Dating Challenges

September 3, 2026

Been Ghosted? Ever Done It? Has It Become “Normal”? (Dating After 50)

Why does someone disappear instead of simply saying, “I'm not interested”?

August 27, 2026

Dating After 50: Never Married or Twice Divorced — Who Would You Rather Date?

Someone tells you they're 50 and they've never been married. What's your first thought? Now they tell you they're 50 and they've been married and divorced twice. Do you judge those two people differently? A lot of people do.

Age Gaps

August 20, 2026

5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women

I have coached daters for 20 years, and younger men keep seeking women over 50. You have the upper hand more than you think. Here are 5 reasons.

July 30, 2026

When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask

The third-date rule is not a readiness plan. Here are 6 questions to ask before sex so you can know when you are truly ready.

Dating Apps

July 23, 2026

Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)

Are there emotionally healthy people on dating apps? Fair question. Here is how you can spot securely attached partners and find them.

Attachment Styles

June 25, 2026

How to Stop Repeating Old Relationship Patterns

A woman leaves an unhappy marriage, promises things will be different, then the same fights and slow disappointment return. That is not bad luck.

Attraction

June 23, 2026

Dating After 50: 9 Things You're Doing That Turn People Off

You like them. The conversation seems good. You're being open, interested, and genuine. And then... nothing.

Online Dating

June 18, 2026

The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself

Let me be honest: many women treat online dating like a chore, then feel demoralized. I want to help you show up as yourself.

June 16, 2026

Dating After 50: Afraid to Get Back Out There? How to Handle Early Rejection

Let's be honest, one of the hardest parts of dating after 50 is dealing with rejection.

June 12, 2026

When to Have Sex in a Relationship: The 6 Questions Every Woman Over 50 Must Ask First

Is your hoo-ha writing a check that your heart and head can't cover? In today's Love at Any Age episode, I sit down with dating coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes to hand you an actual checklist: 6 questions you need to be able to answer before sex belongs in your relationship.…

Getting Started

June 11, 2026

The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50

You're over 50 and dating feels exhausting. I've helped hundreds of women at the edge of the dating pool. Here's your complete guide.

June 4, 2026

Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?

My family's tale of Sylvia, who questioned every hat and every salesperson, says a lot about why some men stay single. Let's explore the mindset.

Trust

May 28, 2026

7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)

People lie in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways. I've seen it derail good matches on profiles, first dates, and beyond. The 7 lies.

May 7, 2026

8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want

I coach men too, and the cliches are wrong. High-caliber mature men want something more interesting. Here are 8 things they actually want.

May 7, 2026

From Bad Dates to Real Love: Laurie Gerber's Playbook

Hosts Dr. Nicole Martin and Dr. Tiffany Moon talk with Laurie Gerber on Scrubs to Stilettos about what keeps people single, why women settle into situationships, and how to shift your mindset toward the relationship you actually want.

May 5, 2026

The 3–6–9 Dating Rule? When Things Start to Shift—Here’s What’s Happening

You meet someone… and it feels like this could be it. And then, something shifts.

April 23, 2026

Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?

I'm not judging you if you followed the third-date rule. Here's why it can backfire, and what to weigh before sleeping with someone new.

April 16, 2026

Where Are the Good Men?

I hear it every week: "Where are the good men?" If you think they're all taken or missing, let's talk about what's really happening.

April 9, 2026

Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire

I'm saying what most women over 50 think but don't say: can sex still be great? I brought in an expert who changed how I see desire.

April 7, 2026

It Felt Perfect… Then He Lost Interest — And You Didn’t See It (Dating After 50)

Have you ever walked away from a few great dates thinking… “This is going somewhere”… and then it doesn’t?

Healing

March 12, 2026

Handling Rejection After 50 Without Losing Hope

Rejection hurts at any age. The work isn't avoiding it; it's moving through it without making it a verdict on your worth.

March 5, 2026

5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast

If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.

Attraction

February 19, 2026

6 Mistakes Well-Intentioned Men Make That Turn Women Off (Dating After 50)

The men who struggle the most dating after 50 aren’t the jerks, they’re the good guys.

February 12, 2026

4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date

Dating after 50? Chemistry isn't the only thing that matters. These 4 first-date questions help you spot a partner who fits your real life.

February 12, 2026

EP 30: Momentum vs. Trust, A Woman’s Perspective vs A Man’s Street Lessons (Part 1 of 2)

Laurie is a guest on the Midlife Dating Podcast with Paul Nelson, comparing a woman’s perspective with a man’s street lessons on momentum and trust in dating (Part 1 of 2).

