Lasting Love After 50: The Complete Guide to Long-Term Relationships
Finding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
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She Changed 3 Things in Her Dating Profile: Matches Skyrocketed
Your profile can be full of good intentions and still disappear in the crowd. Laurie breaks down three practical changes you can make today, from choosing better photos to writing a bio that gives the right person a reason to lean in. You’ll also see why widening your search…
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How to Communicate in a Relationship: Laurie Gerber's Complete Guide
What makes a relationship work isn't chemistry or love. It's whether two people can tell each other the truth. Here's my complete guide.
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
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Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?
My family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
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He Won't Open Up Until You Stop Doing This One Thing
He talks to strangers on airplanes. He opens up to colleagues he barely knows. But with you? One-word answers. "Why is it so easy for him to talk to someone else?"
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Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire
I'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
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Are You Sending Mixed Signals? 7 Things Women Say They Want and What They Really Mean
Men say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
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Handling Rejection After 50 Without Losing Hope
Rejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
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8 Traits That Get A Man To Pick You
We are not the same as men, and our guesses as to what they want are often wrong. In this episode of Love at Any Age, I asked dating coach Lisa Copeland to set the record straight.
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How to Tell if a Man is Ready for Long-Term Commitment
Online dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
Dating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
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Dating After 50: Are You Really Undateable? 😳 6 Hidden Blocks You Don’t Even Realize
Ever ask yourself, “Am I undateable?” Here’s the truth: maybe, but not for the reasons you think.
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We're Finding Love On My New Podcast: Love At Any Age
I promised myself I'd start a podcast in 2025, then grief and a move rearranged everything. Love At Any Age is what came next.
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
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💬Here’s How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off)
Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
Cringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.
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So you have an STD, To Date or Not To Date?
I used to run truth-telling workshops. If you have an STD, I want you to consider dating honestly, without shame, and free yourself.
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The Do's and Don'ts of Dating Site Prompts
Staring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
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How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?
On our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
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How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow
Feel like you're pulling teeth to get a man talking? The secret isn't more questions. It's real listening, and it makes you more attractive.
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
The right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
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Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?
If you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
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How to Flirt Naturally (and Still Be Your Authentic Self): Clean and Dirtier Come-ons Included
Flirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.
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Fun First Date Ideas
Before a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
I hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
Scammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
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Let's Get Honest: Is it Lying, A Liability, or a Limiting Belief
Shot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
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Got Daddy Issues?
I keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
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7 Questions to Ask Yourself at the End of the Year
Here is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
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The Antidote To Fear And Loneliness: Gratitude, 8 Ways To Practice It
I know holidays can stir loss, loneliness, and comparison. Gratitude is my antidote, and here are 8 ways to practice it.
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Testing the Dating Waters: 6 Red Flags to Watch Out For During the First Three Dates
Do you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
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4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating
Why is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
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Are you A Good Listener? 👂🙉 Find Out and Fix With These 3 Steps.
Ever been accused of being a bad listener? We need a training camp for listening. Here are 3 steps to find out and fix it.
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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
My husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
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Do You Have Integrity in Love? It's Urgent You Analyze These 3 Things!
Have you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
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Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
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My Favorite Dream Writing Exercises
I want your relationship to have a joint dream. Try my favorite dream writing exercises to turn shared values into a vision.
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The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Coaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
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