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When a man says he is ready but pulls away as things get real, the answer is rarely in his words. Laurie Gerber talks with dating coach Jonathon Aslay about the self-love deficit that can make emotional availability feel impossible. They explore the questions, patterns, and…
Read moreYour profile can be full of good intentions and still disappear in the crowd. Laurie breaks down three practical changes you can make today, from choosing better photos to writing a bio that gives the right person a reason to lean in. You’ll also see why widening your search…
Read moreIf you keep having the same fight, or you swallow what you need to say because you are afraid of scaring him off, communication is probably the real issue. In this guide, I break down how to be honest earlier, listen without preparing your defense, apologize in a way that…
Read moreAre your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single? In this mailbag episode, Laurie answers six real listener questions about trauma and attraction, “wife appliance” fears, eight-out-of-ten chemistry, height and income filters, introvert compatibility, and…
Read moreDating a divorced man means his former marriage, ex, and family dynamics may come with him. But those complications do not automatically mean he is unavailable. These three green flags show whether he has actually healed, knows what he wants, and can build a serious relationship…
Read moreDesire does not disappear after 50. But your body, confidence, and needs may change. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, body image, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, and the conversations that make intimacy better. If you are ready to stop treating this part of life…
Read moreFrom Mrs. to Ms. host Andrea Knoche talks with Laurie Gerber about three real midlife dating dilemmas: when his texts suddenly slow down, when his ex is still in the picture, and when he won't put a label on the relationship.
Read moreI have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
Read moreIf you're over 50 and standing at the edge of dating again, first dates feel enormous. More than they did at 30. More than they probably should. That's because at this age, you know things. You know what a bad relationship costs. You know how fast years go. You know you're not…
Read moreYou matched on a dating app, or maybe a friend set you up, and the first date felt promising enough to keep going. For a minute, you let yourself hope this could be it. Then a few weeks in, something feels off. You can't quite name it, but the excitement fades faster than it…
Read moreThe dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
Read moreIn today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Silke Schwarzkopf, creator and host of Second Act TV, who left a 25-year marriage at 50 and made every classic midlife dating mistake there is. After 1 internal shift, she met Paul on Match.com, and they have been together for…
Read moreIf you've spent more than ten minutes on online dating apps, you may have asked yourself: "Are there any emotionally healthy people on here at all?" Fair question. Because sometimes dating apps can feel like a strange social experiment where 1 person wants a soulmate, another…
Read moreIf you’ve ever taken “I’m over her” at face value… and later wished you hadn’t, this one’s for you. In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere, relationship expert, author, and coach of men, to talk through 3 behavioral signs that tell you whether a…
Read moreThe number one concern I hear from many daters is: there are not enough eligible people where I live. My heart goes out to you. It's enough to make you give up altogether. On the other hand, I meet happy couples every day who started (or even remained) in a long-distance…
Read moreIn today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date and author of 3 books, including her newest collection of real love success stories. We dig into one of the most misunderstood concepts in dating: knowing your worth. Sandy made a…
Read moreMost of us don't miss the red flags. We see them. We just talk ourselves out of what we saw. I've been helping women in the dating pool for over 20 years, and I will tell you with total certainty: the problem is rarely that you're oblivious. The problem is that you're hopeful.…
Read moreStill feeling like men are from Mars? You are not alone! In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m with dating expert Lisa Copeland to answer what men are bringing into new relationships, and why they feel rejected by us even when we're meaning well.
Read moreYou know the feeling. You've spent hours on your profile. You answered the prompts, picked a few photos, filled in the basics, and hit "publish." Then... crickets. Or worse, messages from men who seem like they wandered in from a different planet. Here's what I want you to know:…
Read moreI was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
Read moreHere's a story I've heard a hundred times. A woman finally gets out of an unhappy marriage. She promises herself: this time, things will be different. She gets back in the dating game, meets someone new, and then, slowly, a familiar feeling creeps in. Same fights. Same dynamic.…
Read moreHow many dates in before you realize you've stopped looking at other profiles? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m addressing the "are we exclusive" talk. I know it's scary. I cover how the early assumption of monogamy is costing you, how to know if you’re ready for it, and…
Read moreLet me be honest with you about online dating. Most women over 50 approach it like a chore they've been assigned, at best. They download an app, spend ten minutes on a profile, upload a photo from three years ago, and wait to see what happens. Then they come to me completely…
Read moreIs your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
Read moreI've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
Read more"Three dates in, you like him... so why are you avoiding the exact conversations that would tell you if he's actually right for you?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 biggest third-date mistakes I see smart people make over and over, plus the exact…
Read moreIn my family, there is a famous story about my grandmother Sylvia, who came to the US from Poland in the 1930s. Sylvia was notoriously skeptical, untrusting, and frugal. She could spend hours in a store examining potential purchases and still leave with nothing. No decision came…
Read moreI recently joined Lori Dube and Constance Bauer on their wonderful podcast, We Ain’t Dead Yet, for an episode called All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60.
