Why Your 1st Interactions Are so Crucial
You are training someone how to treat you.
Did you know? You are teaching someone how to treat you from the very first interaction.
If you are wondering why someone treats you a particular way, think back to the behaviors you ignored or didn’t speak up about at the beginning.
Did your date do any of these?
ignore your texts
show up late
send a dick pic
say something offensive
act in an inconsiderate manner
talk non-stop
be lewd
disregard your needs/requests
IF YOU DIDN'T (GRACEFULLY) SAY SOMETHING: You trained them in how to treat you from then ON!
Everyone has different standards for how to relate to people but most people have a wide range of capability in how they treat others (think how you act at church or how you act when you are trying to impress someone vs when nobody is watching).
If you want to bring out the best in people, and show some self-respect...tell your date right away what your desires are, what makes you feel respected and delighted.
Nobody can read minds.
Maybe you just met a jerk. Ok, abort the mission. But maybe you met someone who is off their game and needs to be nudged in the direction of mutual care. Most people expect others to TELL them what they want, vs. have to guess.
Whatever you do: don't you dare, swallow your thought and expect it to change on its own.
It's like hoping your kids will start putting their dishes in the dishwasher without being told/trained! HA!!
You are hoping in vain. Forget wishing for telepathy and learn to speak your mind.
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Love,
