Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!
FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship?
ANSWER: These 4 things:
1) Don't lie on your profile and encourage people to tell the truth about stuff they might have lied about as soon as possible. This includes hot topics such as:
Employment status
Age
Financial situation
Seeing other people
STDs
Wanting/not wanting kids
Looking for casual vs long term
2) Insist on a video chat before meeting, to insure the person is who they seem to be, has real availability for a relationship and to make sure there is chemistry. No video chat, no live date. Boom, boundary!
3) Don't go on a second date if there is no chemistry, you find that the person does not meet your minimal criteria or if you find one of your deal breakers present. It’s that simple, a checklist you promise to follow! Boom, boundary!
4) Don't go on a 4th date if you aren't:
Attracted
Intrigued
Feeling good with the person
Life-compatible, i.e. looking for the same thing...long term vs casual, where you live, kids/no kids etc.
Setting boundaries is easier said than done but there is no better way to avoid heartache, wasted time and just sheer exhaustion from dud dates!
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Frequently Asked Questions about Setting Dating Boundaries
1. Why is it important not to lie on your dating profile?
Because honesty is the foundation of any ideal relationship. Starting with a lie—about your age, job, or intentions—creates mistrust. And it invites others to lie too. Truth sets the tone for the kind of connection you actually want.
2. Why insist on a video chat before meeting in person?
A quick video chat helps you confirm basic compatibility: Is this person real? Available? Do you have chemistry? It saves time, energy, and keeps you safer. No video? No date. Period.
3. Isn’t it harsh to stick to a checklist after just one date?
Nope. It’s respectful—to yourself and them. If there’s no chemistry, or you spot a dealbreaker, moving on quickly protects your energy and helps you stay aligned with your goals.
4. What’s so special about the “4th date rule”?
By the 4th date, you should be feeling attraction, curiosity, comfort, and life compatibility. If one of those is missing, it’s a sign. Instead of dragging it out, use this boundary to move forward or move on.
5. I struggle to enforce boundaries—what can help?
Practice, support, and accountability. Boundaries get easier when you have tools, scripts, and a coach or community reminding you why you set them in the first place. You’re not being picky—you’re being powerful.
