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Your profile can be full of good intentions and still disappear in the crowd. Laurie breaks down three practical changes you can make today, from choosing better photos to writing a bio that gives the right person a reason to lean in. You’ll also see why widening your search…
Read moreDesire does not disappear after 50. But your body, confidence, and needs may change. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, body image, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, and the conversations that make intimacy better. If you are ready to stop treating this part of life…
Read moreI have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
Read moreThe dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
Read moreIf you've spent more than ten minutes on online dating apps, you may have asked yourself: "Are there any emotionally healthy people on here at all?" Fair question. Because sometimes dating apps can feel like a strange social experiment where 1 person wants a soulmate, another…
Read moreIn today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest collection of real love success stories. We dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating: knowing your worth. Sandy made a…
Read moreI've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
Read moreIn my family, there is a famous story about my grandmother Sylvia, who came to the US from Poland in the 1930s. Sylvia was notoriously skeptical, untrusting, and frugal. She could spend hours in a store examining potential purchases and still leave with nothing. No decision came…
Read moreI recently joined Lori Dube and Constance Bauer on their wonderful podcast, We Ain’t Dead Yet, for an episode called All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60.
Read moreDating over 50 can feel like stepping into a whole new world. And not the cute "new adventure" kind of way. More like: Wait, what is this? Why does everything feel harder?
Read moreIf you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
Read moreAs a dating coach, I hear it constantly. "Men just want someone younger." "Older men just want sex." "The older guys on dating sites just want a caretaker." I get why women believe this. The dating world can feel brutal, especially after a long marriage or years on your own. But…
Read moreI am going to say the thing most women over 50 are thinking but not saying out loud: I am not sure I can have a great sex life anymore. Maybe you have quietly decided that the chapter is closed. Maybe the physical changes, the low libido, the vaginal dryness, the hot flashes,…
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreRomantic rejection is part of life. It always has been. But that doesn’t mean rejection hurts less just because you’re older or wiser. What changes after 50 is the emotional reaction it can trigger and the meaning we sometimes attach to it.
Read moreIf you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
Read moreFirst of all, there is no ONE “the one.” Second of all, this notion that your "one" got away, whether because: He picked someone else You picked someone else He had an insurmountable issue He died As a relationship coach, I can tell you: It just isn’t true.
Read moreIf you’ve been thinking, “Maybe this is the year I actually date differently,” this one is for you. Season 2 of Love at Any Age opens with the foundation: how to prepare for dating so it feels purposeful, effective, and stretch goal: fun.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same types of men… It’s not because you’re “bad at dating.” Even if you're in midlife or beyond, you haven't "missed your window." And as I say in my podcast "Love at Any Age", love has no expiration date.
Read moreIf you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
Read moreIf you’re heading into the New Year thinking, “I want love… but I’m not sure how to get it,” this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Love at Any Age, we’re continuing the self-love series and looking at the other big obstacles that sabotage dating: bad habits, family dynamics,…
Read moreIf finding love (or getting back out there) is going to make your New Year’s resolution list, this is your perfect moment. The holiday season will soon be over, and everyone’s in that new beginnings mindset. Are you ready?
Read more🧠 Why “I’m not enough” is a cover story — and what’s really underneath low self-esteem 🧩 The 6 most common insecurities women over 50 carry into dating 👀 The three choices you have when it comes to your body image — and which one changed everything for me ⚡ The shortcut to…
Read moreIf you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreAt the beginning of 2025, I promised myself I'd start my own podcast. I had rejected the idea of it in the past because it seemed like too much work, but THIS felt like the year!
Read moreDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
Read moreIn this season of thanks-giving, I am going to lay out an unpopular opinion: Every choice in love you’ve made in the past has been in your best interest! "What, Laurie?" You must be asking yourself if I’ve gone off the deep end.
Read moreIn response to a recent article about reasons not to date common in women over 50, I received this comment: “All valid points. What is holding me back is my weight (overweight now) and having been celibate for over 10 years, the thought of intimacy. My body has cellulite, rolls…
Read moreIf you’ve ever sworn you were done with your ex… but still find yourself checking his social media or comparing every new guy to him — this one’s for you.
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreIf you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
Read moreYou might be hesitant to jump back into the dating scene because you’ve heard stories from your girlfriends about some truly cringe-worthy moments. But here’s the good news: with a little preparation from your trusted dating coach, you can walk into any date feeling confident,…
Read moreLet’s brush our teeth before we kiss, he said on our first date, implying I had bad breath! I was mortified. But I brushed my teeth, and we had a great first kiss. That was decades ago, and now we’ve been married 27 years. When asked how I knew he was the right person, I harken…
Read moreAccording to Journal of Sex Research, 67% of heterosexual women admit to occasionally faking orgasms. And just remember, that’s the number that’s admitting it! Here’s another fun statistic. Only 20 percent of men think their partners might fake their orgasms…
Read moreIf you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
Read moreDo you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach? These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.
