My Favorite Dream Writing Exercises
I hope you're geared up to make Valentine's Day the stuff of dreams! By now, you know that you do not need to leave such things to chance.
I’ve been trying to impress upon you how important it is to assess your purpose, and your values, when it comes to your relationship. If you haven’t already done the compare and discuss exercise with your mate, DO IT! It’s a great start to creating a jointly held dream.
Once a couple is done working through “couples competency” training with me, they have a delicious JOINT dream for their relationship that combines each of their dreams for themselves, the other, and the union.
But how do they get there?
Here’s the exercise:
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Imagine your heart has something to say on the subject, and tell your head to butt out for a sec.
Imagine the kind of partner you would like to be. Open your eyes and write down: What qualities do you have? How do you show up for your mate? How do you behave and speak? What do you plan and do together?
Close your eyes again and take another deep breath. Imagine your ideal mate. When you open your eyes and write down: What qualities do they have? How do you feel together? What are you doing?
Close your eyes one more time and imagine the dynamic between you two. Write down: What’s it like around you? What do other people experience in your presence? What do you as a couple represent?
When you combine your notes with your mate, it might look something like this:
Then you get to write the dream together.
A dream could end up sounding like this:
Doesn’t this just make you want to write yours? Even if you’re single?
If you join the Love-in Community, you’ll get all the coaching on how to write your dream, as well as dozens of other core competencies for being a great lover.
We meet each week, to make sure the members of the group are sustaining awesome love lives, whether dating or in LT relationships– but if you join now, you ALSO automatically get access to all the lessons we’ve covered so far, including:
How to Determine Your Love Obstacles
How to Articulate What You Are Looking for in A Relationship
How to Define Your Purpose and Values in A Relationship
How to Ask for What You Need
How to Debunk Your Own Excuses
....and much more.
