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The end of a marriage can leave you asking: Who am I now? You may have spent a long time being somebody's wife, co-parent, or keeping the household moving through much tension. Then the structure disappears, and even freedom can feel disorienting.
Watch nowDating apps have changed, and not always for the better. I look at what happened to the platforms you once trusted and name the six I would still use: eHarmony, Match, Facebook Dating, OurTime, SeniorMatch, and Stitch. I also flag the risks to watch for, including pricing,…
Watch nowNew data says 71% of women now find intellectually and emotionally mature men more attractive than guys who lead with staged confidence, and real attraction usually takes longer to build than a first swipe suggests. Laurie Gerber talks with relationship therapist Jaime Bronstein…
Watch nowYou're dating someone you really like. Then you find out they cheated in a previous relationship.
Watch nowFinding love is one skill. Keeping it alive is another, and I learned that the hard way. Here is how to build love that lasts after 50.
Watch nowWhen a man says he is ready but pulls away as things get real, the answer is rarely in his words. Laurie Gerber talks with dating coach Jonathon Aslay about the self-love deficit that can make emotional availability feel impossible. They explore the questions, patterns, and…
Watch nowYou keep swiping because someone better might be one profile away. Here's why good enough on Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha beats chasing perfect.
Watch nowYour profile can be full of good intentions and still disappear in the crowd. Laurie breaks down three practical changes you can make today, from choosing better photos to writing a bio that gives the right person a reason to lean in. You’ll also see why widening your search…
Watch nowAre your dating standards protecting you, or are they keeping you single? In this mailbag episode, Laurie answers six real listener questions about trauma and attraction, “wife appliance” fears, eight-out-of-ten chemistry, height and income filters, introvert compatibility, and…
Watch nowWhy does someone disappear instead of simply saying, “I'm not interested”?
Watch nowSomeone tells you they're 50 and they've never been married. What's your first thought? Now they tell you they're 50 and they've been married and divorced twice. Do you judge those two people differently? A lot of people do.
Watch nowDesire doesn't die after 50. It changes. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, and the talks that make intimacy better.
Watch nowFrom Mrs. to Ms. host Andrea Knoche talks with Laurie Gerber about three real midlife dating dilemmas: when his texts suddenly slow down, when his ex is still in the picture, and when he won't put a label on the relationship.
Watch nowI have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.
Watch nowIf you're dating again after 50, first dates feel enormous. I want to give you every advantage I can. You're not doing this for practice.
Watch nowSomething feels off a few weeks in, but you can't name it. Here is how to tell a normal rough patch from real signs of incompatibility.
Watch nowThe third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.
Watch nowThink everyone who's dating is actually ready for a relationship? Think again.
Watch nowAre there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.
Watch nowEligible people scarce where you live? I meet happy couples who started long-distance or chose living apart together. Hope is not lost.
Watch nowYou see the red flags, then talk yourself out of them. I have coached women for 20 years. Here are 6 red flags and the pattern to stop.
Watch nowI've seen one client change 3 things and get more quality conversations in a week. The problem isn't you, it's the packaging.
Watch nowA woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.
Watch nowLet me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.
Watch nowYou're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.
Watch nowMy family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.
Watch nowI recently joined Lori Dube and Constance Bauer on their wonderful podcast, We Ain’t Dead Yet, for an episode called All the Single Ladies: Hacks for Dating After 60.
Watch nowHave you ever met someone where the chemistry felt incredible… and you immediately started imagining where it could go?
Watch nowPeople lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.
Watch nowDating after 50 can feel like a strange new world, not a cute adventure. Here's how to feel good about it again, step by step.
Watch nowIf you keep attracting the same wrong man, hear this: you are not broken. You are running an unconscious pattern, and patterns can change.
Watch nowYou're texting. You're going on dates. You're staying hopeful. And nothing is actually moving. I call it: action without traction. In today's Love at Any Age episode, I break down the 5 reasons your dating life isn't progressing. If you're putting in the work and still not…
Watch nowHosts Dr. Nicole Martin and Dr. Tiffany Moon talk with Laurie Gerber on Scrubs to Stilettos about what keeps people single, why women settle into situationships, and how to shift your mindset toward the relationship you actually want.
Watch nowYou meet someone… and it feels like this could be it. And then, something shifts.
Watch nowWorried your window for love closed after divorce? I talked with Lauren Handel Zander, who divorced at 52 and found her person. Here's her story.
Watch nowHe talks to strangers on airplanes. He opens up to colleagues he barely knows. But with you? One-word answers. "Why is it so easy for him to talk to someone else?"
Watch nowI hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.
Watch nowI'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.
