Top 3 Second Date Mistakes To Avoid
Last week we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes. If you missed it, here’s the link.
The second date assumes there was a spark, attraction, a general vibe connection, and the notion that it could work between the two of you, or at least you both want to know more.
But it’s still only the 2nd date, so proceed with caution!
I’ve observed these 3 avoidable mistakes in my work coaching daters:
Don’t do something loud or distracting:
That means no movies, concerts, crowds or parties. You need to be focused on each other, only. Find a quiet and cozy (public) spot to dive into all your unanswered questions and possibly… smooching.
2. Don't kiss or more– if you are not feeling it:
It’s fine to try a smooch if you’re “not sure” but if you are sure and your body says no-please do not be tempted to any physical intimacy (including kissing) even if they offer, even if you are lonely, even if you’ve been drinking, even if you feel bad for them. It is the wrong message to send.
It's important to be honest with yourself and your date about your attraction. If you're not feeling it, don't force it.
P.S. This is a good reason to also limit or avoid drinking altogether. Mistakes made while tipsy or drunk can add unnecessary years to your dating saga.
3. Don’t leave with any mystery:
Be clear on what you're looking for in general on the 2nd date. It’s time to eliminate yourself or them if you aren’t looking for the same thing. You need to let the other person know if you are looking for a fling or “the real thing” and find out what they are looking for too. If it’s not a match→abort the mission!
There is an art and science to dating well and finding your person. It can be exhausting if you don’t know how to make the first 3 dates count so make sure you read all 3 articles in the series!
Love,
