Primary Love at Any Age topic
More topics: Age Gaps, Breakups, Healthy Relationships
Dating a divorced man means his former marriage, ex, and family dynamics may come with him. But those complications do not automatically mean he is unavailable. These three green flags show whether he has actually healed, knows what he wants, and can build a serious relationship…
Watch nowI have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
Watch nowYou matched on a dating app, or maybe a friend set you up, and the first date felt promising enough to keep going. For a minute, you let yourself hope this could be it. Then a few weeks in, something feels off. You can't quite name it, but the excitement fades faster than it…
Watch nowThe dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
Watch nowIf you’ve ever taken “I’m over her” at face value… and later wished you hadn’t, this one’s for you. In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere, relationship expert, author, and coach of men, to talk through 3 behavioral signs that tell you whether a…
Watch nowThe number one concern I hear from many daters is: there are not enough eligible people where I live. My heart goes out to you. It's enough to make you give up altogether. On the other hand, I meet happy couples every day who started (or even remained) in a long-distance…
Watch nowYou know the feeling. You've spent hours on your profile. You answered the prompts, picked a few photos, filled in the basics, and hit "publish." Then... crickets. Or worse, messages from men who seem like they wandered in from a different planet. Here's what I want you to know:…
Watch nowI was shocked to learn what divorced men were really dealing with! Do you feel like you understand? In today’s Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with Rachael Sloan, founder of Better Beyond Divorce who has worked with over 600 divorced men.
Watch nowHere's a story I've heard a hundred times. A woman finally gets out of an unhappy marriage. She promises herself: this time, things will be different. She gets back in the dating game, meets someone new, and then, slowly, a familiar feeling creeps in. Same fights. Same dynamic.…
Watch nowI've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
Watch nowIn my family, there is a famous story about my grandmother Sylvia, who came to the US from Poland in the 1930s. Sylvia was notoriously skeptical, untrusting, and frugal. She could spend hours in a store examining potential purchases and still leave with nothing. No decision came…
Watch nowIf you've been in the dating pool for any amount of time, especially in your later years, you already know this: People lie. Not always in big, dramatic, scammy ways. Not always with bad intentions. But in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways that can derail your chance…
Watch nowDating over 50 can feel like stepping into a whole new world. And not the cute "new adventure" kind of way. More like: Wait, what is this? Why does everything feel harder?
Watch nowIf you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
Watch nowI hear this every week. “Laurie, where are the good men?” "I can't seem to find any." "I don't think there are any good ones left." "All the good ones are taken." "I've been on the dating apps, and there are none there. Where are they?"
Watch now“Is it actually possible to meet a good man now?” If you are asking, this one is for you: In this episode of Love at Any Age, I talked with Jackie Pilossoph from Divorced Girl Smiling, and I did something I rarely do: I interviewed her without knowing the ending of her love…
Watch nowI had a small breakdown recently. Not a dramatic one. Don't worry. But I was struggling. A client sent me his dating app profile, and the second I read it, I knew. ChatGPT wrote it. Not him. And something in me cracked.
Watch nowDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Watch nowRomantic rejection is part of life. It always has been. But that doesn’t mean rejection hurts less just because you’re older or wiser. What changes after 50 is the emotional reaction it can trigger and the meaning we sometimes attach to it.
Watch nowFirst of all, there is no ONE “the one.” Second of all, this notion that your "one" got away, whether because: He picked someone else You picked someone else He had an insurmountable issue He died As a relationship coach, I can tell you: It just isn’t true.
Watch nowOne of the biggest reasons women grow tired of online dating is simple: it can feel like a waste of time. Based on years of work as a dating coach, I can tell you this: only a portion of the people on dating apps are genuinely ready for a committed relationship or a long-term…
Watch nowIf you’re dating again after 50, the first thing to remember is this: chemistry is not the only thing that matters. You can have a good time, enjoy the small talk, even feel sparks on a first date, and still end up with a partner who is all wrong for the kind of life you…
Watch nowIf you’re over 50 and spending any time in today’s dating scene—or even just warming up to the idea of dating again—I want to talk about something most people would rather avoid. I want to talk about what doesn’t work.