Read moreYou got the second date, so why does it feel like something keeps going sideways before date three? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm breaking down the 3 most common second date mistakes that quietly tank real connection, and why most people make them without even…
Read moreIf you've been in the dating pool for any amount of time, especially in your later years, you already know this: People lie. Not always in big, dramatic, scammy ways. Not always with bad intentions. But in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways that can derail your chance…
Read more"Why do I keep leaving first dates feeling like something was off ?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm laying out 3 first date mistakes I see made over and over again. They're not dramatic blunders. They're small, fixable choices that cost you second dates with people who…
Read moreDating over 50 can feel like stepping into a whole new world. And not the cute "new adventure" kind of way. More like: Wait, what is this? Why does everything feel harder?
Read more"If lots of self-awareness were enough, wouldn't you have fixed this by now?" In today's Love at Any Age episode, I'm sitting down with therapist Dawn Wiggins to talk about the gap between knowing your love patterns and actually changing them. She said one thing that totally…
Read moreIf you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
Read moreYou're texting. You're going on dates. You're staying hopeful. And nothing is actually moving. I call it: action without traction. In today's Love at Any Age episode, I break down the 5 reasons your dating life isn't progressing. If you're putting in the work and still not…
Read moreAs a dating coach, I hear it constantly. "Men just want someone younger." "Older men just want sex." "The older guys on dating sites just want a caretaker." I get why women believe this. The dating world can feel brutal, especially after a long marriage or years on your own. But…
Read moreIf you've been staring at your divorce papers, wondering whether your window for love has closed, I have someone I want you to meet. I recently sat down with Lauren Handel Zander. She's the creator of the Handel Method, my former boss, my mentor, and the woman whose framework…
Read moreOne of the biggest mistakes women make when they first get back into dating, especially after a divorce or a long dry spell, is having sex on the 1st date, the 2nd date, or following the famous "third date rule" on the long-awaited 3rd date. I’m not judging you. I understand it.
Read moreHe talks to strangers on airplanes. He opens up to colleagues he barely knows. But with you? One-word answers. "Why is it so easy for him to talk to someone else?"
Read moreI hear this every week. “Laurie, where are the good men?” "I can't seem to find any." "I don't think there are any good ones left." "All the good ones are taken." "I've been on the dating apps, and there are none there. Where are they?"
Read moreYou felt the shift. You told yourself it was nothing. You texted more. "Why does this keep happening to me, and what am I missing?"
Read moreI am going to say the thing most women over 50 are thinking but not saying out loud: I am not sure I can have a great sex life anymore. Maybe you have quietly decided that the chapter is closed. Maybe the physical changes, the low libido, the vaginal dryness, the hot flashes,…
Read more“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
Read moreI had a small breakdown recently. Not a dramatic one. Don't worry. But I was struggling. A client sent me his dating app profile, and the second I read it, I knew. ChatGPT wrote it. Not him. And something in me cracked.
Read moreWhat men say—over and over—is that women tend to speak in signals instead of just asking directly for what they want. And here’s the uncomfortable truth: most women aren’t doing that on purpose. They’re doing it because they don’t actually know what they want yet.
Read more“I missed my chance.” “I have to start all over now.” Maybe you don't say it out loud, but you think it. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I'm going to argue for hope.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreChemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
Read moreRomantic rejection is part of life. It always has been. But that doesn’t mean rejection hurts less just because you’re older or wiser. What changes after 50 is the emotional reaction it can trigger and the meaning we sometimes attach to it.
