He Says He's Ready But Isn't: The Self-Love Deficit Behind It
September 21, 2026
Ever wonder why the man who swore he was ready disappeared the second things got real?
In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach Jonathon Aslay. He spent years being that very man himself.
After 500 first dates, a divorce, and a financial collapse that sent him back to live with his parents at 42, he found the pattern underneath it all.
Here’s what we cover in our discussion:
🕵️♀️ The question that reveals a man’s readiness fast.
🔥 The real reason "good pickers" still get burned.
❤️ What losing his son taught him about love.
🧭 The 2 out of 10 men worth choosing.
💬 A friendship test most couples skip completely.
Links from this episode
Jonathon mentioned quite a reading list! The books are below, along with his programs, his social pages and the earlier episode we referred to during our conversation about dating and love.
Jonathon’s links
- Jonathon Aslay’s website
- Books:
- What the Heck Is Self-Love Anyway? by Jonathon Aslay
- The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
- A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
- Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott
- Calling in “The One” by Katherine Woodward Thomas
- If the Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl
- Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas
- The Soulmate Secret by Arielle Ford
- Mid-Life Love Mastery with Jonathon
- THE AND card games
- Jonathon on Instagram, LinkedIn and YouTube
Links I mentioned
You can also listen here:
💚 Spotify
🫛 Podbean