
Read moreI couldn't stop interrupting just by wanting to. Here's how Pavlok-style shock therapy might help you break bad relationship habits.
Read moreWhat we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
Read moreVacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
Read moreMy husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
Read moreOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Read moreIf you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
Read moreCan't stop thinking about someone, even years later? That may be addiction. Use my free 6-step detox to believe in love again, starting now.
Read moreI have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
Read moreCoaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
Read more"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
Read moreI almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
Read moreLaurie is a guest teacher on The $100 MBA, on keeping your promises to yourself as the root of success in business, life and relationships.
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