My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?
It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between.
I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve taken away a very important learning:
You cannot be happy in a partnership if you are not happy with yourself. You might be rolling your eyes and saying “Duh, Laurie, that’s the oldest cliché in the book. But really think about it, how hard are you working to make sure you are happy?
I still remember the day my mom told me (around age 12) that she made the decision to stop relying on my Dad to make her happy. Guess how old she was?….40! And then I remember thinking I would NEVER wait that long in my marriage. But I didn’t do a lot better. I made the switch in my 30’s after many years struggling in my relationship with my husband, and it was only because I had a kick-ass coach who pushed me to RATE MY LIFE!
Being honest with yourself about YOUR life before focusing on assessing your relationship is KEY to getting the help you actually need.
Handel Group®, the company that trained me, came up with this amazing Quiz that helps you assess in just 5 minutes, what’s really going on in your life and why you aren’t at the peak of happiness. Do you dare to take the quiz?
It’s a brave thing to do, because once you see your scores, you can’t unsee them!
You’ll find out just how much your relationship is the problem...vs. your life!
Struggling in Love? Start With You
Before you try to fix your partner—or leave your relationship—take a moment to check in with yourself. Real change starts from the inside out.
✅ Learn why your own happiness is key to lasting love
✅ Take the quiz that shows you what’s really holding you back
✅ Start getting honest about what you really want in love and life
👉 Watch the free Master the Art of Love webinar here
Frequently Asked Questions about Relationship Trouble and Self-Reflection
1. How do I know if my relationship problems are really about me?
Take a moment to assess how satisfied you are in other areas of your life. If you're deeply unhappy outside your relationship, chances are it's spilling in.
2. Isn’t it unfair to put all the responsibility on myself?
You’re not taking all the blame—you’re taking your power back. You’re the only person you can change, and that change can make all the difference.
3. What if my partner really is the problem?
Even if they are, you’ll be much more effective at handling it (or leaving) once you’re in a grounded, self-aware place.
4. Why is Laurie always telling me to take quizzes?
Because they work. When you see your life laid out in numbers, it’s easier to get honest about where you’re stuck and what needs to shift.
5. What’s the next step after the quiz?
Watch the free webinar and learn how to use your results to design the love life you actually want—no matter where you’re starting from.
