Why Good Enough Beats Perfect in the Dating Game
You keep swiping because you're sure someone better is one profile away. Here's why good enough on Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha beats hunting for a 10, and how to know by date three.
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3 Signs a Recently Divorced Man Is Ready to Date
Dating a divorced man means his former marriage, ex, and family dynamics may come with him. But those complications do not automatically mean he is unavailable. These three green flags show whether he has actually healed, knows what he wants, and can build a serious relationship…
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire does not disappear after 50. But your body, confidence, and needs may change. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, body image, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, and the conversations that make intimacy better. If you are ready to stop treating this part of life…
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
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First Dates After 50: The Complete Guide to Early Dating
If you're over 50 and standing at the edge of dating again, first dates feel enormous. More than they did at 30. More than they probably should. That's because at this age, you know things. You know what a bad relationship costs. You know how fast years go. You know you're not…
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
You matched on a dating app, or maybe a friend set you up, and the first date felt promising enough to keep going. For a minute, you let yourself hope this could be it. Then a few weeks in, something feels off. You can't quite name it, but the excitement fades faster than it…
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
If you've spent more than ten minutes on online dating apps, you may have asked yourself: "Are there any emotionally healthy people on here at all?" Fair question. Because sometimes dating apps can feel like a strange social experiment where 1 person wants a soulmate, another…
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How to Stop Settling in Relationships and Finally Date Like a Woman of Value Over 50
In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest collection of real love success stories. We dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating: knowing your worth. Sandy made a…
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6 Red Flags in Dating Over 50 You Keep Ignoring
Most of us don't miss the red flags. We see them. We just talk ourselves out of what we saw. I've been helping women in the dating pool for over 20 years, and I will tell you with total certainty: the problem is rarely that you're oblivious. The problem is that you're hopeful.…
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Changed these 3 things in Dating Profile and Was Shocked by The Results!
You know the feeling. You've spent hours on your profile. You answered the prompts, picked a few photos, filled in the basics, and hit "publish." Then... crickets. Or worse, messages from men who seem like they wandered in from a different planet. Here's what I want you to know:…
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The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself
Let me be honest with you about online dating. Most women over 50 approach it like a chore they've been assigned, at best. They download an app, spend ten minutes on a profile, upload a photo from three years ago, and wait to see what happens. Then they come to me completely…
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
I've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
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3rd Date Mistakes That Cost You Months
"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
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The Second Date Mistakes That Cost You the Relationship
You got the second date, so why does it feel like something keeps going sideways before date three? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 most common second date mistakes that quietly tank real connection, and why most people make them without even…
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
If you've been in the dating pool for any amount of time, especially in your later years, you already know this: People lie. Not always in big, dramatic, scammy ways. Not always with bad intentions. But in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways that can derail your chance…
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3 First Date Mistakes Women Over 50 Keep Making (And How to Fix Them)
"Why do I keep leaving first dates feeling like something was off ?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm laying out 3 first date mistakes I see made over and over again. They're not dramatic blunders. They're small, fixable choices that cost you second dates with people who…
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Attracting The Wrong Men After 50? The Real Reason
If you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
As a dating coach, I hear it constantly. "Men just want someone younger." "Older men just want sex." "The older guys on dating sites just want a caretaker." I get why women believe this. The dating world can feel brutal, especially after a long marriage or years on your own. But…
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Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
If you've been staring at your divorce papers, wondering whether your window for love has closed, I have someone I want you to meet. I recently sat down with Lauren Handel Zander. She's the creator of the Handel Method, my former boss, my mentor, and the woman whose framework…
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
One of the biggest mistakes women make when they first get back into dating, especially after a divorce or a long dry spell, is having sex on the 1st date, the 2nd date, or following the famous "third date rule" on the long-awaited 3rd date. I’m not judging you. I understand it.
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How (Not) To Use AI For Your Dating Profiles
I had a small breakdown recently. Not a dramatic one. Don't worry. But I was struggling. A client sent me his dating app profile, and the second I read it, I knew. ChatGPT wrote it. Not him. And something in me cracked.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
If you’re dating again after 50, the first thing to remember is this: chemistry is not the only thing that matters. You can have a good time, enjoy the small talk, even feel sparks on a first date, and still end up with a partner who is all wrong for the kind of life you…
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Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most
If you’re over 50 and spending any time in today’s dating scene—or even just warming up to the idea of dating again—I want to talk about something most people would rather avoid. I want to talk about what doesn’t work.
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
If you’re back in the dating world after 50, you already know what’s changed. There are more options, more confusion, more false starts, and more ways to lose time with someone who was never really right for you. What I want for you instead is clarity. Not eventually. Not after…
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I want anymore,” you’re not alone. That moment usually comes after a lot of heartbreaks, compromises, and the quiet realization that your love life didn’t turn out the way you once imagined.
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The Secret Reason You're Not Ready for Love: How to Detox from Your Past Relationships
If dating feels like the same movie playing over and over—same type of person, same disappointment, same ending—you’re not imagining it. And no, this is not because you’re “bad at dating.” It’s not because the dating pool dried up. It’s not because you waited too long. What’s…
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How Women Can Get Ready for Dating Sunday and Make Their Love Resolution Come True
If finding love (or getting back out there) is going to make your New Year’s resolution list, this is your perfect moment. The holiday season will soon be over, and everyone’s in that new beginnings mindset. Are you ready?
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
If you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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🚦5 Dating Mistakes You May Still Make (and Exactly How to Stop Making Them)
In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I’ll reveal the five most common mistakes women make that sabotage their dating experience—and how to fix them before they derail a great match.
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❓The Most Important Questions for Your First Dates
Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of thanks-giving, I am going to lay out an unpopular opinion: Every choice in love you’ve made in the past has been in your best interest! "What, Laurie?" You must be asking yourself if I’ve gone off the deep end.
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Body Image and Dating Over 50: What’s Really Holding You Back
In response to a recent article about reasons not to date common in women over 50, I received this comment: “All valid points. What is holding me back is my weight (overweight now) and having been celibate for over 10 years, the thought of intimacy. My body has cellulite, rolls…
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How to Answer eHarmony Prompts (Especially for Women Dating Over 50)
If you’ve dipped your toe into the modern world of dating apps, you’ve probably noticed they all have one thing in common — you have to work them if you want them to work for you.
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Stop Wasting Time on “Maybes” — Your 3-Date Strategy
Ever go on a date and think, “Hmm… maybe?” — but never quite know if you should keep going or move on? That’s exactly what today’s episode of Love at Any Age is about. I’m breaking down how to use your 3H Chart in real-world dating, and how to follow the 3-Date Strategy so you…
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
Two of my three kids are grown, so I think I can safely say now that I wish they had taken a gap year between high school and college, or during college. At least they studied abroad. The amount of worldly knowledge and independence they gained from studying abroad got me…
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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Unpopular Opinion: Men Over 50 Deserve a 2nd Chance
I don’t mean get back together with the man you divorced. I certainly don’t mean stay with someone who abuses you. I mean, in early dating—even in texting. I mean, when something rubs you the wrong way and you’re ready to call it quits before chemistry has had a chance to…
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Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?
Once women are done complaining to me about how older men are only looking for younger women, they turn around and complain that they’ll end up being an older man’s nurse, purse, or, dreadfully, both!
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
You might be hesitant to jump back into the dating scene because you’ve heard stories from your girlfriends about some truly cringe-worthy moments. But here’s the good news: with a little preparation from your trusted dating coach, you can walk into any date feeling confident,…
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
If you met online, your first date should not be a glass of wine at a noisy bar. It should be a video call. Full stop. I know, I know. It’s not the fantasy. But we’re grown-ups now. With real-time energy levels, complicated schedules, and no time (or patience) for last-minute…
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How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?
Let’s brush our teeth before we kiss, he said on our first date, implying I had bad breath! I was mortified. But I brushed my teeth, and we had a great first kiss. That was decades ago, and now we’ve been married 27 years. When asked how I knew he was the right person, I harken…
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Dating Over 50: The First 3 Dates—What to Do and the WORST Ideas to Avoid! 🚫 No More Date Fails!
Ready to stop wasting time on awkward, boring, or downright disastrous dates? 💥 Whether you're newly single or back in the dating scene over 50, your first three dates are the MOST Important! Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down: ✅ The BEST ideas for…
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3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter
When you first spot someone on a dating app and your interest is piqued, the next big step is kicking off some fun, flirty banter. Since they can’t read your body language, your online banter has to carry all the weight of making that initial spark happen.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
If you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
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How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow
Are you tired of struggling to get your dates/your partner to open up and share their thoughts and feelings? Does it sometimes feel like you're interrogating them instead of having a real conversation? Or do they accuse you of that? 😇
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Navigating Dating with Ease: 4 Tips for Soothing Anxiety
Do you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach? These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
If you’ve ever slumped onto your couch after a dating app session feeling drained, disheartened, or downright numb, you’re not alone. Dating app fatigue is real, especially for women over 50 looking for a meaningful relationship.
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
Dating apps and dating sites can open up a world of possibilities, even after 50—but only if you know how to use them wisely. As a dating coach, I see the same worst dating profile mistakes over and over again, especially from attractive women who should be having a good time…
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
So, you aren’t attracted at first, but you’re lonely, and you are looking for the love of your life! And maybe you haven't made such good choices in the past when you picked based on what you were attracted to, so….
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like stepping into a strange new world—especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time. You might feel like the dating pool has changed, the rules are unclear, and your comfort zone is nowhere to be found. But here's good news: not…
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5 Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted Forever 🚫👻
One of the main complaints I hear from daters is about BEING GHOSTED. Ghosting is a pretty new term. I know because my 80-year old dad said “huh, what’s that?” He stopped dating before computers, texting and online dating sites. You could still ghost someone in those days– but…
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Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching
If you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching: STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!
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Top 5 Reasons To Believe In Love and Romance Again
My name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!
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Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?
Ever wondered what it’s really like behind the scenes of a professional matchmaking service? I recently sat down with Jill Dunn, a seasoned matchmaker with years of experience helping single men and women find long-term relationships.
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
I have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
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Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind
There are dating services offering "meaningful connections," platforms for casual relationships, and apps boasting compatibility scores and in-depth personality tests. Some are free, others want your credit card before you even send a first message.
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
As a relationship expert, I have been studying dating over 50 for the last 20 years, and I have made an important discovery. The good news is that the biggest mistakes women make in dating can be avoided.
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The Biggest Dating Dealbreakers for Women
One moment you're excited about a potential partner, and the next, you’re wondering if you just wasted a lot of time. Welcome to the dating game! What a ride.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Fun First Date Ideas
First, let me just remind you, there will be no first date unless you have had a good time getting to know the person over text, phone call, or video chat, and feel that they meet your 3H criteria.
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
Good news, everyone is making the same mistakes and they are fixable. To save you boredom, frustration and heartache, don’t make these FIRST DATE mistakes:
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest mistake women make in midlife dating is staying for a long time with the wrong person. If you’re lonely, you are susceptible to picking badly, and then staying put, hoping it will turn into a successful relationship if you’re patient or work hard enough to fix him.
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
Almost every day I hear about the overwhelm and exhaustion women feel when engaged in online dating. Have you ever just wished you knew all the tricks to make it easier?
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First Date Signs He Likes You
So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
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What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?
The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
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You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction
Did you know? You are teaching someone how to treat you from the very first interaction. If you are wondering why someone treats you a particular way, think back to the behaviors you ignored or didn’t speak up about at the beginning.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Are you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.
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Dating over 50: What’s the 3 Date Rule? Essential Dos and Don’ts for First Second and Third Date!
Frustrated with dating over 50? According to Dating Coach and Love Expert Laurie Gerber, dating over 50 does not have to be so difficult or frustrating if you apply the “3 Date Rule”. In this video, Laurie explains the 3 Date Rule, and shares the essential dos and don’ts you…
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
If you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy…
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A Guide To Dating As A Single Mom: Happy Mother's Day
SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
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Is Honesty Really The Best Policy in Dating and Relationship?
Project Loving Myself host Sanaiyah Gurnamal asks Laurie Gerber whether honesty is really the best policy in dating—and how telling the truth from the first date can filter for more meaningful, lasting connections.
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Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!
FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
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Charm, Don’t Spook Them: 4 Essential First Date Tips Revealed! 🎃
Sometimes you unintentionally cast a scary spell on your date and send your potential mate running. Here are the tips to keep your first dates bewitching without the fright factor.
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4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date
Do you ever end up dating someone longer than you should? Do you watch your friends TRY to make it work only to entangle themselves with not-the-one for ages?
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5 Tips For A Succesful First Date
Good news! Everyone is making the same dating mistakes and they are fixable! With these 5 tips!
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Dating Hack: 5 Things You'll Learn From A Video Chat That You Need to Know
There are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
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Attention Daters: How to Get off the Apps and Into Real Life Dates
Are you frustrated by dating apps? Are you tired of endless texting but no real action? Are you confused and overwhelmed by what’s expected in dating these days?
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
It’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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