Watch nowHave you ever walked away from a few great dates thinking… “This is going somewhere”… and then it doesn’t?
Watch nowA client's dating profile was clearly written by ChatGPT, and I had a small breakdown. Here's why AI can't replace the human part of dating.
Watch nowMen say women send signals instead of asking directly. Often that is because you do not yet know what you actually want.
Watch nowDating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
Watch nowChemistry is intoxicating. It feels like a sign. But it might be the thing that's costing you the most time. "Am I falling for the right person, or am I just finally feeling wanted again?"
Watch nowRejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.
Watch nowIf you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
Watch nowAre you pushing love away without even realizing it?
Watch nowThere is no single "the one" who got away. I explain why letting go of that story is what finally lets you move forward in love.
Watch nowOnline dating can feel like a waste of time. I've learned only some men are truly ready for commitment, and their behavior shows it.
Watch nowToday’s conversation on Love at Any Age is a spicy one, and it's for people over 50 who still want intimacy, pleasure, and sex in their love lives. I’m joined by the extraordinary Joan Price, an internationally recognized expert on sex in later life, and at 82, she is living…
Watch nowYou do not need weeks of texting to know if he is right. I want you to have clarity by the third date. Here is my 3-date strategy.
Watch nowMany women believe they know exactly what they want in dating. But according to dating coach Laurie Gerber, that’s often not true, especially after 50.
Watch nowIf dating feels like the same movie on repeat, it's not because you're bad at it. The real reason is quieter and much more solvable.
Watch nowLaurie is a guest on the Midlife Dating Podcast with Paul Nelson, episode 29.
Watch nowIf finding love tops your New Year's list, get ready. Dating Sunday, January 4, 2026, is the busiest dating day of the year. Are you ready?
Watch nowDating a man over 50 is very different than dating in your 20s or 30s, yet many women still bring outdated expectations into midlife dating.
Watch nowDating again after 50? Get intentional. These 10 steps help you prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love, starting now.
Watch nowIf the fear of rejection has ever kept you on the sidelines of dating (or sent you running back there), this week’s Love at Any Age episode is for you. I can’t take away the fear, but I want to help you move forward despite it.
Watch nowIf you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
Watch nowEver ask yourself, “Am I undateable?” Here’s the truth: maybe, but not for the reasons you think.
Watch nowI promised myself I'd start a podcast in 2025, then grief and a move rearranged everything. Love At Any Age is what came next.
Watch nowDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H compatibility (Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha). This week, I’m giving you the exact “Spark Questions” to ask on your first three dates so you stop guessing and start choosing on purpose.
Watch nowIn this season of gratitude, I share an unpopular opinion: every love choice you've made was in your best interest. Gratitude can heal.
Watch nowDating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…
Watch nowA reader wrote me her weight and years of celibacy were stopping her. I tackle body image and dating with honesty and compassion.
Watch nowDating after 50 isn’t the problem, our expectations often are. We carry old beliefs, past heartbreak, and outdated dating rules into new situations… and then wonder why nothing feels right. Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down the most common…
Watch noweHarmony's prompts can help you attract better matches, but only if you answer them well. Here's how to write yours with real intention.
Watch nowDo the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
Watch nowI wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.
Watch nowAre you tired of spinning your wheels in dating? Feeling like every man is the same guy… in a different shirt?
Watch nowWomen quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.
Watch nowDivorce coach and mediator Lisa Lisser talks with Laurie Gerber on Dishing On Divorce about readiness, mindset and clarity for stepping back into the dating world after divorce.
Watch nowIf you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
Watch nowHigh Vibe Divorce host Melissa Wheeler Farag talks with Laurie Gerber about dating after divorce: how to know you're ready, the Head, Heart and Hoo-ha framework for sizing up a new partner, and the difference between casual and committed dating.
Watch nowOne of the biggest reasons people hesitate to jump back into dating after 50? The fear of awkward moments! 😬 Whether you’re a man or a woman, midlife dating is full of common situations that can catch you off guard — (like they don’t look anything like their profile pics!)
Watch nowI don't mean getting back with your ex, or staying with abuse. I mean giving a new man grace in early dating, before chemistry starts.
Watch nowHost Wendy Battles talks with Laurie Gerber on Reinvention Rebels about how getting fired, reworking a marriage, and reframing menopause led Laurie to reinvent her own life, and what that means for dating after 50.
Watch nowWomen send me profiles to judge, but I can't fix yours without two things. Your profile is an ad, and it can't be false advertising.
Watch nowHost Nancy Lang Gibbs talks with Laurie Gerber on Loving Later Life about dating and finding love over 50, and Laurie gently calls out some of her host's own beliefs along the way.
Watch nowDating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.
Watch nowIf you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
Watch nowFrom Mrs. to Ms. host Andrea Knoche welcomes Laurie Gerber back for a lively, no holds barred chat about dating after 50, the marriage saving secrets behind the Handel Method, and why Laurie never sugarcoats her advice.
Watch nowMet online? Skip the noisy bar. I say make your first date a video chat, before you spend real time and energy meeting in person.
Watch nowStaring at that dating app prompt? As a love coach, I'll help you answer it with the right amount of info, green flags, and mystery.
Watch now“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…
Watch nowOn our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.
Watch nowWhy do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.
Watch nowReady to stop wasting time on awkward, boring, or downright disastrous dates? 💥 Whether you're newly single or back in the dating scene over 50, your first three dates are the MOST Important! Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down: ✅ The BEST ideas for…
Watch nowGood banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.
Watch nowEver Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.
Watch nowIf dating feels like a tightrope over lava, you're not broken. These 4 tips helped my clients calm dating anxiety and enjoy the process again.
Watch nowSex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.
Watch nowIs Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
Watch nowDating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.
Watch nowHost Lorena Tomasini talks with Laurie Gerber on Twelve Minute Talks about how to navigate the dating world again, especially after divorce, and why the right first steps depend on your personality type.
Watch nowNot attracted at first but lonely? Before giving him a second chance, let's look at why your type hasn't worked and what to change.
Watch nowDating after divorce can feel like a strange new world. The rules are unclear, but you can find healthy love. Here is how to do it right.
Watch nowBeing ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.
Watch nowWhat do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.
Watch nowGhosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.
Watch nowThink your dating profile is helping you find love after 50? Think again. 🙄Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber delivers a brutally honest breakdown of the biggest dating profile mistakes that are turning people off — and keeping you single. From outdated photos and…
Watch nowFinding love again starts with belief. I share five reasons to believe romance is possible, even after heartbreak or a long break.
Watch nowTired of apps? I've helped many women meet good men in real life. I can teach you how to do it, even if you're really nervous.
Watch nowCurious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.
Watch nowQuick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
Watch nowThe dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
Watch nowThe right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.
Watch nowAs a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.
Watch nowIf you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.
Watch nowWhat do women really think men want in bed — and do they have it all wrong? Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber reveals the top misconceptions women have about what turns men on — and how these assumptions can sabotage intimacy, connection, and confidence in the…
Watch nowFlirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.
Watch nowAfter 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.
Watch nowStaying too long with the wrong person often means you ignore dealbreakers. Here are warnings to watch for in early dating.
Watch nowThe 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
Watch nowGetting intimate with a new partner? What are the most common questions and concerns daters have about sex after 50 with someone new? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber provides answers to the most common things women and men want to know about having sex again,…
Watch nowFirst dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.
Watch nowThe biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.
Watch nowHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Watch nowSo many midlife women believe they're not enough to deserve love. The truth? You are worthy right now. The work is believing it enough to act.
Watch nowBad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.
Watch nowHow do you meet someone in real life? That’s the top question on the minds of thousands of singles dating over 50 who are tired of online dating. Dating and Relationship Coach Laurie Gerber, who was a resident “love expert” at some of the biggest dating sites, provides…
Watch nowAttraction isn't shallow. It's confidence, presence, and how you make others feel. Here are four practical ways to become more attractive.
Watch nowThe biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
Watch nowFrom the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.
Watch nowExhausted by the apps and wondering if dating is worth it? Modern dating can work, just not the way you've been doing it.
Watch nowFrustrated with dating over 50? According to Dating Coach and Love Expert Laurie Gerber, dating over 50 does not have to be so difficult or frustrating if you apply the “3 Date Rule”. In this video, Laurie explains the 3 Date Rule, and shares the essential dos and don’ts you…
Watch nowLaurie joins Beanstalk: Real Talk for Single Mums to talk about preparing for love again while balancing parenting and self-care.
Watch nowAt our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
Watch nowDo you really know what “your type” is? If you’re dating over 50, your “true type” might have significantly changed from your younger days. What are you really looking for now in a partner? Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber explains why discovering your true…
Watch nowIf dating work isn't paying off, you may be overlooking one key step. This exercise helps you fix your picker using your 3H's.
Watch nowHow to Keep Love Alive—Or Find It Again—After 50. In this episode, we talk about how to stop repeating old patterns, how to use Laurie’s “Three H’s” (Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha) to evaluate love interests, and how to keep connection alive in long-term relationships. Whether you're…
Watch nowIn this episode of the Rocking Midlife® Podcast, I'm joined by New York based life coach and relationship expert Laurie Gerber, who shares her wisdom and practical advice on navigating the modern dating landscape.
