The Top 5 Reasons Women Give Up on Love
Quick question:
What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?:
I am still not over what was done to me.
I don’t trust myself to pick right.
There are no good options for me.
I couldn’t stand another heartbreak.
All of the above.
None of the above (please explain in an email back to me).
If you are happy to have given up on love, rock on. But most likely you aren’t.
You’ve just convinced yourself the struggle won’t be worth it…
…you won’t find someone good enough
…you are better off alone
…there is actually no hope
The reason you believe this is because you mistake your nasty, biased, negative inner dialogue for the voice of god, or at least the voice of reason.
Just in the past few days I have heard these “gems” from clients:
“There are literally no good, available men in Houston.”
“I will never get over my ex, how could I, he was near perfect.”
“I could not survive being hurt that way again.”
“I am incapable of being attracted to someone who treats me right.”
I want you to know that my smart, successful clients utter these words to me with a straight face, as if they are telling me FACTS!
Can you, dear reader, see how none of the above listed sentences could possibly be facts? Any scientist or lawyer could see it. Can you?
These may not be the specific exaggerations or lies you tell yourself, but can you hear how similar they are and how easy they are to believe, for the person saying them?
Regardless, it does NOT make them true.
In order to believe IN LOVE again you are going to have to stop believing the bad theories you’ve made up to protect yourself, and then managed to prove TRUE over and over, and instead consider this:
The only thing stopping you from believing in love again is FEAR.
Overcoming fears after divorce is my main jam.
I work with women every day, all day to get over their fear.
They do heal from what hurt them.
They do learn to trust themselves to pick right (and my protocols protect them).
They do change “their type.”
They do find good options.
They find they can almost completely avoid heartbreak, and if it happens again, they survive it and tell me it was worth it.
If you want to know more about the steps I take them through, watch this very short Video Series I made to give you hope. Then book me for a free consultation to see if my coaching is right for you.
Love,
