How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction
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When you think about dating, one of your major concerns might be about sex.
In fact, sex is what differentiates a long-term love partner from just another friend. As a dating coach, I want to give you the best chance at healthy, lasting love, and that means giving you the lowdown on the most common sex issues older couples face.
How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
Quick, without thinking hard, name the top three fights you always have with your partner.
My husband and I fight about money. I am more nervous and controlling, he is more trusting and generous. We fight when we’re hosting guests. Again, he thinks everything will turn out fine. I think he’s checked out, and I think worrying and controlling get the job done. Lastly, if I think we’re having sex, I’ll start a fight...
Popcorning: What it is, Why You Do it, And Why you Have to Stop
Popcorning: Interrupting your partner (popping in) to get attention on whatever you want to discuss. Distinguishing feature: it could happen at any time!
Couples have been complaining about “popcorning'' for years but it got WAY worse in the pandemic when we were all living on top of each other.
Become More Competent at Love: Learn the Art of The Bandaid Trade 🩹
It’s scary to rip off a bandaid. That's why you just have to commit and do it all at once. It stings for a few seconds, and then it’s over –the wound can breathe, and do its last steps of healing!
Giving your partner feedback about something that is not working is a lot like that.
Do You Have Integrity in Love? It's Urgent You Analyze These 3 Things!
Have you ever asked yourself if you have integrity when it comes to love?
Most people don’t think of integrity the way the Handel Group lays it out. The Handel Method™ teaches that there are 3 levels or forms of integrity…
The Mind-Blowing Truth About Fake Orgasms! A Go-To Guide to More Pleasure
According to Journal of Sex Research, 67% of heterosexual women admit to occasionally faking orgasms. And just remember, that’s the number that’s admitting it! Here’s another fun statistic. Only 20 percent of men think their partners might fake their orgasms…
15 Excuses for Bad Relationships and Why They Are Actually Certified Crap 💩
Not everyone can afford private coaching, but everyone deserves somebody to help them debunk their favorite excuses about why relationships don’t work.
Allow me to debunk the most popular 15 excuses I hear, by category….
Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
These Excuses are Killing Your Relationship
Everyone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything.
There is nothing wrong with excuses except t
The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Last week, I told you I’d explain how my sense of priorities in relationship changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
I Found a Better Purpose for My Marriage, Have You?
I promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
Why My Coach had a Great Marriage and I Didn’t
"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
How I Almost Lost My Marriage
The only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it.
Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…
You Have Not Tried Everything!
I remember while complaining about my relationship, telling my coach “I've tried everything!”
And by “everything” I meant, nagging, complaining, blaming and trying to “be nice.” My quiz will give you LOTS of new ideas for things to try that have been proven to help relationships…
Avoid the Top 3 Relationship Pitfalls: Holiday Edition
No two people conceive of vacations the same way. No two people want the same thing from their holiday. Have you discussed what’s most important to your partner, in a calm moment?
If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes…
Are you a Good Lover?
This is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb.
The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things.
Here is the most useful definition of love…
Whose Fault is It?
Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy!
Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS!
Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple:
IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT.
Here is what I told my coach were the issues…
My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?
It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between.
I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve taken away a very important learning…