4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating

Why is Trust so important?

You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.

If you can’t trust the person how can you open up, establish intimacy and ultimately fall in love?

You can’t.

So how do you develop trust while dating?

1. Tell the truth right way on your profile, or--if not--then as soon as you start chatting with someone.

We understand lying in order to get someone to consider you-trust me it’s happening a lot out there but you have to tell the truth as soon as you meet the person or else there is no reason they should trust you (or you them) going forward!

2. Know and tell what you are looking for–fling or real thing.

First you have to get clear, then you have to get good at the one liner that explains it, for example: “I’m really only looking for a long term committed relationship at this point.” or “I just got out of a long serious relationship and I am not ready to settle down again, so I am looking to date lots of people right now."

3. Keep telling the truth about who you are and what you like, and remember you aren’t trying to win a person over but rather find the best match.

Sometimes people pretend to be who they think their date will like, forgetting that if it works out, you either have to reveal the truth (and your untrustworthiness) or keep up a lie for ages. That’s self-sabotage 101. Deep down you’d rather know you messed up the relationship than take the chance of it working– so you doom it to fail at the get go by lying. Ay caramba! 

4. Say what you’re going to do and then do what you said.

The simplest way to build trust with yourself or your special someone is to say what you’re going to do and then do it. Conversely, if you say you won’t do something (for ex. text your ex) don’t do it. Building your own self trust while building your partner's--now that’s bang for your buck. Oh, and you’ll get banged for bucking up and keeping your word. SEXY!