Read moreIf you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
Read moreFirst of all, there is no ONE “the one.” Second of all, this notion that your "one" got away, whether because: He picked someone else You picked someone else He had an insurmountable issue He died As a relationship coach, I can tell you: It just isn’t true.
Read moreOne of the biggest reasons women grow tired of online dating is simple: it can feel like a waste of time. Based on years of work as a dating coach, I can tell you this: only a portion of the people on dating apps are genuinely ready for a committed relationship or a long-term…
Read moreIf you’re dating again after 50, the first thing to remember is this: chemistry is not the only thing that matters. You can have a good time, enjoy the small talk, even feel sparks on a first date, and still end up with a partner who is all wrong for the kind of life you…
Read moreToday’s conversation on Love at Any Age is a spicy one, and it's for people over 50 who still want intimacy, pleasure, and sex in their love lives. I’m joined by the extraordinary Joan Price, an internationally recognized expert on sex in later life, and at 82, she is living…
Read moreIf you’re over 50 and spending any time in today’s dating scene—or even just warming up to the idea of dating again—I want to talk about something most people would rather avoid. I want to talk about what doesn’t work.
Read moreIf you’re back in the dating world after 50, you already know what’s changed. There are more options, more confusion, more false starts, and more ways to lose time with someone who was never really right for you. What I want for you instead is clarity. Not eventually. Not after…
Read moreIf you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I want anymore,” you’re not alone. That moment usually comes after a lot of heartbreaks, compromises, and the quiet realization that your love life didn’t turn out the way you once imagined.
Read moreIf dating feels like the same movie playing over and over—same type of person, same disappointment, same ending—you’re not imagining it. And no, this is not because you’re “bad at dating.” It’s not because the dating pool dried up. It’s not because you waited too long. What’s…
Read moreIn today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
Read moreToday’s episode is the season finale of Love at Any Age — and I’m doing something new. I had a guest on the podcast: dating coach Evan Marc Katz. And I’ll be honest… I came into this conversation feeling more than a little fired up.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same types of men… It’s not because you’re “bad at dating.” Even if you're in midlife or beyond, you haven't "missed your window." And as I say in my podcast "Love at Any Age", love has no expiration date.
Read moreIf you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
Read moreIf finding love (or getting back out there) is going to make your New Year’s resolution list, this is your perfect moment. The holiday season will soon be over, and everyone’s in that new beginnings mindset. Are you ready?
Read moreIf you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreAt the beginning of 2025, I promised myself I'd start my own podcast. I had rejected the idea of it in the past because it seemed like too much work, but THIS felt like the year!
Read moreDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
Read moreIn this season of thanks-giving, I am going to lay out an unpopular opinion: Every choice in love you’ve made in the past has been in your best interest! "What, Laurie?" You must be asking yourself if I’ve gone off the deep end.
Read moreDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…
Read moreIn response to a recent article about reasons not to date common in women over 50, I received this comment: “All valid points. What is holding me back is my weight (overweight now) and having been celibate for over 10 years, the thought of intimacy. My body has cellulite, rolls…
Read moreIf you’ve dipped your toe into the modern world of dating apps, you’ve probably noticed they all have one thing in common — you have to work them if you want them to work for you.
Read moreDo the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
Read moreTwo of my three kids are grown, so I think I can safely say now that I wish they had taken a gap year between high school and college, or during college. At least they studied abroad. The amount of worldly knowledge and independence they gained from studying abroad got me…
Read moreFor every woman in the 50+ age group who responds to one of my articles, hopeful about dating again, an equal number write back with a heavy sigh: “Never again. I’m done.”
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreI don’t mean get back together with the man you divorced. I certainly don’t mean stay with someone who abuses you. I mean, in early dating—even in texting. I mean, when something rubs you the wrong way and you’re ready to call it quits before chemistry has had a chance to…
Read moreI get this a lot as a dating coach: Women send me their online dating profile to analyze—as if I could tell them whether it’s “good” or “bad” without knowing them first. That’s not how it works.
Read moreOnce women are done complaining to me about how older men are only looking for younger women, they turn around and complain that they’ll end up being an older man’s nurse, purse, or, dreadfully, both!
