Obstacles To The Click
Remember when I talked about “the click”?
It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.
You’ve clicked into “go mode,” knowing you deserve a wonderful, caring, thoughtful partner by your side.
And you know you are going to find it! It may take a minute, but the journey will be worth it!
This might come at the end of some really deep therapy or coaching that helps you understand and forgive your parents for their terrible example.
It might come after some hard work to heal from abuse by someone you loved when you were little, older, or even recently.
It might come after admitting you’re not in control of your vice, and finally asking for and getting the help you need.
It might come after doing the introspection needed to own your part in why your last relationship failed (or all your relationships failed.)
It might come after telling the truth about what you experienced, crying it out, screaming loud and long into a pillow and finally feeling your pain thoroughly enough to release it.
It might come after forgiving yourself for what you’ve chosen in your past and really for once mothering yourself and telling yourself it is OK, you understand and you accept it all.
The good news and the bad news is that it is YOU holding you back from finding love.
And I want to help you. If you WANT help.
Do you want help? If so, just reply to this email and tell me what you think stands in the way of you having your “click.”
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Frequently Asked Questions about Getting Past Obstacles to Love
1. What does “the click” actually feel like?
It’s a mindset shift. You go from passively wishing for love to actively knowing it’s yours to claim. It’s that inner conviction that you are ready, worthy, and willing to do what it takes—without dragging your fears or past into every new interaction.
2. How do I know if I'm the one holding myself back?
If you notice patterns like constant doubt, blaming others, fear of rejection, or repeating the same relationship mistakes—chances are, the obstacle isn’t out there. It’s internal. That’s actually good news, because it means you have the power to change it.
3. What if I’m still angry or sad about my past?
That’s totally normal. Processing old pain is part of the journey. But staying stuck in it? That’s a choice. You can feel your feelings and also take action—whether that’s journaling, working with a coach, or getting therapy support. You don’t have to stay in that loop forever.
4. Can I reach “the click” if I’ve never been in a successful relationship before?
Absolutely. “The click” isn’t about your history—it’s about your readiness. If you’re willing to tell the truth, take responsibility, and show up differently, your past does not have to dictate your future.
5. How long does it take to find love after I’ve had “the click”?
There’s no set timeline, but once you’ve clicked in, everything accelerates. You’ll make better choices, communicate more clearly, and attract partners who reflect your growth. Whether it takes weeks or months, you’ll be on the right track—and you’ll know it.
Love,