Watch nowIf you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I want anymore,” you’re not alone. That moment usually comes after a lot of heartbreaks, compromises, and the quiet realization that your love life didn’t turn out the way you once imagined.
Watch nowIf dating feels like the same movie playing over and over—same type of person, same disappointment, same ending—you’re not imagining it. And no, this is not because you’re “bad at dating.” It’s not because the dating pool dried up. It’s not because you waited too long. What’s…
Watch nowIn today’s episode, Nada talks with Laurie about dating and relationships. Laurie talks about her “near divorce experience” that set her on the path to coaching.
Watch nowIf you keep dating the same types of men… It’s not because you’re “bad at dating.” Even if you're in midlife or beyond, you haven't "missed your window." And as I say in my podcast "Love at Any Age", love has no expiration date.
Watch nowIf you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
Watch nowIf you’re heading into the New Year thinking, “I want love… but I’m not sure how to get it,” this episode is for you. In Episode 10 of Love at Any Age, we’re continuing the self-love series and looking at the other big obstacles that sabotage dating: bad habits, family dynamics,…
Watch nowIf you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
Watch nowIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Watch nowAt the beginning of 2025, I promised myself I'd start my own podcast. I had rejected the idea of it in the past because it seemed like too much work, but THIS felt like the year!
Watch nowIn this season of thanks-giving, I am going to lay out an unpopular opinion: Every choice in love you’ve made in the past has been in your best interest! "What, Laurie?" You must be asking yourself if I’ve gone off the deep end.
Watch nowIf you’ve dipped your toe into the modern world of dating apps, you’ve probably noticed they all have one thing in common — you have to work them if you want them to work for you.
Watch nowTwo of my three kids are grown, so I think I can safely say now that I wish they had taken a gap year between high school and college, or during college. At least they studied abroad. The amount of worldly knowledge and independence they gained from studying abroad got me…
Watch nowFor every woman in the 50+ age group who responds to one of my articles, hopeful about dating again, an equal number write back with a heavy sigh: “Never again. I’m done.”
Watch nowIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Watch nowI don’t mean get back together with the man you divorced. I certainly don’t mean stay with someone who abuses you. I mean, in early dating—even in texting. I mean, when something rubs you the wrong way and you’re ready to call it quits before chemistry has had a chance to…
Watch nowI get this a lot as a dating coach: Women send me their online dating profile to analyze—as if I could tell them whether it’s “good” or “bad” without knowing them first. That’s not how it works.
Watch nowOnce women are done complaining to me about how older men are only looking for younger women, they turn around and complain that they’ll end up being an older man’s nurse, purse, or, dreadfully, both!
Watch nowLet’s brush our teeth before we kiss, he said on our first date, implying I had bad breath! I was mortified. But I brushed my teeth, and we had a great first kiss. That was decades ago, and now we’ve been married 27 years. When asked how I knew he was the right person, I harken…
Watch nowWhen you first spot someone on a dating app and your interest is piqued, the next big step is kicking off some fun, flirty banter. Since they can’t read your body language, your online banter has to carry all the weight of making that initial spark happen.
Watch nowHave you ever found yourself at the end of an exhausting fight shocked that, after investing in someone feeling loved, they felt, well, just the opposite?
Watch nowIf you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
Watch nowAs a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
Watch nowIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Watch nowWhat makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
Watch nowDating after divorce can feel like stepping into a strange new world—especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time. You might feel like the dating pool has changed, the rules are unclear, and your comfort zone is nowhere to be found. But here's good news: not…
Watch nowOne of the main complaints I hear from daters is about BEING GHOSTED. Ghosting is a pretty new term. I know because my 80-year old dad said “huh, what’s that?” He stopped dating before computers, texting and online dating sites. You could still ghost someone in those days– but…
Watch nowIf you're a mature woman trying to make sense of modern dating, you’ve probably asked yourself: What do men actually want? Are they after “just sex,” younger women (only), a casual fling, a committed relationship, or none of the above? Do older women actually know what men…
Watch nowIf you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching: STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!
Watch nowMy name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!
