Divorce Detoxification: Do You Need It?
What happens if you are not OVER your divorce?
You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
You know how they tell you not to drink when you’re pregnant?
The reason is that the baby absorbs what you put in your body. That’s why women so often try to clean up their bodies–and any toxins therein—before getting pregnant.
The same goes for dating.
You want to clear up all the toxic waste before the next person on the scene absorbs it.
Your soulmate will of course be more attracted to a clean, clear, happy environment.
When I talk with divorced women, I can tell the ones who have not done the healing work.
They say things like:
“I just don’t understand it.”
“How could he?”
“I can’t believe XYZ.”
“I’ll never get over it.”
And various other things that make them sound like the helpless victim, and the other person or situation the perp.
This scares away healthy men. Healthy men want healthy, resolved, happy women by their side.
Now, I am not saying your ex was blameless, not at all!
I am saying there is work to do to get to a point where you can talk calmly about your ex from a place of learning and resolution, not a place of pain.
When you can tell the story with both sides represented and without drama or emotion, you know you’ve detoxified.
Those people say things like:
“We just ended up wanting different things.”
“There were some dealbreaker issues he/I weren’t willing to work on within the marriage.”
“Our chemistry died and we weren’t willing to do the work to bring it back.”
“Something happened that I wasn’t able to forgive and get past. I really learned from it.”
How are you telling the story of your divorce? More as a victim or more as an author?
How well and simply you tell your divorce story is a great indicator of your readiness to “date like you mean it”, and find a much more suitable mate.
If you really feel stuck here, coaching or therapy might help. Contact me and let me know if you’d like me to tell you more.
Rooting for your divorce detoxification,
