They Cheated on Their Spouse. Would YOU Still Date Them? (Dating After 50)
You're dating someone you really like. Then you find out they cheated in a previous relationship.
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Lasting Love After 50: The Complete Guide to Long-Term Relationships
Finding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
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3 Signs a Recently Divorced Man Is Ready to Date
Dating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
Something feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
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Dating After 50: 4 Types of People You'll Meet (Only One Is Relationship Ready)
Think everyone who's dating is actually ready for a relationship? Think again.
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
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Living Apart Together: Is It the Right Choice for You?
Eligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
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6 Red Flags in Dating Over 50 You Keep Ignoring
You see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
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Changed these 3 things in Dating Profile and Was Shocked by The Results!
I've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
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How to Stop Repeating Old Relationship Patterns
A woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
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How to Establish Monogamy Before Sex
How many dates in before you realize you've stopped looking at other profiles? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m addressing the "are we exclusive" talk. I know it's scary. I cover how the early assumption of monogamy is costing you, how to know if you’re ready for it, and…
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The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself
Let me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
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When to Have Sex in a Relationship: The 6 Questions Every Woman Over 50 Must Ask First
Is your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
You're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
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3rd Date Mistakes That Cost You Months
"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
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Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?
My family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
People lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
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Dating Over 50: How to Actually Feel Good About It Again
Dating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
I coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
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The 3–6–9 Dating Rule? When Things Start to Shift—Here’s What’s Happening
You meet someone… and it feels like this could be it. And then, something shifts.
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Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
Worried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
I'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
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Where Are the Good Men?
I hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
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Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire
I'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
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How (Not) To Use AI For Your Dating Profiles
A client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
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Are You Sending Mixed Signals? 7 Things Women Say They Want and What They Really Mean
Men say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
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Dating Over 50: Are Your Girlfriends Helping or Hurting?
Dating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
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“You Feel This? You’re Not a Priority (Don’t Ignore It)
How long are you willing to ignore the signs?
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Dating over 50: 7 Compatibility Factors That Predict Success
Chemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
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Handling Rejection After 50 Without Losing Hope
Rejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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The "One" Didn’t Get Away: Letting Go and Moving Forward
There is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
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How to Tell if a Man is Ready for Long-Term Commitment
Online dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
Dating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
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Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most
If you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
You do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
After 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
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The Secret Reason You're Not Ready for Love: How to Detox from Your Past Relationships
If dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
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Dating After 50: The Friend Zone for Women — When He Likes You But He Won’t Commit
The “friend zone” isn’t the same for men and women, and that misunderstanding keeps many women stuck in almost-relationships that never turn into commitment.
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The One Pattern That Subconsciously Wrecks Midlife Dating (and How to Stop It) 💥
If you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
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How Women Can Get Ready for Dating Sunday and Make Their Love Resolution Come True
If finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
Dating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
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How to Answer eHarmony Prompts (Especially for Women Dating Over 50)
eHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
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4 Myths About the Dating Site Algorithm That Need Busting
Do the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
I wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
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4 Bad Reasons 50+ Women Quit Dating (and 1 Good One)
Women quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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I Can’t Fix Your Dating Profile Without These 2 Things
Women send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
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Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?
Dating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
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What to Expect When Dating a Man Over 50
If you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
Met online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
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The Do's and Don'ts of Dating Site Prompts
Staring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
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Dating Over 50: Do Older Men Really ONLY Want Younger Women? What's Real and What's Not!
“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
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The Real Reason So Many Women Fake Orgasms—And What To Do About It
Why do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
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3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter
Good banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
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The Problem with "Love Languages" in Early Dating
Trying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Sex After 50: Is It Me? The Emotional Fallout of ED - What Women Wish Men Knew!
“Is it me?” That’s the question many women ask when ED (erectile dysfunction) shows up in the bedroom—whether they've been with a partner for decades or are just starting a new relationship.
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How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction
Sex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
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What Makes 2 People TRULY Compatible: It's Not What You Think
What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
Not attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
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What Do Older Women Think Men Want—and Are They Right?
What do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
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Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching
Ghosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
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The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous)
Tired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
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Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?
