Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!

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Written By Laurie Gerber

FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? 

ANSWER: These 4 things:

1) Don't lie on your profile and encourage people to tell the truth about stuff they might have lied about as soon as possible. This includes hot topics such as:

  • Employment status

  • Age

  • Financial situation

  • Seeing other people

  • STDs

  • Wanting/not wanting kids

  • Looking for casual vs long term


2) Insist on a video chat before meeting, to insure the person is who they seem to be, has real availability for a relationship and to make sure there is chemistry. No video chat, no live date. Boom, boundary!

Woman saying "let's rewind and try again"

3) Don't go on a second date if there is no chemistry, you find that the person does not meet your minimal criteria or if you find one of your deal breakers present. It’s that simple, a checklist you promise to follow! Boom, boundary!

4) Don't go on a 4th date if you aren't:

  • Attracted 

  • Intrigued 

  • Feeling good with the person 

  • Life-compatible, i.e. looking for the same thing...long term vs casual, where you live, kids/no kids etc.

Setting boundaries is easier said than done but there is no better way to avoid heartache, wasted time and just sheer exhaustion from dud dates!

 
Laurie Gerber
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