Read moreIf you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
Read moreYou might be hesitant to jump back into the dating scene because you’ve heard stories from your girlfriends about some truly cringe-worthy moments. But here’s the good news: with a little preparation from your trusted dating coach, you can walk into any date feeling confident,…
Read moreFrom Mrs. to Ms. host Andrea Knoche welcomes Laurie Gerber back for a lively, no holds barred chat about dating after 50, the marriage saving secrets behind the Handel Method, and why Laurie never sugarcoats her advice.
Read moreOnce upon a time, I used to coach people in weekend workshops. About 15 people would sit in a circle in my living room and talk about their secrets and lies. The premise of the retreat was: “the truth will set you free.” I did a whole TedX talk about it.
Read moreYou finally open up the dating app, and there it is—the blank box next to "What makes you unique?" You freeze. Is this the best place to share your love of New York bagels? Is it too soon to mention your three divorces and obsession with Candy Crush?
Read more“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
Read moreLet’s brush our teeth before we kiss, he said on our first date, implying I had bad breath! I was mortified. But I brushed my teeth, and we had a great first kiss. That was decades ago, and now we’ve been married 27 years. When asked how I knew he was the right person, I harken…
Read moreAccording to Journal of Sex Research, 67% of heterosexual women admit to occasionally faking orgasms. And just remember, that’s the number that’s admitting it! Here’s another fun statistic. Only 20 percent of men think their partners might fake their orgasms…
Read moreReady to stop wasting time on awkward, boring, or downright disastrous dates? 💥 Whether you're newly single or back in the dating scene over 50, your first three dates are the MOST Important! Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down: ✅ The BEST ideas for…
Read moreWhen you first spot someone on a dating app and your interest is piqued, the next big step is kicking off some fun, flirty banter. Since they can’t read your body language, your online banter has to carry all the weight of making that initial spark happen.
Read moreHave you ever found yourself at the end of an exhausting fight shocked that, after investing in someone feeling loved, they felt, well, just the opposite?
Read moreIf you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
Read moreAre you tired of struggling to get your dates/your partner to open up and share their thoughts and feelings? Does it sometimes feel like you're interrogating them instead of having a real conversation? Or do they accuse you of that? 😇
Read moreAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Read moreDo you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach? These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.
Read more“Is it me?” That’s the question many women ask when ED (erectile dysfunction) shows up in the bedroom—whether they've been with a partner for decades or are just starting a new relationship.
Read moreWhen you think about dating, one of your major concerns might be about sex. In fact, sex is what differentiates a long-term love partner from just another friend. As a dating coach, I want to give you the best chance at healthy, lasting love, and that means giving you the…
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreIf you’ve ever slumped onto your couch after a dating app session feeling drained, disheartened, or downright numb, you’re not alone. Dating app fatigue is real, especially for women over 50 looking for a meaningful relationship.
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreDating apps and dating sites can open up a world of possibilities, even after 50—but only if you know how to use them wisely. As a dating coach, I see the same worst dating profile mistakes over and over again, especially from attractive women who should be having a good time…
Read moreSo, you aren’t attracted at first, but you’re lonely, and you are looking for the love of your life! And maybe you haven't made such good choices in the past when you picked based on what you were attracted to, so….
Read moreDating after divorce can feel like stepping into a strange new world—especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time. You might feel like the dating pool has changed, the rules are unclear, and your comfort zone is nowhere to be found. But here's good news: not…
Read moreOne of the main complaints I hear from daters is about BEING GHOSTED. Ghosting is a pretty new term. I know because my 80-year old dad said “huh, what’s that?” He stopped dating before computers, texting and online dating sites. You could still ghost someone in those days– but…
Read moreIf you're a mature woman trying to make sense of modern dating, you’ve probably asked yourself: What do men actually want? Are they after “just sex,” younger women (only), a casual fling, a committed relationship, or none of the above? Do older women actually know what men…
Read moreIf you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching: STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!
Read moreMy name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!
Read moreIf you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it…
Read moreEver wondered what it’s really like behind the scenes of a professional matchmaking service? I recently sat down with Jill Dunn, a seasoned matchmaker with years of experience helping single men and women find long-term relationships.
Read moreQuick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
Read moreAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Read moreIn this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
Read moreI have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
Read moreThere are dating services offering "meaningful connections," platforms for casual relationships, and apps boasting compatibility scores and in-depth personality tests. Some are free, others want your credit card before you even send a first message.