February 5, 2026

Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most

If you're dating after 50, I want to talk about what doesn't work: you. Liability compatibility means having the awkward conversations.

January 15, 2026

EP 29: I Scored 104/100 on a Dating Quiz… and Still Needed Help

Laurie is a guest on the Midlife Dating Podcast with Paul Nelson, episode 29.

Commitment

January 13, 2026

Dating After 50: The Friend Zone for Women — When He Likes You But He Won’t Commit

The “friend zone” isn’t the same for men and women, and that misunderstanding keeps many women stuck in almost-relationships that never turn into commitment.

Confidence

January 2, 2026

Self-Love After 50: 6 Hidden Obstacles That Block Love

Thinking about dating again? I say there's no expiration date on love. Here are 6 hidden obstacles blocking you. You are not too late.

Healing

December 12, 2025

💔How to Give and Receive Rejection Without Shutting Down

If the fear of rejection has ever kept you on the sidelines of dating (or sent you running back there), this week’s Love at Any Age episode is for you. I can’t take away the fear, but I want to help you move forward despite it.

December 11, 2025

Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them

If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…

December 5, 2025

🚦5 Dating Mistakes You May Still Make (and Exactly How to Stop Making Them)

In this week’s episode of Love at Any Age, I’ll reveal the five most common mistakes women make that sabotage their dating experience—and how to fix them before they derail a great match.

November 21, 2025

💬Here’s How to Talk About the Hard Stuff (without Scaring Him Off)

Dating over 50 isn’t just about chemistry — it’s about 3H (head, heart, and hoo-ha) compatibility. And sometimes that means having the awkward conversations we’d all rather skip. In this week’s episode of my podcast, Love at Any Age, I teach you how to talk about the things that…

November 18, 2025

Haven’t Found The One? The Unrealistic Expectations Keeping You Single After 50!

Dating after 50 isn’t the problem, our expectations often are. We carry old beliefs, past heartbreak, and outdated dating rules into new situations… and then wonder why nothing feels right. Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down the most common…

Divorce

October 30, 2025

Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?

I wish my kids had taken a gap year before college. Now I think divorced daters need one too, a fling year before anything gets serious.

October 23, 2025

4 Bad Reasons 50+ Women Quit Dating (and 1 Good One)

Women quit dating for four understandable reasons, but they are the wrong ones. Here is the one good reason to pause, too.

October 10, 2025

Dating Over 50: 5 Most Awkward (and Common) Dating Situations 😬 What to Say & Do!

One of the biggest reasons people hesitate to jump back into dating after 50? The fear of awkward moments! 😬 Whether you’re a man or a woman, midlife dating is full of common situations that can catch you off guard — (like they don’t look anything like their profile pics!)

September 25, 2025

Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?

Dating men with more years behind them? Stop worrying you'll become a nurse or purse. I'll show you a better alternative.

September 18, 2025

What to Expect When Dating a Man Over 50

If you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…

September 11, 2025

5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal

Cringe stories shouldn't keep you from dating. With a little prep, you can handle 5 awkward situations and feel more confident.

Divorce

September 11, 2025

Dating Over 50: The Top Mistakes Women Make Dating After Divorce 🚫 (Are You Doing These?)

Dating after divorce at 50 isn’t easy, and jumping back in too soon can lead to disappointment, heartbreak, or getting stuck in the same patterns. Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down the biggest mistakes women make dating after divorce and how to avoid…

August 21, 2025

Dating Over 50: Do Older Men Really ONLY Want Younger Women? What's Real and What's Not!

“Older men only want younger women.” 🙄 We’ve all heard it—but is it really the truth, or just a prevalent belief that holds people back from finding love? In this candid conversation, Dating Coach & Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber takes a closer and no-holds-barred look at…

Trust

August 15, 2025

How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?

On our first date, he said we should brush our teeth before we kissed. I was mortified, but it led to a great kiss and 27 years of marriage.

Intimacy

August 14, 2025

The Real Reason So Many Women Fake Orgasms—And What To Do About It

Why do so many women fake orgasms? The reasons go beyond the physical, and there is a path to more pleasure and more honesty.

August 12, 2025

Dating Over 50: The First 3 Dates—What to Do and the WORST Ideas to Avoid! 🚫 No More Date Fails!