Watch nowIf you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it…
Watch nowEver wondered what it’s really like behind the scenes of a professional matchmaking service? I recently sat down with Jill Dunn, a seasoned matchmaker with years of experience helping single men and women find long-term relationships.
Watch nowAs a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
Watch nowIn this episode of Saddle Up Live, host Lesa Koski interviews relationship expert Laurie Gerber about maintaining intimacy and connection in long-term marriages. Laurie, who has been featured on shows like Dr. Phil and MTV, shares her personal journey of realizing the importance…
Watch nowI have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
Watch nowThere are dating services offering "meaningful connections," platforms for casual relationships, and apps boasting compatibility scores and in-depth personality tests. Some are free, others want your credit card before you even send a first message.
Watch nowRelationship coach Laurie Gerber returns to help us unpack the emotional weight of the mother-daughter dynamic. Through her “Pedestal Ditch Perspective,” we’ll explore how we see our moms—either as flawless or flawed beyond repair—and how those extremes keep us stuck. Let’s talk…
Watch nowIf you’re post-menopausal and dating (or thinking about dating), I want you to know: you are not alone, you are not too old, too dry, too rusty, and you are not done. So many women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond are re-entering the dating world and wondering with regards to sex……
Watch nowMy sense of priorities in relationships has changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
Watch nowFirst of all, warning: this blog is for women. If you're a man and reading this, you may get some value and some chuckles, but the rules and ideas are really different for men. Maybe I'll write that one next. Now, ladies, if your flirt game is rusty, good news: you don’t need…
Watch nowAs a relationship expert, I have been studying dating over 50 for the last 20 years, and I have made an important discovery. The good news is that the biggest mistakes women make in dating can be avoided.
Watch nowOne moment you're excited about a potential partner, and the next, you’re wondering if you just wasted a lot of time. Welcome to the dating game! What a ride.
Watch nowThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Watch nowThe biggest mistake women make in midlife dating is staying for a long time with the wrong person. If you’re lonely, you are susceptible to picking badly, and then staying put, hoping it will turn into a successful relationship if you’re patient or work hard enough to fix him.
Watch nowBad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!
Watch nowSo many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
Watch nowAre you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.
Watch nowThe myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women. But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth.
Watch nowDating after divorce can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, we’re joined by relationship expert Laurie Gerber to break down the dos and don’ts of dating after divorce, how to know when you're truly ready to date again, and how to avoid repeating past…
Watch nowAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Watch nowIf you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy…
Watch nowIf you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.
Watch nowThe Divorce to Bliss Podcast host Rachel S. Ruby talks with Laurie Gerber about why strong parental partnerships after divorce matter for children of every age—and how cooperative co-parents can model healthier relationships.
Watch nowShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Watch nowFather’s Day can certainly generate strong feelings about the relationship we either have or had with Dad. A father is a daughter’s first and most influential love. That relationship plays a critical role in a woman’s choice of romantic partners and how she sees herself.…
Watch nowA few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
Watch nowI had the privilege of sitting down and talking with Laurie Gerber about Dating After Divorce.
Watch nowThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Watch nowSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Watch nowRelationship coach Laurie Gerber joins family-law attorney and A Year and a Day host Jaime Davis for a candid guide to dating after divorce: when you are ready, how to change old patterns, rebuild confidence, vet new partners, and protect children from a relationship moving too…
Watch nowRemember when I talked about “the click”? It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.
Watch nowIt’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step! You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk. So, make sure you’ve done your homework!
Watch nowIf you are looking for New Year’s resolutions for your love life, take this quiz! Are you showing up the way you want to show up? If not, this quiz will give you some very good ideas for improvement.
Watch nowHere is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
Watch nowFAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
Watch nowNo two people want the same thing from their holiday or vacation. Have you discussed what’s most important? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes:
Watch nowAre you in the market for a gift for yourself or a loved one who is looking for love? There could not be a better time than now to purchase a digital course as a gift.
Watch nowI understand holidays can: …remind you of loss …remind you of loved ones who have passed …make you feel lonely …make you feel fat …make you feel vulnerable to comparison
Watch nowAre you headed into another holiday season without a "special someone" by your side? Wouldn’t it be easier to handle your family’s craziness if you had a partner with you? At the very least it might get them focused on something other than your singleness!