Curious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
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7 Best Dating Sites for Women Over 50 in 2026 (Reviewed by a Dating Coach)
The dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
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Reignite the Spark: Secrets to Lasting Love with Laurie Gerber
In this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
The right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
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Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind
As a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
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Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?
If you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
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Sex after 50: What Women Think Men Want in Bed - Are They Getting It All Wrong? 😳
What do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
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The Importance of Shared Values in a Romantic Relationship
I had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
After 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
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The Biggest Dating Dealbreakers for Women
Staying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
First dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
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EP 228: Reclaiming Romance After 50 with Laurie Gerber
How to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
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How to Make Yourself More Attractive: 4 Practical Strategies
Attraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
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What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?
The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
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You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction
From the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Exhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
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The Big Myth About Older Men and Younger Women: Busted!
The myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Do You REALLY Know Your Type? The Key to Discovering Your True Type Dating Over 50!
Do you really know what “your type” is? If you’re dating over 50, your “true type” might have significantly changed from your younger days. What are you really looking for now in a partner? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber explains why discovering your true…
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Honesty in Relationships: A Path to True Connection. With Laurie Gerber & Samia Bano
How to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
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Let's Get Honest: Is it Lying, A Liability, or a Limiting Belief
Shot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
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Date Like You Mean It: Dating Advice For 50+ Women with Laurie Gerber Ep 78: Too Young To Be Old
Modern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
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Affordable Online Dating Courses: How One Love Expert Makes Her Coaching Accessible
Wondering if there's an age limit to love and intimacy? Navigating relationships after 50 can feel unfamiliar and challenging. Finding love and connection in later years, including identifying compatible partners and maintaining open communication, comes with challenges. It…
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5 Questions to Ask to Know If You're Ready for a Committed Relationship
Deciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
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5 Strategies to Infuse more Romance
If your New Year's resolution is more romance, take my quiz. See how you're showing up, then try five strategies to keep love hot.
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My One and Only Gift Guide for Those Looking for Their One and Only
Shopping for a love-seeking friend or yourself? Skip more stuff. Give my Master the Art of Love course, plus a year of group coaching.
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Are We Compatible? How to Know if You Should Proceed With a Particular Someone
Compatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
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Testing the Dating Waters: 6 Red Flags to Watch Out For During the First Three Dates
Do you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
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4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating
Why is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
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Discovering Invisible Labor In Couples And What To Do About It
Couples fight about division of labor. Successful couples name invisible labor, appreciate it, and may redistribute responsibilities.
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4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date
Dating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
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Top 5 Dos and Don’ts For Your Slam Dunk Dating Profile 🏀🧺
Everyone makes the same profile mistakes. Here are 5 dos and don'ts to make yours accurate, clear, and more likely to find your match.
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Make Awkward Talks Less Painful with this 8-Step Awesome Cheat Sheet 📜
Dating requires awkward talks about sex, STIs, kids, and monogamy. I have an 8-step cheat sheet to make them less painful and a little easier.
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
Never assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
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Effective Apologies: This Is How They Work
The format of a good apology should go like this…
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4 Secrets To Evaluating Your Relationship
Your partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
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Would Pavlok-style Shock Therapy Work For Your Relationship Problems?
I couldn't stop interrupting just by wanting to. Here's how Pavlok-style shock therapy might help you break bad relationship habits.
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🏆 The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Success Revealed 🥇
What we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
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Vacation Planner for Couples and Families
Vacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
My husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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Your Parents, and Why You Suck at Love the Same Ways They Did
If you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
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Are you Addicted to A Person? 🤔 Use this Free 6-Step Detox To Believe in Love Again, Now.
Can't stop thinking about someone, even years later? That may be addiction. Use my free 6-step detox to believe in love again, starting now.
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Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
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The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Coaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
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Why My Coach had a Great Marriage and I Didn’t
"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
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How I Almost Lost My Marriage
I almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
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MBA1768 Guest Teacher: Laurie Gerber, How to Build Personal Integrity
Laurie is a guest teacher on The $100 MBA, on keeping your promises to yourself as the root of success in business, life and relationships.
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