4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date

Do you ever end up dating someone longer than you should?

Do you watch your friends TRY to make it work only to entangle themselves with not-the-one for ages?

There is a solution!

And…it’s better VETTING!

Just kidding, it's the other kind of vetting.

I have been coaching people in dating for the last 20 years and some protocols after each date make a world of difference.

Do you ask yourself these 4 Questions after every first date?

Does this person make sense for your life?

Do they live somewhere geographically desirable? Do they want a long term relationship? Do they see kids/no kids in their future? How about monogamy?

Were you intrigued? In other words –Do you want to know more?

If you were bored, that’s not a good sign. The first date should spark interest and curiosity– not just lust– if the person is a good match.

Would you let this person meet your friends?

A lot of people persist in dating someone who should fit the bill or to whom they are very attracted. That’s not enough for lasting love. If you couldn’t imagine wanting to introduce your date to your friends, beware! Abort the mission.

Could you imagine wanting to kiss this person?

I am not saying you have to want to kiss, or that you should, kiss on the first date. I am just saying you have to be able to imagine wanting to. If you can’t see it at all, abort the mission. If you really want to, great!

Folks, it’s not easy to date like you mean it, truly honoring the needs of your head, heart and hoo-ha, but it is formulaic. And I am giving you the components. So use ‘em.