Watch nowA lot of people make the mistake of thinking that their partner needs to be the same as them–similar interests, similar finances, family situation and maybe even the SAME in some areas like: level of education, race, politics, religion…
Watch nowSometimes you unintentionally cast a scary spell on your date and send your potential mate running. Here are the tips to keep your first dates bewitching without the fright factor.
Watch nowDo you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
Watch nowOne of the top 3 things couples fight about is: division of labor in the household! Successful couples uncover invisible labor, and acknowledge and appreciate it--and might choose to change some of the assigned responsibilities.
Watch nowDo you ever end up dating someone longer than you should? Do you watch your friends TRY to make it work only to entangle themselves with not-the-one for ages?
Watch nowDating requires many awkward conversations–whether it’s… ...asking for the next date ...talking about STIs…
Watch nowIt’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
Watch nowThe format of a good apology should go like this…
Watch nowYou should know this much if you've been following me for a while: Your partner has to be satisfying the needs of your HEAD, HEART AND HOO-HA in order for you to be/stay happy in love..
Watch nowDoes your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
Watch nowI’ll be frank, the patriarchy is really getting on my nerves. There are other battle cries I could sound right now, but given Labor Day tomorrow, this is the one that’s bothering me…
Watch nowIn this podcast, you’ll get the details about putting the “fun” in marriage fundamentals, using sex dates (ooh la la) as an example, and the magic of lube and candles, and finally, an explanation of why if I were a fictional character, I'd be a fairy godmother.
Watch nowIn a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
Watch nowVacations are something many of us eagerly look forward to, but they can bring a great deal of stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out in your planning, like I do, to ensure you get what you want and everyone else is happy too!
Watch nowI am writing to people with fathers or without fathers. Imagine the father you wish you’d had. What’s he like? What traits does he have? How does he talk to you, think about you, behold you?…
Watch nowQuick, without thinking hard, name the top three fights you always have with your partner. My husband and I fight about money. I am more nervous and controlling, he is more trusting and generous. We fight when we’re hosting guests. Again, he thinks everything will turn out fine.…
Watch nowIn a few years, we are going to look back at our relationship with phones, and consider it barbaric. We are in denial about this. We make excuses constantly. To be very blunt, essentially, the phone is evil and it does evil things to you. And you, like a lemming, comply.
Watch nowIt’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
Watch nowOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Watch nowA lot of you picked for the wrong reasons. Maybe the person satisfied one, or two, but not all three, and you thought you couldn’t have it all. But maybe you still can–with a little bit of work!
Watch nowHave you ever asked yourself if you have integrity when it comes to love? Most people don’t think of integrity the way the Handel Group lays it out. The Handel Method™ teaches that there are 3 levels or forms of integrity…
Watch nowSometimes your inability to get over someone reaches the level of an addiction, which means you feel like you have no control over what your head is busy thinking about. How do you know you’re addicted?
Watch nowNot everyone can afford private coaching, but everyone deserves somebody to help them debunk their favorite excuses about why relationships don’t work. Allow me to debunk the most popular 15 excuses I hear, by category….
Watch nowEveryone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything. There is nothing wrong with excuses except t
Watch nowLast week, I told you I’d explain how my sense of priorities in relationship changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
Watch nowI promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
Watch now"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
Watch nowThe only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it. Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…
Watch nowI remember while complaining about my relationship, telling my coach “I've tried everything!” And by “everything” I meant, nagging, complaining, blaming and trying to “be nice.” My quiz will give you LOTS of new ideas for things to try that have been proven to help relationships…
Watch nowOn January 1st, 2021, I made a promise to myself, and on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021, I kept that promise–for the first time in my life. I’m going to tell you all about it, as a way to talk about making your year end powerfully and meaningfully…
Watch nowNo two people conceive of vacations the same way. No two people want the same thing from their holiday. Have you discussed what’s most important to your partner, in a calm moment? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes…
Watch nowThis is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb. The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things. Here is the most useful…
Watch nowLast week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy! Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS! Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple: IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT. Here is…
Watch nowThree minutes to your score
and what to do next.
No email required to start