Watch nowMom Essentials host Angie Weber talks with Laurie Gerber about the obstacles people face in modern dating, from starting over after divorce to navigating apps, intimacy, and the work of creating meaningful connection.
Watch nowTeaTime Midlife Edition host Regina Young asks Laurie Gerber what it means to date like you mean it—bringing clarity, intention, and honest self-assessment to the search for love in midlife.
Watch nowShot At Love host Kerry Brett and Laurie Gerber get candid about lies of omission, outright misrepresentation, self-worth, and the limiting beliefs that make honesty feel risky in dating and relationships.
Watch nowI keep telling women it's not about whether YOU are good enough. Here's how daddy issues can sneak into your dating picks.
Watch nowWellegant Woman host Karen Viesta talks with Laurie Gerber about the lies that keep women from the love they want—and a practical three-step process for creating more honesty, passion, pleasure, and connection in midlife.
Watch nowUnmatch Me Now host Idan sits down with Laurie Gerber to talk about dating after 50, the promises and pitfalls of dating apps, radical honesty, and balancing the head, the heart, and physical attraction.
Watch nowI had the privilege of sitting down and talking with Laurie Gerber about Dating After Divorce.
Watch nowThe Praying Single Mom host Lekeshia Cody sits down with Laurie Gerber for an honest conversation about dating after divorce, with practical guidance on healing, readiness, and creating a healthier next relationship.
Watch nowSINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
Watch nowModern dating can be confusing and exhausting but it doesn’t have to be this way. In this episode of Too Young To Be Old, Diane dives into the world of dating after 50 with Laurie Gerber, relationship coach and former resident love expert at Match.com. Laurie shares the message…
Watch nowRemember the "click" I talked about? It's when you stop whining, resisting, and fearing, and know you deserve a great partner. What blocks it?
Watch nowThere are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
Watch nowMy first answer: dating is honest work. My second: maybe you don't have to work SO hard, because you may be making it harder.
Watch nowHere is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
Watch nowNo two people want the same holiday. If you haven't talked about what matters most, you'll likely end up stressed and short on what you needed.
Watch nowI know holidays can stir loss, loneliness, and comparison. Gratitude is my antidote, and here are 8 ways to practice it.
Watch nowFacing another solo holiday? You can make peace with being single, handle family questions, and create a delicious season for yourself.
Watch nowRejection is part of dating, but it doesn't have to wreck you. Here are 3 tips to handle it like a pro and keep your heart open.
Watch nowFrustrated your partner can't give you something? Maybe you're expecting the wrong thing. A partner should enhance you, not complete you.
Watch nowNever assume you're monogamous just because you're dating. By Date #3, ask if you both want the same thing before you get attached.
Watch nowYour partner must satisfy your Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha for you to stay happy in love. Here are 4 secrets to evaluate if all three are met.
Watch nowI find secrets hiding in almost every dater I coach. The way out of shame starts with self-love, and here is how to begin.
Watch nowDating without the right ingredients is like making pancakes without eggs. Let me show you how I master love, with real experience.
Watch nowDoes your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
Watch nowI'll be frank: the patriarchy is getting on my nerves. Too much household work still falls to women, and it is not a fair tradeoff.
Watch nowVacations can bring stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out on planning with your loved ones so the vibe stays chill.
Watch nowI'm writing to anyone with or without a father: imagine the dad you wish you'd had, then feel into those traits and all the love you wanted.
Watch nowI see clients struggle with phone promises. Our phones are making us less present, and it is time to change the relationship.
Watch nowIt’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
Watch nowOnce you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
Watch nowI made plenty of relationship excuses: I was better than most, I blamed my partner, then I swore I'd tried everything. Excuses hide the truth.
Watch nowI want your relationship to have a joint dream. Try my favorite dream writing exercises to turn shared values into a vision.
Watch nowCoaching changed my relationship priorities. I had to reexamine my values because what I valued wasn't giving me the love I really wanted.
Watch nowI almost lost my marriage. The fix wasn't more effort. It was doing less and listening more, and the results changed everything.
Watch nowI told my coach I'd tried everything, but I meant nagging, complaining, blaming. My quiz offers new things to try and a fresh start.
Watch nowIn 2021 I kept a New Year's promise for the first time. Here's what I learned about ending your year powerfully, plus my birthday struggles.
Watch nowNo two people want the same holiday. Ask your partner what matters most in a calm moment, or you'll both end up stressed and disappointed.
Watch nowFor years I blamed my partner for my unhappiness. When my coach asked why, I said it was all his fault. Here's what I learned.
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