Ready to stop wasting time on awkward, boring, or downright disastrous dates? 💥 Whether you're newly single or back in the dating scene over 50, your first three dates are the MOST Important! Dating Coach and Relationship Expert Laurie Gerber breaks down: ✅ The BEST ideas for…

August 7, 2025

3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter

Good banter keeps the spark alive online. Use my do's and don'ts to move from messages to a video chat and then a real date.

August 7, 2025

The Problem with "Love Languages" in Early Dating

Trying to show love but your partner feels the opposite? In early dating, love languages can mismatch like rupees and rubles.

Confidence

July 31, 2025

Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize

Ever Googled "Am I undateable?" If you're asking, you probably aren't. Reflective women are dateable, but there are 6 things to check.

July 31, 2025

How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow

Feel like you're pulling teeth to get a man talking? The secret isn't more questions. It's real listening, and it makes you more attractive.

July 24, 2025

30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better

As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.

Intimacy

July 17, 2025

How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction

Sex can be a big dating concern. I give you the lowdown on erectile dysfunction so you can support a partner and protect intimacy.

Trust

July 17, 2025

The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating

Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!

Dating Apps

July 10, 2025

Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck

Dating app burnout isn't inevitable. I'll show you how to stay in the game and keep your sanity when every swipe feels like a soul-suck.

Dating Profiles

July 3, 2025

The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them

As a dating coach, I see women over 50 sabotaging their profiles with group photos, cliches, and negativity. Here is how to fix it.

Emotional Availability

June 26, 2025

5 Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted Forever 🚫👻

Being ghosted hurts. I explain what ghosting is and share 5 tips to avoid it, so you can date with less confusion and more confidence.

June 19, 2025

What Do Older Women Think Men Want—and Are They Right?

What do men actually want? We explore whether mature women really know, or if we're repeating assumptions and insecurities.

Emotional Availability

June 19, 2025

Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching

Ghosted and reeling? Here is the coaching: stop falling for people whose words don't match their actions, and choose better.

June 5, 2025

Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?

Curious what a professional matchmaker really does? I sat down with Jill Dunn to talk dating app burnout and long-term success.

Online Dating

May 29, 2025

7 Best Dating Sites for Women Over 50 in 2026 (Reviewed by a Dating Coach)

The dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…

May 22, 2025

10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters

The right questions early on matter more than chemistry. I'll share my Spark Questions to help you date with clarity and have more fun.

Online Dating

May 22, 2025

Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind

As a dating coach, I help women cut through the chaos of choosing a dating site or app when there are simply too many choices.

May 17, 2025

Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?

If you're post-menopausal and dating, sex can get better. Let's talk about what changes and what pleasure can look like now.

Attraction

May 8, 2025

How to Flirt Naturally (and Still Be Your Authentic Self): Clean and Dirtier Come-ons Included

Flirt game rusty? You do not need cheesy lines. I have natural body language tips plus clean and dirtier lines that still sound like you.

May 8, 2025

How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes

After 20 years studying dating, I found the biggest mistakes women make can be avoided. Meet your 3H voters: Head, Heart, and Hoo-Ha.

May 1, 2025

Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid

The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.

April 25, 2025

Fun First Date Ideas

Before a first date, chat enough to check your 3H criteria. Then pick a quiet coffee, wine, or walk and talk to see if chemistry is there.

April 17, 2025

Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid

First dates can be nerve-wracking, but most mistakes are avoidable. Here are the biggest first-date mistakes and how to steer clear.

April 17, 2025

Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating

The biggest midlife dating mistake is staying with the wrong person out of loneliness. Learn to assess compatibility from the start.

April 10, 2025

Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?

Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.

April 3, 2025

Worst Date Ideas

Bad dates are the worst. Here are my tips from 20 years of coaching for your first three dates, so you can skip the crappy ones.

April 3, 2025

Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People

I hear women overwhelmed by online dating all the time. Canned responses can make your messages charming, clear, and much easier.

March 20, 2025

What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?

The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.

Boundaries

March 13, 2025

You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction

From the first text to the first awkward silence, you're teaching someone how to treat you. Think back to the behaviors you ignored early on.

Age Gaps

March 7, 2025

The Big Myth About Older Men and Younger Women: Busted!

The myth that men only want younger women gets clicks because it stings. It isn't a universal truth, and I'll show you why.

May 9, 2024

A Female Dating Coach Perspective

School of Attraction host Damien Diecke welcomes Laurie Gerber for a candid woman’s-eye view of modern dating, including the mistakes men and women repeat, how approaches land, and what creates a more honest connection.