Whose Fault is It?

Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy!

Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS!

Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple:

IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT.

Here is what I told my coach were the issues:

1. He doesn’t like to talk

2. He doesn’t seem to care

3. It just isn’t any good anymore

4. Kids, jobs, so tired, etc.

Here is what I DIDN’T tell my coach

1. I had stopped having sex with him

2. I never listened completely when he talked to me

3. I wasn’t taking care of myself at all

UH-OH! Those issues weren’t his, they were mine. My coach had the most counter-intuitive idea (to me) but it worked like a charm.

She told me to clean up my sleeping and eating and exercise habits and put me in a plan to do just that. Immediately, I felt better, happier, and more capable of saving my marriage. I also started to feel sexier and, because I stopped using food for comfort, numbing and pleasure, I had to start looking to my husband for those things.

When I say the results were immediate, I mean it. Because, sure the weight loss and vitality were great, but what was truly priceless was this: I got my sense of my own power back! I took charge of my happiness and well-being and everything else flowed from there.

Taking care of your side of the street is definitely priority #1. So if you haven’t self-assessed, here is the “Current Reality” Quiz again. Get to it!

But, even when you take care of your side of the street, relationships can go bad. Next week I am going to talk about THE MOST common pitfalls couples run into and why they lead to that LOVE FADING phenomenon!

See you soon LOVERS!

P.S. If you need extra support breaking up or staying together join the Love-in Community.

P.P.S. Don’t forget to watch this before the holidays, and share it with anyone who can use it! My new video, Ensuring Holiday Happiness: