Why Good Enough Beats Perfect in the Dating Game
You keep swiping because someone better might be one profile away. Here's why good enough on Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha beats chasing perfect.
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3 Signs a Recently Divorced Man Is Ready to Date
Dating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
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First Dates After 50: The Complete Guide to Early Dating
If you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
Something feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
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How to Stop Settling in Relationships and Finally Date Like a Woman of Value Over 50
In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest collection of real love success stories. We dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating: knowing your worth. Sandy made a…
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6 Red Flags in Dating Over 50 You Keep Ignoring
You see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
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Changed these 3 things in Dating Profile and Was Shocked by The Results!
I've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
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The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself
Let me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
You're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
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3rd Date Mistakes That Cost You Months
"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
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The Second Date Mistakes That Cost You the Relationship
You got the second date, so why does it feel like something keeps going sideways before date three? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 most common second date mistakes that quietly tank real connection, and why most people make them without even…
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
People lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
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3 First Date Mistakes Women Over 50 Keep Making (And How to Fix Them)
"Why do I keep leaving first dates feeling like something was off ?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm laying out 3 first date mistakes I see made over and over again. They're not dramatic blunders. They're small, fixable choices that cost you second dates with people who…
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Sex by the Third Date? What the “3 Date Rule” is REALLY About
Sex on the third date? Is the “3 date rule” actually still a thing after 50?
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Attracting The Wrong Men After 50? The Real Reason
If you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
I coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
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Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
Worried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
I'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
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The Right Questions for Date 1, 2 & 3 — And the Answers That Make or Break Attraction (After 50)
One of the biggest challenges in early dating? Knowing what to ask… and when.
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How (Not) To Use AI For Your Dating Profiles
A client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
Dating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
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Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most
If you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
You do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
After 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
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The Secret Reason You're Not Ready for Love: How to Detox from Your Past Relationships
If dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
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How Women Can Get Ready for Dating Sunday and Make Their Love Resolution Come True
If finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
Dating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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🚦5 Dating Mistakes You May Still Make (and Exactly How to Stop Making Them)
In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I’ll reveal the five most common mistakes women make that sabotage their dating experience—and how to fix them before they derail a great match.
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❓The Most Important Questions for Your First Dates
Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
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Body Image and Dating Over 50: What’s Really Holding You Back
A reader wrote me her weight and years of celibacy were stopping her. I tackle body image and dating with honesty and compassion.
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How to Answer eHarmony Prompts (Especially for Women Dating Over 50)
eHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
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Stop Wasting Time on “Maybes” — Your 3-Date Strategy
Ever go on a date and think, “Hmm… maybe?” — but never quite know if you should keep going or move on? That’s exactly what today’s episode of Love at Any Age is about. I’m breaking down how to use your 3H Chart in real-world dating, and how to follow the 3-Date Strategy so you…
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
I wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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Unpopular Opinion: Men Over 50 Deserve a 2nd Chance
I don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
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Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?
Dating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
Cringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
Met online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
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How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?
On our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
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Dating Over 50: The First 3 Dates—What to Do and the WORST Ideas to Avoid! 🚫 No More Date Fails!
Ready to stop wasting time on awkward, boring, or downright disastrous dates? 💥 Whether you're newly single or back in the dating scene over 50, your first three dates are the MOST Important! Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down: ✅ The BEST ideas for…
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3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter
Good banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
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How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow
Feel like you're pulling teeth to get a man talking? The secret isn't more questions. It's real listening, and it makes you more attractive.
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Navigating Dating with Ease: 4 Tips for Soothing Anxiety
If dating feels like a tightrope over lava, you're not broken. These 4 tips helped my clients calm dating anxiety and enjoy the process again.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
Not attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
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5 Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted Forever 🚫👻
Being ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.
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Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching
Ghosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
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Top 5 Reasons To Believe In Love and Romance Again
Finding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
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Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?
Curious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
The right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
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Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind
As a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
After 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
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The Biggest Dating Dealbreakers for Women
Staying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Fun First Date Ideas
Before a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
First dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
I hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.
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First Date Signs He Likes You
So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
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What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?
The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
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You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction
From the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Exhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
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Dating over 50: What’s the 3 Date Rule? Essential Dos and Don’ts for First Second and Third Date!
Frustrated with dating over 50? According to Dating Coach and Love Expert Laurie Gerber, dating over 50 does not have to be so difficult or frustrating if you apply the “3 Date Rule”. In this video, Laurie explains the 3 Date Rule, and shares the essential dos and don’ts you…
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
Scammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
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A Guide To Dating As A Single Mom: Happy Mother's Day
SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
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Is Honesty Really The Best Policy in Dating and Relationship?
Project Loving Myself host Sanaiyah Gurnamal asks Laurie Gerber whether honesty is really the best policy in dating—and how telling the truth from the first date can filter for more meaningful, lasting connections.
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Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!
FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
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Charm, Don’t Spook Them: 4 Essential First Date Tips Revealed! 🎃
Don't let first-date nerves turn you into someone you're not. Here are four tips to keep your charm and lose the spooky factor.
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4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date
Dating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
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5 Tips For A Succesful First Date
Good news! Everyone is making the same dating mistakes and they are fixable! With these 5 tips!
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Dating Hack: 5 Things You'll Learn From A Video Chat That You Need to Know
There are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
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Attention Daters: How to Get off the Apps and Into Real Life Dates
Tired of endless texting and no real dates? Watch my talk with Alison Wellington, who gives exact texts to get off the apps.
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
Never assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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