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber returns to help us unpack the emotional weight of the mother-daughter dynamic. Through her “Pedestal Ditch Perspective,” we’ll explore how we see our moms—either as flawless or flawed beyond repair—and how those extremes keep us stuck. Let’s talk…
Read moreIf you’re post-menopausal and dating (or thinking about dating), I want you to know: you are not alone, you are not too old, too dry, too rusty, and you are not done. So many women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond are re-entering the dating world and wondering with regards to sex……
Read moreWhat do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
Read moreMy sense of priorities in relationships has changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
Read moreFirst of all, warning: this blog is for women. If you're a man and reading this, you may get some value and some chuckles, but the rules and ideas are really different for men. Maybe I'll write that one next. Now, ladies, if your flirt game is rusty, good news: you don’t need…
Read moreAs a relationship expert, I have been studying dating over 50 for the last 20 years, and I have made an important discovery. The good news is that the biggest mistakes women make in dating can be avoided.
Read moreOne moment you're excited about a potential partner, and the next, you’re wondering if you just wasted a lot of time. Welcome to the dating game! What a ride.
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreA couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
Read moreFirst, let me just remind you, there will be no first date unless you have had a good time getting to know the person over text, phone call, or video chat, and feel that they meet your 3H criteria.
Read moreSuccess isn’t just about milestones — it’s about alignment. Because how we live, love, and lead matters just as much as what we achieve.
Read moreGood news, everyone is making the same mistakes and they are fixable. To save you boredom, frustration and heartache, don’t make these FIRST DATE mistakes:
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make in midlife dating is staying for a long time with the wrong person. If you’re lonely, you are susceptible to picking badly, and then staying put, hoping it will turn into a successful relationship if you’re patient or work hard enough to fix him.
Read moreHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Read moreOne of the biggest obstacles I see stopping women in midlife from finding a meaningful romantic relationship is a deeply rooted belief that they are somehow “not enough” to deserve it. That they're too old, too damaged, too late, too this or that.
Read moreSome men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!
Read moreAlmost every day I hear about the overwhelm and exhaustion women feel when engaged in online dating. Have you ever just wished you knew all the tricks to make it easier?
Read moreSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Read moreYou may think it seems shallow to care about being attractive. But it is the most important element that determines whether or not you will find a love match.
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreDid you know? You are teaching someone how to treat you from the very first interaction. If you are wondering why someone treats you a particular way, think back to the behaviors you ignored or didn’t speak up about at the beginning.
Read moreAre you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.
Read moreFeaturing renowned life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, the episode delves into handling breakups, dating post-divorce, and the importance of honesty and self-discovery. Highlights include Gerber's advice on the pitfalls of rushing into new relationships, the…
Read moreBack by popular demand, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins me to unpack one of life’s toughest transitions: divorce. How do you know when it’s truly time to walk away? And if you do, how can you navigate the emotional detox needed to heal and move forward? In this episode,…
Read moreThe myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women. But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth.
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreWelcome back to Over 50 & Flourishing! In this episode, relationship expert Laurie Gerber joins us again to share her 8 powerful strategies for success in relationships. From navigating dating after divorce to rebuilding self-confidence and trust in others, Laurie provides…
Read moreIf you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy…
Read moreIn this uplifting episode, we dive into the exciting opportunity of visualizing and designing your new post-divorce life. I know how overwhelming it can be to think about the future when you're going through a major life transition, but today we’re flipping that script. We'll…
Read moreIf you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.
Read moreHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Read moreMom Essentials host Angie Weber talks with Laurie Gerber about the obstacles people face in modern dating, from starting over after divorce to navigating apps, intimacy, and the work of creating meaningful connection.
Read moreThe Divorce to Bliss Podcast host Rachel S. Ruby talks with Laurie Gerber about why strong parental partnerships after divorce matter for children of every age—and how cooperative co-parents can model healthier relationships.
Read moreShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Read moreFather’s Day can certainly generate strong feelings about the relationship we either have or had with Dad. A father is a daughter’s first and most influential love. That relationship plays a critical role in a woman’s choice of romantic partners and how she sees herself.…
Read moreA few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
Read moreWellegant Woman host Karen Viesta talks with Laurie Gerber about the lies that keep women from the love they want—and a practical three-step process for creating more honesty, passion, pleasure, and connection in midlife.
