Some men are narcissists.

Some men are full of themselves.

Most men are neither.

Bad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!

Almost every day I hear about the overwhelm and exhaustion women feel when engaged in online dating.

Have you ever just wished you knew all the tricks to make it easier?

So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs that a man is interested in you.

You may think it seems shallow to care about being attractive. But it is the most important element that determines whether or not you will find a love match.

Did you know? You are teaching someone how to treat you from the very first interaction. If you are wondering why someone treats you a particular way, think back to the behaviors you ignored or didn’t speak up about at the beginning.

Are you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it?

I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.

The myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women.

But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth. 

At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner.

You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.

If you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy relationships start with smart choices, and that includes making sure your first date and beyond are safe experiences.

If you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.

A few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating.

“It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”

SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!

What happens if you are not OVER your divorce?

You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!

Remember when I talked about “the click”?

It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.

My first answer is, dating is an honest job and you DO need to be willing to put in the work. Finding your soulmate does take time and a good attitude, like any other important accomplishment.

It’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step!

You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk.

So, make sure you’ve done your homework!

Follow these steps for success on Valentine’s Day.

1) Write down how you want to feel on Valentine’s Day.

2) Share what you wrote with your mate and ask them how they want to feel on Valentine’s Day..

It’s a new year and I hope lasting healthy love is on the top of your list of goals for the year!

If so, here is your checklist for preparation:

If you are looking for New Year’s resolutions for your love life, take this quiz!

Are you showing up the way you want to show up? If not, this quiz will give you some very good ideas for improvement.