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When a man says he is ready but pulls away as things get real, the answer is rarely in his words. Laurie Gerber talks with dating coach Jonathon Aslay about the self-love deficit that can make emotional availability feel impossible. They explore the questions, patterns, and…
Read moreThe dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
Read moreIf you've spent more than ten minutes on online dating apps, you may have asked yourself: "Are there any emotionally healthy people on here at all?" Fair question. Because sometimes dating apps can feel like a strange social experiment where 1 person wants a soulmate, another…
Read moreHere's a story I've heard a hundred times. A woman finally gets out of an unhappy marriage. She promises herself: this time, things will be different. She gets back in the dating game, meets someone new, and then, slowly, a familiar feeling creeps in. Same fights. Same dynamic.…
Read moreI've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
Read more"If lots of self-awareness were enough, wouldn't you have fixed this by now?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm sitting down with therapist Dawn Wiggins to talk about the gap between knowing your love patterns and actually changing them. She said one thing that totally…
Read moreIf you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
Read moreOne of the biggest mistakes women make when they first get back into dating, especially after a divorce or a long dry spell, is having sex on the 1st date, the 2nd date, or following the famous "third date rule" on the long-awaited 3rd date. I’m not judging you. I understand it.
Read more“I missed my chance.” “I have to start all over now.” Maybe you don't say it out loud, but you think it. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I'm going to argue for hope.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreChemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
Read moreOne of the biggest reasons women grow tired of online dating is simple: it can feel like a waste of time. Based on years of work as a dating coach, I can tell you this: only a portion of the people on dating apps are genuinely ready for a committed relationship or a long-term…
Read moreIf you’re back in the dating world after 50, you already know what’s changed. There are more options, more confusion, more false starts, and more ways to lose time with someone who was never really right for you. What I want for you instead is clarity. Not eventually. Not after…
Read moreIf dating feels like the same movie playing over and over—same type of person, same disappointment, same ending—you’re not imagining it. And no, this is not because you’re “bad at dating.” It’s not because the dating pool dried up. It’s not because you waited too long. What’s…
Read moreIf you keep dating the same types of men… It’s not because you’re “bad at dating.” Even if you're in midlife or beyond, you haven't "missed your window." And as I say in my podcast "Love at Any Age", love has no expiration date.
Read moreIf you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
Read moreIf you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreAre you tired of spinning your wheels in dating? Feeling like every man is the same guy… in a different shirt?
Read moreDo you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach? These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreOne of the main complaints I hear from daters is about BEING GHOSTED. Ghosting is a pretty new term. I know because my 80-year old dad said “huh, what’s that?” He stopped dating before computers, texting and online dating sites. You could still ghost someone in those days– but…
Read moreIf you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching: STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make in midlife dating is staying for a long time with the wrong person. If you’re lonely, you are susceptible to picking badly, and then staying put, hoping it will turn into a successful relationship if you’re patient or work hard enough to fix him.
Read moreYou may think it seems shallow to care about being attractive. But it is the most important element that determines whether or not you will find a love match.
Read moreA few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
Read moreThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Read moreIt’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
Read moreWhat we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
Read moreA lot of you picked for the wrong reasons. Maybe the person satisfied one, or two, but not all three, and you thought you couldn’t have it all. But maybe you still can–with a little bit of work!
Read moreSometimes your inability to get over someone reaches the level of an addiction, which means you feel like you have no control over what your head is busy thinking about. How do you know you’re addicted?
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