If you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.

As a dating coach for women over 50, I give my clients a checklist of things to do. First you need to do some personal growth and reflection on your past.

Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating?

Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!

A few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating.

“It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”

What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…

SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!

What happens if you are not OVER your divorce?

You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!

If you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching:

STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!

Remember when I talked about “the click”?

It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.

What’s the click?

It’s that moment when you go from being a victim of your past failures in love to being the author of a brave new chapter of love-hunting!

There are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!

My first answer is, dating is an honest job and you DO need to be willing to put in the work. Finding your soulmate does take time and a good attitude, like any other important accomplishment.

Do you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach?

These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.

It’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step!

You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk.

So, make sure you’ve done your homework!

Are you tired of struggling to get your dates/your partner to open up and share their thoughts and feelings?

Does it sometimes feel like you're interrogating them instead of having a real conversation? Or do they accuse you of that? 😇

So, you aren’t attracted at first, but you’re lonely, and you are looking for the love of your life!

And maybe you haven't made such good choices in the past when you picked based on what you were attracted to, so….

Thank you for being you. Thank you for being vulnerable and dreaming of a healthy love that lasts.

Thank you for keeping your heart open and seeking help and inspiration.

Follow these steps for success on Valentine’s Day.

1) Write down how you want to feel on Valentine’s Day.

2) Share what you wrote with your mate and ask them how they want to feel on Valentine’s Day..

Have you ever found yourself at the end of an exhausting fight shocked that, after investing in someone feeling loved, they felt, well, just the opposite?

It’s a new year and I hope lasting healthy love is on the top of your list of goals for the year!

If so, here is your checklist for preparation: