Setting the Record Straight: What A Good Partner Does (and Doesn't) Do For You
If you’ve been following me on Insta you know I am not just about you finding your person, but I’m all about you keeping the love alive, hot, and healthy.
Are you frustrated that your partner can’t provide certain things you want?
Are you getting the sneaking suspicion that maybe you aren’t expecting the right thing?
Let me set the record straight!
Coaching daters for 20 years has taught me a lot about what people need and don’t need.
Too often, people want to use their partner as a compensation rather than an enhancement.
Harsh fact: Self love is an inside job. And it’s necessary for a good relationship. In fact, it's a prerequisite.
If you don’t do your own work, you are going to be putting too much burden on the relationship, and it won’t go well in the long run.
Here are 5 things a great partner SHOULDN’T do for you:
Be your everything. Dangerous, obvi.
Make you happy. You should make yourself happy. A partner can add to it, but the buck stops with you.
Establish your boundaries. Nope, that one is your job too.
Give you a community. They can add to yours but shouldn’t be replacing yours!
Be responsible for your sexual pleasure. Too much pressure and unrealistic, that’s primarily yours too!
But…
Here are 5 things a great partner SHOULD do for you:
Show genuine curiosity about how you think and feel.
Show you a good time.
Pay attention when you speak– as long as you’re not interrupting.
Make a genuine effort to negotiate how you spend time together, divide the labor and communicate so it works for both of you.
Learn how to resolve conflicts productively.
If you are struggling with any of these do’s and don’ts, I can help you!
There is something for every price range:
FREE: Watch my videos on Instagram and read the blog.
So affordable: Purchase Master the Art of Love. More info below.
Money's no object: Make an appointment to talk to me about your situation if you need a coach.
