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You want chemistry. But the thought of getting naked with someone new can bring up questions you haven't had to face in years. Laurie Gerber and Suzanne Noble discuss sex after 50, from different levels of desire to the fear of saying what you want. Their conversation includes…
Read moreThe end of a marriage can leave you asking: Who am I now? You may have spent a long time being somebody's wife, co-parent, or keeping the household moving through much tension. Then the structure disappears, and even freedom can feel disorienting.
Read moreAfter divorce, what could be shaping your chances of finding love before the next date even begins? Laurie Gerber raises questions about belief in love, self-care, telling people you are looking, dating rules, and where you look.
Read moreFinding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
Read moreAre your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single? In this mailbag episode, Laurie answers six real listener questions about trauma and attraction, “wife appliance” fears, eight-out-of-ten chemistry, height and income filters, introvert compatibility, and…
Read moreDating a divorced man? His ex and kids may come along. These 3 green flags show if he's healed and ready for a real relationship.
Read moreI have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
Read moreIf you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
Read moreSomething feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
Read moreThe third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
Read moreAre there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
Read moreEligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
Read moreYou see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
Read moreI've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
Read moreLet me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
Read moreYou're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
Read moreMy family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
Read moreHave you ever met someone where the chemistry felt incredible… and you immediately started imagining where it could go?
Read morePeople lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
Read moreIf you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
Read moreI coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.
Read moreWorried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
Read moreI'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.
Read moreOne of the biggest challenges in early dating? Knowing what to ask… and when.
Read moreI hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
Read moreA client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
Read moreDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Read moreChemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
Read moreRejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
Read moreIf Valentine’s Day has you thinking, “I don’t want to repeat that again,” this episode is for you. In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I break down why so many smart women keep choosing the same kind of man and how to interrupt that pattern before another holiday comes…
Read moreDating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.
Read moreIf you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.
Read moreYou do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
Read moreAfter 50, dating isn't hard because you don't want love. It's hard because you know what doesn't work and doubt your own choices.
Read moreLaurie is a guest on the Midlife Dating Podcast with Paul Nelson, episode 29.
Read moreIf you keep dating the same men, it's not because you're bad at dating. Patterns run the show until you name them. Here's how to stop.
Read moreDating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
Read moreIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Read moreDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
Read moreDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…
Read moreeHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
Read moreIf you’ve ever said, “I don’t even know what I want anymore” or “Why do I keep attracting the same kind of guy?” — this one’s for you.
Read moreDo the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
Read moreWomen quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
Read moreIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Read moreI don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
Read moreDating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
Read moreTrying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.
Read moreAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Read moreIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Read moreDating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
Read moreWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Read moreAs a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.
Read moreNot attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
Read moreFinding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
Read moreCurious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
Read moreThe dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
Read moreThe right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
Read moreAs a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
Read moreI had to reexamine my values to get the relationship I wanted. Shared principles matter more than chemistry. Let's find what matters now.
Read moreAfter 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
Read moreStaying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
Read moreThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Read moreBefore a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.
Read moreFirst dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
Read moreThe biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
Read moreSome men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
Read moreBad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
Read moreSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Read moreThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Read moreExhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
Read moreThe myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.
Read moreAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Read moreAre you seeking your dream romantic relationship?
Read moreAwakening Aphrodite host Amy Fournier welcomes Laurie Gerber to explore head-heart-body wisdom, what prospective partners really want, and how radical honesty helps people magnetize a compatible match and cultivate lasting love.
Read moreSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Read moreModern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
Read moreWondering if there's an age limit to love and intimacy? Navigating relationships after 50 can feel unfamiliar and challenging. Finding love and connection in later years, including identifying compatible partners and maintaining open communication, comes with challenges. It…
Read moreFAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
Read moreCompatibility isn't matching interests or backgrounds. It's shared values. I'll show you how to find your top five and test them in real life.
Read moreDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Read moreDating someone too long? After every first date, ask yourself these 4 questions to spot a real match before you get entangled.
Read moreYour partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
Read moreWhat we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
Read moreOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Read moreHave you asked if you have integrity in love? The Handel Method teaches 3 levels of integrity. Here's how to analyze yours.
Read moreI promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
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