If you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.

As a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship.

But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?

The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.

A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link.

This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!

Good news, everyone is making the same mistakes and they are fixable.

To save you boredom, frustration and heartache, don’t make these FIRST DATE mistakes:

Some men are narcissists.

Some men are full of themselves.

Most men are neither.

Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating?

Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!

A few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating.

“It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”

What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…

My name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!

Quick question:

What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?

At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner.

You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.

SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!

What happens if you are not OVER your divorce?

You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!

If you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching:

STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!

Remember when I talked about “the click”?

It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.

My first answer is, dating is an honest job and you DO need to be willing to put in the work. Finding your soulmate does take time and a good attitude, like any other important accomplishment.

It’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step!

You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk.

So, make sure you’ve done your homework!

Are you tired of struggling to get your dates/your partner to open up and share their thoughts and feelings?

Does it sometimes feel like you're interrogating them instead of having a real conversation? Or do they accuse you of that? 😇

So, you aren’t attracted at first, but you’re lonely, and you are looking for the love of your life!

And maybe you haven't made such good choices in the past when you picked based on what you were attracted to, so….