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Dating a divorced man means his former marriage, ex, and family dynamics may come with him. But those complications do not automatically mean he is unavailable. These three green flags show whether he has actually healed, knows what he wants, and can build a serious relationship…
Read moreI have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
Read moreIf you're over 50 and standing at the edge of dating again, first dates feel enormous. More than they did at 30. More than they probably should. That's because at this age, you know things. You know what a bad relationship costs. You know how fast years go. You know you're not…
Read moreThe number one concern I hear from many daters is: there are not enough eligible people where I live. My heart goes out to you. It's enough to make you give up altogether. On the other hand, I meet happy couples every day who started (or even remained) in a long-distance…
Read moreMost of us don't miss the red flags. We see them. We just talk ourselves out of what we saw. I've been helping women in the dating pool for over 20 years, and I will tell you with total certainty: the problem is rarely that you're oblivious. The problem is that you're hopeful.…
Read moreStill feeling like men are from Mars? You are not alone! In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m with dating expert Lisa Copeland to answer what men are bringing into new relationships, and why they feel rejected by us even when we're meaning well.
Read moreI was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
Read moreHere's a story I've heard a hundred times. A woman finally gets out of an unhappy marriage. She promises herself: this time, things will be different. She gets back in the dating game, meets someone new, and then, slowly, a familiar feeling creeps in. Same fights. Same dynamic.…
Read moreI've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
Read moreIn my family, there is a famous story about my grandmother Sylvia, who came to the US from Poland in the 1930s. Sylvia was notoriously skeptical, untrusting, and frugal. She could spend hours in a store examining potential purchases and still leave with nothing. No decision came…
Read moreDating over 50 can feel like stepping into a whole new world. And not the cute "new adventure" kind of way. More like: Wait, what is this? Why does everything feel harder?
Read more"If lots of self-awareness were enough, wouldn't you have fixed this by now?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm sitting down with therapist Dawn Wiggins to talk about the gap between knowing your love patterns and actually changing them. She said one thing that totally…
Read moreIf you've been staring at your divorce papers, wondering whether your window for love has closed, I have someone I want you to meet. I recently sat down with Lauren Handel Zander. She's the creator of the Handel Method, my former boss, my mentor, and the woman whose framework…
Read moreOne of the biggest mistakes women make when they first get back into dating, especially after a divorce or a long dry spell, is having sex on the 1st date, the 2nd date, or following the famous "third date rule" on the long-awaited 3rd date. I’m not judging you. I understand it.
Read more“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
Read moreYou saw it. You told yourself it was fine. You kept going anyway. "What if the most dangerous pattern in your dating life isn't about him at all?"
Read moreThis episode is a special one. I’m sitting down with someone very close to me, my coach and mentor. Lauren Handel Zander is not only a dear friend, but she is the creator of the Handel Method, the personal development framework behind my dating coaching.
Read moreOne of the biggest reasons women grow tired of online dating is simple: it can feel like a waste of time. Based on years of work as a dating coach, I can tell you this: only a portion of the people on dating apps are genuinely ready for a committed relationship or a long-term…
Read moreIf you’re dating again after 50, the first thing to remember is this: chemistry is not the only thing that matters. You can have a good time, enjoy the small talk, even feel sparks on a first date, and still end up with a partner who is all wrong for the kind of life you…
Read moreIn today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
Read moreIf you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
Read moreIf you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreIn response to a recent article about reasons not to date common in women over 50, I received this comment: “All valid points. What is holding me back is my weight (overweight now) and having been celibate for over 10 years, the thought of intimacy. My body has cellulite, rolls…
Read moreIf you’ve ever sworn you were done with your ex… but still find yourself checking his social media or comparing every new guy to him — this one’s for you.
Read moreTwo of my three kids are grown, so I think I can safely say now that I wish they had taken a gap year between high school and college, or during college. At least they studied abroad. The amount of worldly knowledge and independence they gained from studying abroad got me…
Read moreFor every woman in the 50+ age group who responds to one of my articles, hopeful about dating again, an equal number write back with a heavy sigh: “Never again. I’m done.”
Read moreDivorce coach and mediator Lisa Lisser talks with Laurie Gerber on Dishing On Divorce about readiness, mindset and clarity for stepping back into the dating world after divorce.