Read moreWhen you think about dating, one of your major concerns might be about sex. In fact, sex is what differentiates a long-term love partner from just another friend. As a dating coach, I want to give you the best chance at healthy, lasting love, and that means giving you the…
Read moreIf you’ve ever slumped onto your couch after a dating app session feeling drained, disheartened, or downright numb, you’re not alone. Dating app fatigue is real, especially for women over 50 looking for a meaningful relationship.
Read moreIf you're a mature woman trying to make sense of modern dating, you’ve probably asked yourself: What do men actually want? Are they after “just sex,” younger women (only), a casual fling, a committed relationship, or none of the above? Do older women actually know what men…
Read moreIf you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it…
Read moreEver wondered what it’s really like behind the scenes of a professional matchmaking service? I recently sat down with Jill Dunn, a seasoned matchmaker with years of experience helping single men and women find long-term relationships.
Read moreAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Read moreI have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
Read moreThere are dating services offering "meaningful connections," platforms for casual relationships, and apps boasting compatibility scores and in-depth personality tests. Some are free, others want your credit card before you even send a first message.
Read moreIf you’re post-menopausal and dating (or thinking about dating), I want you to know: you are not alone, you are not too old, too dry, too rusty, and you are not done. So many women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond are re-entering the dating world and wondering with regards to sex……
Read moreWhat do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreGood news, everyone is making the same mistakes and they are fixable. To save you boredom, frustration and heartache, don’t make these FIRST DATE mistakes:
Read moreOne of the biggest obstacles I see stopping women in midlife from finding a meaningful romantic relationship is a deeply rooted belief that they are somehow “not enough” to deserve it. That they're too old, too damaged, too late, too this or that.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!
Read moreAlmost every day I hear about the overwhelm and exhaustion women feel when engaged in online dating. Have you ever just wished you knew all the tricks to make it easier?
Read moreSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Read moreYou may think it seems shallow to care about being attractive. But it is the most important element that determines whether or not you will find a love match.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreAre you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.
Read moreBack by popular demand, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins me to unpack one of life’s toughest transitions: divorce. How do you know when it’s truly time to walk away? And if you do, how can you navigate the emotional detox needed to heal and move forward? In this episode,…
Read moreThe myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women. But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth.
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreWelcome back to Over 50 & Flourishing! In this episode, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins us again to share her 8 powerful strategies for success in relationships. From navigating dating after divorce to rebuilding self-confidence and trust in others, Laurie provides…
Read moreIf you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy…
Read moreFrom Mrs. to Ms. host Andrea Knoche talks with Laurie Gerber about the near divorce that changed her life, the Handel Method that helped her rebuild her marriage, and how she now helps others find and keep healthy love.
Read moreA few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
Read moreModern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber joins family-law attorney and A Year and a Day host Jaime Davis for a candid guide to dating after divorce: when you are ready, how to change old patterns, rebuild confidence, vet new partners, and protect children from a relationship moving too…
Read moreThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Read moreI understand holidays can: …remind you of loss …remind you of loved ones who have passed …make you feel lonely …make you feel fat …make you feel vulnerable to comparison
Read moreSo you're out there on the dating scene, and let's be honest, rejection is just part of the game. But fear not y’all, here are the tips you need to handle rejection like a pro…
Read moreGood news! Everyone is making the same dating mistakes and they are fixable! With these 5 tips!
Read moreDating requires many awkward conversations–whether it’s… ...asking for the next date ...talking about STIs…
Read moreIt’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
Read moreFor every person I coach about dating I find a secret or two hiding in the closet! It’s something they think if others knew– it would mean no chance for them…
Read moreIf I wake up and decide to make pancakes without water, milk and eggs I will definitely have something, but I can assure you, it won't be pancakes…
Read moreI’ll be frank, the patriarchy is really getting on my nerves. There are other battle cries I could sound right now, but given Labor Day tomorrow, this is the one that’s bothering me…
Read moreIn a few years, we are going to look back at our relationship with phones, and consider it barbaric. We are in denial about this. We make excuses constantly. To be very blunt, essentially, the phone is evil and it does evil things to you. And you, like a lemming, comply.
Read moreSometimes your inability to get over someone reaches the level of an addiction, which means you feel like you have no control over what your head is busy thinking about. How do you know you’re addicted?
Read moreNot everyone can afford private coaching, but everyone deserves somebody to help them debunk their favorite excuses about why relationships don’t work. Allow me to debunk the most popular 15 excuses I hear, by category….
Read moreEveryone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything. There is nothing wrong with excuses except t
Read moreOn January 1st, 2021, I made a promise to myself, and on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021, I kept that promise–for the first time in my life. I’m going to tell you all about it, as a way to talk about making your year end powerfully and meaningfully…
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