Read moreUnmatch Me Now host Idan sits down with Laurie Gerber to talk about dating after 50, the promises and pitfalls of dating apps, radical honesty, and balancing the head, the heart, and physical attraction.
Read moreThe Rewrite host Wendy Sloane talks with Laurie Gerber about the near-divorce that changed her life, the Handel Method, and two decades spent helping people rewrite the patterns that shape love and relationships.
Read moreI had the privilege of sitting down and talking with Laurie Gerber about Dating After Divorce.
Read moreThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Read moreSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Read moreProject Loving Myself host Sanaiyah Gurnamal asks Laurie Gerber whether honesty is really the best policy in dating—and how telling the truth from the first date can filter for more meaningful, lasting connections.
Read moreWhat happens if you are not OVER your divorce? You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
Read moreModern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
Read moreWondering if there's an age limit to love and intimacy? Navigating relationships after 50 can feel unfamiliar and challenging. Finding love and connection in later years, including identifying compatible partners and maintaining open communication, comes with challenges. It…
Read moreRelationship coach Laurie Gerber joins family-law attorney and A Year and a Day host Jaime Davis for a candid guide to dating after divorce: when you are ready, how to change old patterns, rebuild confidence, vet new partners, and protect children from a relationship moving too…
Read moreRemember when I talked about “the click”? It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.
Read moreWhat’s the click? It’s that moment when you go from being a victim of your past failures in love to being the author of a brave new chapter of love-hunting!
Read moreThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Read moreIt’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step! You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk. So, make sure you’ve done your homework!
Read moreIf you are looking for New Year’s resolutions for your love life, take this quiz! Are you showing up the way you want to show up? If not, this quiz will give you some very good ideas for improvement.
Read moreHere is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
Read moreNo two people want the same thing from their holiday or vacation. Have you discussed what’s most important? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes:
Read moreAre you headed into another holiday season without a "special someone" by your side? Wouldn’t it be easier to handle your family’s craziness if you had a partner with you? At the very least it might get them focused on something other than your singleness!
Read moreA lot of people make the mistake of thinking that their partner needs to be the same as them–similar interests, similar finances, family situation and maybe even the SAME in some areas like: level of education, race, politics, religion…
Read moreSometimes you unintentionally cast a scary spell on your date and send your potential mate running. Here are the tips to keep your first dates bewitching without the fright factor.
Read moreDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Read moreSo you're out there on the dating scene, and let's be honest, rejection is just part of the game. But fear not y’all, here are the tips you need to handle rejection like a pro…
Read moreWhy is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
Read moreOne of the top 3 things couples fight about is: division of labor in the household! Successful couples uncover invisible labor, and acknowledge and appreciate it--and might choose to change some of the assigned responsibilities.
Read moreDo you ever end up dating someone longer than you should? Do you watch your friends TRY to make it work only to entangle themselves with not-the-one for ages?
Read moreGood news! Everyone is making the same dating mistakes and they are fixable! With these 5 tips!
Read moreEveryone makes the same mistakes with their profiles! Yes, there is a right way to design your online dating profile to make your dating experience more fun and effective…
Read moreIf you’ve been following me on Insta you know I am not just about you finding your person, but I’m all about you keeping the love alive, hot and healthy. Are you frustrated that your partner can’t provide certain things you want?
Read moreThere are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
Read moreAre you frustrated by dating apps? Are you tired of endless texting but no real action? Are you confused and overwhelmed by what’s expected in dating these days?
Read moreDating requires many awkward conversations–whether it’s… ...asking for the next date ...talking about STIs…
Read moreIt’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
Read moreI was the worst! Meaning, I got a lot of feedback that I was a bad listener. So it’s from experience I can tell you, excuses are what keeps the bad behavior in place…
Read moreHere is another example of a bad apology. If you missed last week’s example…
Read moreThe format of a good apology should go like this…
Read moreYou should know this much if you've been following me for a while: Your partner has to be satisfying the needs of your HEAD, HEART AND HOO-HA in order for you to be/stay happy in love..
