My Favorite Dream Writing Exercises
February 14, 2022
I hope you're geared up to make Valentine's Day the stuff of dreams! By now, you know that you do not need to leave such things to chance.
I’ve been trying to impress upon you how important it is to assess your purpose, and your values, when it comes to your relationship. If you haven’t already done the compare and discuss exercise with your mate, DO IT! It’s a great start to creating a jointly held dream.
Once a couple is done working through “couples competency” training with me, they have a delicious JOINT dream for their relationship that combines each of their dreams for themselves, the other, and the union.
But how do they get there?
Here’s the exercise:
- Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Imagine your heart has something to say on the subject, and tell your head to butt out for a sec.
- Imagine the kind of partner you would like to be. Open your eyes and write down: What qualities do you have? How do you show up for your mate? How do you behave and speak? What do you plan and do together?
- Close your eyes again and take another deep breath. Imagine your ideal mate. When you open your eyes and write down: What qualities do they have? How do you feel together? What are you doing?
- Close your eyes one more time and imagine the dynamic between you two. Write down: What’s it like around you? What do other people experience in your presence? What do you as a couple represent?
When you combine your notes with your mate, it might look something like this:
Then you get to write the dream together.
A dream could end up sounding like this:
Doesn’t this just make you want to write yours? Even if you’re single?
Ready to Write the Love Story You Deserve?
Don’t leave love to luck. Whether you’re solo or coupled up, now’s the time to design your dream relationship—with intention.
✅ Discover what kind of partner you truly want to be
✅ Clarify the values that matter most in love
✅ Create a vision that pulls you toward your ideal future
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Love,
Frequently Asked Questions about Dream Writing for Love
1. Do I need to be in a relationship to do this exercise?
Not at all. In fact, dream writing is incredibly powerful when you’re single. It helps you clarify what you want so you can recognize and attract it when it shows up.
2. What if my partner and I have totally different dreams?
That’s normal! The process of writing and comparing dreams reveals where you align and where you don’t. From there, you can compromise, negotiate, and co-create something you both feel excited about.
3. How often should we revisit our joint dream?
At least once every 3–6 months. Life changes, and your dream should evolve with you. Use anniversaries, birthdays, or even Valentine’s Day as a cue to revisit it.
4. What if my partner isn’t into this kind of work?
Start by doing the exercise yourself. Share your dream with them from a place of vulnerability—not as a demand, but as a gift. When they see how much clarity and connection it brings, they may want to join in.
5. What if I don’t know what I want?
That’s why we do the exercise with eyes closed and heart open. You don’t have to know everything—just start where you are. Often, the clarity comes as you write.