Read moreHigh Vibe Divorce host Melissa Wheeler Farag talks with Laurie Gerber about dating after divorce: how to know you're ready, the Head, Heart and Hoo-ha framework for sizing up a new partner, and the difference between casual and committed dating.
Read moreI don’t mean get back together with the man you divorced. I certainly don’t mean stay with someone who abuses you. I mean, in early dating—even in texting. I mean, when something rubs you the wrong way and you’re ready to call it quits before chemistry has had a chance to…
Read moreOnce women are done complaining to me about how older men are only looking for younger women, they turn around and complain that they’ll end up being an older man’s nurse, purse, or, dreadfully, both!
Read moreYou finally open up the dating app, and there it is—the blank box next to "What makes you unique?" You freeze. Is this the best place to share your love of New York bagels? Is it too soon to mention your three divorces and obsession with Candy Crush?
Read moreIf you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreHost Lorena Tomasini talks with Laurie Gerber on Twelve Minute Talks about how to navigate the dating world again, especially after divorce, and why the right first steps depend on your personality type.
Read moreDating apps and dating sites can open up a world of possibilities, even after 50—but only if you know how to use them wisely. As a dating coach, I see the same worst dating profile mistakes over and over again, especially from attractive women who should be having a good time…
Read moreDating after divorce can feel like stepping into a strange new world—especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time. You might feel like the dating pool has changed, the rules are unclear, and your comfort zone is nowhere to be found. But here's good news: not…
Read moreMy name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!
Read moreQuick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
Read moreAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Read moreIn this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
Read moreI have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
Read moreOne moment you're excited about a potential partner, and the next, you’re wondering if you just wasted a lot of time. Welcome to the dating game! What a ride.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreFeaturing renowned life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, the episode delves into handling breakups, dating post-divorce, and the importance of honesty and self-discovery. Highlights include Gerber's advice on the pitfalls of rushing into new relationships, the…
Read moreBack by popular demand, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins me to unpack one of life’s toughest transitions: divorce. How do you know when it’s truly time to walk away? And if you do, how can you navigate the emotional detox needed to heal and move forward? In this episode,…
Read moreThe myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women. But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth.
Read moreDating after divorce can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, we’re joined by relationship expert Laurie Gerber to break down the dos and don’ts of dating after divorce, how to know when you're truly ready to date again, and how to avoid repeating past…
Read moreWelcome back to Over 50 & Flourishing! In this episode, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins us again to share her 8 powerful strategies for success in relationships. From navigating dating after divorce to rebuilding self-confidence and trust in others, Laurie provides…
Read moreIn this uplifting episode, we dive into the exciting opportunity of visualizing and designing your new post-divorce life. I know how overwhelming it can be to think about the future when you're going through a major life transition, but today we’re flipping that script. We'll…
Read moreMom Essentials host Angie Weber talks with Laurie Gerber about the obstacles people face in modern dating, from starting over after divorce to navigating apps, intimacy, and the work of creating meaningful connection.
Read moreThe Divorce to Bliss Podcast host Rachel S. Ruby talks with Laurie Gerber about why strong parental partnerships after divorce matter for children of every age—and how cooperative co-parents can model healthier relationships.
Read moreA few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
Read moreThe Rewrite host Wendy Sloane talks with Laurie Gerber about the near-divorce that changed her life, the Handel Method, and two decades spent helping people rewrite the patterns that shape love and relationships.
Read moreI had the privilege of sitting down and talking with Laurie Gerber about Dating After Divorce.
Read moreThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Read moreWhat happens if you are not OVER your divorce? You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber joins family-law attorney and A Year and a Day host Jaime Davis for a candid guide to dating after divorce: when you are ready, how to change old patterns, rebuild confidence, vet new partners, and protect children from a relationship moving too…
Read moreThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Read moreWhen I first tried to stop my bad habit of interrupting, it was VERY hard! I knew it didn’t help my relationship and was considered socially wrong, but I didn’t find I had the willpower to stop…
Read moreIn this podcast, you’ll get the details about putting the “fun” in marriage fundamentals, using sex dates (ooh la la) as an example, and the magic of lube and candles, and finally, an explanation of why if I were a fictional character, I'd be a fairy godmother.
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