Read moreSo many people feel their partners don’t listen well. Here is what doesn’t work to inspire listening…
Read moreIn this video, Laurie Gerber shares some tips on how to practice happiness and create better relationships. She talks about the importance of the truth, communicating effectively and being present in the moment. By following these tips, you can create more fulfilling and lasting…
Read moreLove is the only game in town. In this podcast you’ll hear how to play the game…
Read moreWhen I first tried to stop my bad habit of interrupting, it was VERY hard! I knew it didn’t help my relationship and was considered socially wrong, but I didn’t find I had the willpower to stop…
Read moreThis conversation is full of A-HA moments, tips, and straight up great advice to keep your love connections fresh, tight, and lasting.
Read moreDoes your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
Read moreI’ll be frank, the patriarchy is really getting on my nerves. There are other battle cries I could sound right now, but given Labor Day tomorrow, this is the one that’s bothering me…
Read moreDo people get defensive when you give them negative feedback? Here are 4 tips on how to position negative feedback so the person listening can really hear it!
Read moreWhen you are giving negative feedback, do you own your part first? If you want the person to whom you are complaining to care about your experience…
Read moreYep, we've been practicing our drills and improving our speaking and listening skills. There are 3 important takeaways we've gathered from this work.
Read moreIn this podcast, you’ll get the details about putting the “fun” in marriage fundamentals, using sex dates (ooh la la) as an example, and the magic of lube and candles, and finally, an explanation of why if I were a fictional character, I'd be a fairy godmother.
Read moreHas anyone ever accused you of: being a bad listener being “checked out” interrupting not really getting them losing focus while they are speaking…
Read moreIn a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
Read moreVacations are something many of us eagerly look forward to, but they can bring a great deal of stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out in your planning, like I do, to ensure you get what you want and everyone else is happy too!
Read moreI am writing to people with fathers or without fathers. Imagine the father you wish you’d had. What’s he like? What traits does he have? How does he talk to you, think about you, behold you?…
Read moreQuick, without thinking hard, name the top three fights you always have with your partner. My husband and I fight about money. I am more nervous and controlling, he is more trusting and generous. We fight when we’re hosting guests. Again, he thinks everything will turn out fine.…
Read moreIn a few years, we are going to look back at our relationship with phones, and consider it barbaric. We are in denial about this. We make excuses constantly. To be very blunt, essentially, the phone is evil and it does evil things to you. And you, like a lemming, comply.
Read morePopcorning: Interrupting your partner (popping in) to get attention on whatever you want to discuss. Distinguishing feature: it could happen at any time! Couples have been complaining about “popcorning'' for years but it got WAY worse in the pandemic when we were all living on…
Read moreIt’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
Read moreOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Read moreA lot of you picked for the wrong reasons. Maybe the person satisfied one, or two, but not all three, and you thought you couldn’t have it all. But maybe you still can–with a little bit of work!
Read moreIt’s scary to rip off a bandaid. That's why you just have to commit and do it all at once. It stings for a few seconds, and then it’s over –the wound can breathe, and do its last steps of healing! Giving your partner feedback about something that is not working is a lot like…
Read moreHave you ever asked yourself if you have integrity when it comes to love? Most people don’t think of integrity the way the Handel Group lays it out. The Handel Method™ teaches that there are 3 levels or forms of integrity…
Read moreSometimes your inability to get over someone reaches the level of an addiction, which means you feel like you have no control over what your head is busy thinking about. How do you know you’re addicted?
Read moreNot everyone can afford private coaching, but everyone deserves somebody to help them debunk their favorite excuses about why relationships don’t work. Allow me to debunk the most popular 15 excuses I hear, by category….
Read moreI have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
Read moreEveryone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything. There is nothing wrong with excuses except t
Read moreLast week, I told you I’d explain how my sense of priorities in relationship changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
Read moreI promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
Read more"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
Read moreThe only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it. Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…
Read moreOn January 1st, 2021, I made a promise to myself, and on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021, I kept that promise–for the first time in my life. I’m going to tell you all about it, as a way to talk about making your year end powerfully and meaningfully…
Read moreNo two people conceive of vacations the same way. No two people want the same thing from their holiday. Have you discussed what’s most important to your partner, in a calm moment? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes…
Read moreThis is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb. The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things. Here is the most useful…
Read moreLast week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy! Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS! Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple: IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT. Here is…
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