Lasting Love After 50: The Complete Guide to Long-Term Relationships
Finding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
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First Dates After 50: The Complete Guide to Early Dating
If you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
Something feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
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She Left a 25-Year Marriage at 50 and Made Every Dating Mistake in the Book
In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Silke Schwarzkopf, creator and host of Second Act TV, who left a 25-year marriage at 50 and made every classic midlife dating mistake there is. After 1 internal shift, she met Paul on Match.com, and they have been together for…
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
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Living Apart Together: Is It the Right Choice for You?
Eligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
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How to Establish Monogamy Before Sex
How many dates in before you realize you've stopped looking at other profiles? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I’m addressing the "are we exclusive" talk. I know it's scary. I cover how the early assumption of monogamy is costing you, how to know if you’re ready for it, and…
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When to Have Sex in a Relationship: The 6 Questions Every Woman Over 50 Must Ask First
Is your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
You're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
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Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?
My family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
People lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
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Sex by the Third Date? What the “3 Date Rule” is REALLY About
Sex on the third date? Is the “3 date rule” actually still a thing after 50?
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
I coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
I'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
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Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire
I'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
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Why Women Don’t Want Sex as Quickly as Men (It’s Not What You Think)
One of the biggest differences between men and women in dating, especially after 50, is timing around sex.
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Dating Over 50: Are Your Girlfriends Helping or Hurting?
Dating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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The "One" Didn’t Get Away: Letting Go and Moving Forward
There is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
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Sex, Erectile Dysfunction, and the Myths That Hurt You | Epi #14
Today’s conversation on Love at Any Age is a spicy one, and it's for people over 50 who still want intimacy, pleasure, and sex in their love lives. I’m joined by the extraordinary Joan Price, an internationally recognized expert on sex in later life, and at 82, she is living…
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
You do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
After 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
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Self-Love After 50: 6 Hidden Obstacles That Block Love
Thinking about dating again? I say there's no expiration date on love. Here are 6 hidden obstacles blocking you. You are not too late.
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New Year, New Love: How to Make Your Love Resolutions Actually Work
If you’re heading into the New Year thinking, “I want love… but I’m not sure how to get it,” this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Love at Any Age, we’re continuing the self-love series and looking at the other big obstacles that sabotage dating: bad habits, family dynamics,…
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
Dating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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🚦5 Dating Mistakes You May Still Make (and Exactly How to Stop Making Them)
In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I’ll reveal the five most common mistakes women make that sabotage their dating experience—and how to fix them before they derail a great match.
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
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Body Image and Dating Over 50: What’s Really Holding You Back
A reader wrote me her weight and years of celibacy were stopping her. I tackle body image and dating with honesty and compassion.
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
I wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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I Can’t Fix Your Dating Profile Without These 2 Things
Women send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
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What to Expect When Dating a Man Over 50
If you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
Cringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.
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So you have an STD, To Date or Not To Date?
I used to run truth-telling workshops. If you have an STD, I want you to consider dating honestly, without shame, and free yourself.
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
Met online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
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The Do's and Don'ts of Dating Site Prompts
Staring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
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The Real Reason So Many Women Fake Orgasms—And What To Do About It
Why do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Sex After 50: Is It Me? The Emotional Fallout of ED - What Women Wish Men Knew!
“Is it me?” That’s the question many women ask when ED (erectile dysfunction) shows up in the bedroom—whether they've been with a partner for decades or are just starting a new relationship.
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How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction
Sex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
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What Makes 2 People TRULY Compatible: It's Not What You Think
What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
Not attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
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What Do Older Women Think Men Want—and Are They Right?
What do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
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The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous)
Tired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
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Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?
If you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
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Sex after 50: What Women Think Men Want in Bed - Are They Getting It All Wrong? 😳
What do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
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The Importance of Shared Values in a Romantic Relationship
I had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
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How to Flirt Naturally (and Still Be Your Authentic Self): Clean and Dirtier Come-ons Included
Flirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
After 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Sex after 50: Getting Intimate with a New Partner? Your Biggest Questions and Concerns Answered!
Getting intimate with a new partner? What are the most common questions and concerns daters have about sex after 50 with someone new? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber provides answers to the most common things women and men want to know about having sex again,…
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
First dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
I hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.
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First Date Signs He Likes You
So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
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How to Make Yourself More Attractive: 4 Practical Strategies
Attraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Exhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
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The Big Myth About Older Men and Younger Women: Busted!
The myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
Scammers and bad intentions exist, but you do not have to live in fear. Here are 12 smart safety tips for dating online and in person.
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Visualizing, Designing & Executing Your New #postdivorce Life ft. #relationship expert Laurie Gerber
In this uplifting episode, we dive into the exciting opportunity of visualizing and designing your new post-divorce life. I know how overwhelming it can be to think about the future when you're going through a major life transition, but today we’re flipping that script. We'll…
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Ensuring Emotional and Physical Safety in Your Search for Love
If you’ve tuned in before, you already know the fabulous guru of love and dating, Laurie Gerber. I’m thrilled to have her return for this episode, where we revisit the world of midlife dating but this time with a strong focus on emotional and physical safety. Laurie will share…
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Got Daddy Issues?
I keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
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5 Questions to Ask to Know If You're Ready for a Committed Relationship
Deciding to commit is a big step. I want you to ask yourself these 5 key questions before you take yourself off the market.
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Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!
FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
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Are Your Holidays Delightful or Disastrous? A Little Design Goes A Long Way!
No two people want the same holiday. If you haven't talked about what matters most, you'll likely end up stressed and short on what you needed.
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Are We Compatible? How to Know if You Should Proceed With a Particular Someone
Compatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
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Charm, Don’t Spook Them: 4 Essential First Date Tips Revealed! 🎃
Don't let first-date nerves turn you into someone you're not. Here are four tips to keep your charm and lose the spooky factor.
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4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating
Why is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
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Top 5 Dos and Don’ts For Your Slam Dunk Dating Profile 🏀🧺
Everyone makes the same profile mistakes. Here are 5 dos and don'ts to make yours accurate, clear, and more likely to find your match.
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Setting the Record Straight: What A Good Partner Does (and Doesn't) Do For You
Frustrated your partner can't give you something? Maybe you're expecting the wrong thing. A partner should enhance you, not complete you.
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Attention Daters: How to Get off the Apps and Into Real Life Dates
Tired of endless texting and no real dates? Watch my talk with Alison Wellington, who gives exact texts to get off the apps.
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Make Awkward Talks Less Painful with this 8-Step Awesome Cheat Sheet 📜
Dating requires awkward talks about sex, STIs, kids, and monogamy. I have an 8-step cheat sheet to make them less painful and a little easier.
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
Never assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
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Effective Apologies: This Is How They Work
The format of a good apology should go like this…
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4 Secrets To Evaluating Your Relationship
Your partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
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Partner Not Listening? I’ll Show You How to Change That
So many people feel their partners don’t listen well. Here is what doesn’t work to inspire listening…
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Love is the Only Game in Town, Here's How to Play
Love is the only game in town. In this podcast you’ll hear how to play the game…
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How an Expert Masters Love: Take Advantage of My Experience 💖
Dating without the right ingredients is like making pancakes without eggs. Let me show you how I master love, with real experience.
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How to Keep Your Love Connections Fresh, Tight and Lasting
This conversation is full of A-HA moments, tips, and straight up great advice to keep your love connections fresh, tight, and lasting.
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In Conflict, Do You Own Your Part? Ask Yourself These 8 Questions!
Giving tough feedback? Own your part first. These 8 questions help you see your side of a conflict before you ever speak up.
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🏆 The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Success Revealed 🥇
What we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
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The Secret Ingredients To Getting The Love (And Sex 👉👌) Back
I had a near divorce and repaired my marriage. In this podcast, I share sex dates, lube, candles, and the fun in marriage fundamentals.
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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
My husband and I fight about money, hosting, and sex on a predictable schedule. I asked my community what they fight about. What are your top 3?
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Your Phone Is Stupid, and It's Making You Stupid 📱😱
I see clients struggle with phone promises. Our phones are making us less present, and it is time to change the relationship.
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Popcorning: What it is, Why You Do it, And Why you Have to Stop
Popcorning is interrupting your partner to get attention. Here is why you do it, what it costs your relationship, and how to stop.
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Determining Your Type in 3 Easy Steps
It’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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Your Parents, and Why You Suck at Love the Same Ways They Did
If you grew up speaking French, you'd learn French. Love works the same way. Here's why you repeat your parents' patterns.
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Become More Competent at Love: Learn the Art of The Bandaid Trade 🩹
Ripping off a bandaid is scary, but giving your partner feedback is similar. I say do it all at once so the wound can heal quickly.
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Do You Have Integrity in Love? It's Urgent You Analyze These 3 Things!
Have you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
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15 Excuses for Bad Relationships and Why They Are Actually Certified Crap 💩
Not everyone can afford coaching, but you deserve help debunking bad relationship excuses. I cover the 15 most popular ones by category.
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Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
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These Excuses are Killing Your Relationship
I made plenty of relationship excuses: I was better than most, I blamed my partner, then I swore I'd tried everything. Excuses hide the truth.
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The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Coaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
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I Found a Better Purpose for My Marriage, Have You?
I promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
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Why My Coach had a Great Marriage and I Didn’t
"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
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How I Almost Lost My Marriage
I almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
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Avoid the Top 3 Relationship Pitfalls: Holiday Edition
No two people want the same holiday. Ask your partner what matters most in a calm moment, or you'll both end up stressed and disappointed.
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Are you a Good Lover?
This is not about sexual technique, though we will get there. It is about love as a verb, and what love actually means in practice.
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Whose Fault is It?
For years I blamed my partner for my unhappiness. When my coach asked why, I said it was all his fault. Here's what I learned.
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