How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction

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When you think about dating, one of your major concerns might be about sex.

In fact, sex is what differentiates a long-term love partner from just another friend. As a dating coach, I want to give you the best chance at healthy, lasting love, and that means giving you the lowdown on the most common sex issues older couples face.

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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣

Quick, without thinking hard, name the top three fights you always have with your partner.

My husband and I fight about money. I am more nervous and controlling, he is more trusting and generous. We fight when we’re hosting guests. Again, he thinks everything will turn out fine. I think he’s checked out, and I think worrying and controlling get the job done. Lastly, if I think we’re having sex, I’ll start a fight...

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Popcorning: What it is, Why You Do it, And Why you Have to Stop

Popcorning: Interrupting your partner (popping in) to get attention on whatever you want to discuss. Distinguishing feature: it could happen at any time!

Couples have been complaining about “popcorning'' for years but it got WAY worse in the pandemic when we were all living on top of each other.

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These Excuses are Killing Your Relationship

Everyone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything.

There is nothing wrong with excuses except t

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How I Almost Lost My Marriage

The only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it.

Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…

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You Have Not Tried Everything!

I remember while complaining about my relationship, telling my coach “I've tried everything!”

And by “everything” I meant, nagging, complaining, blaming and trying to “be nice.” My quiz will give you LOTS of new ideas for things to try that have been proven to help relationships…

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Are you a Good Lover?

This is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb.

The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things.

Here is the most useful definition of love…

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Whose Fault is It?

Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy!

Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS!

Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple:

IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT.

Here is what I told my coach were the issues…

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My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?

It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between.

I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve taken away a very important learning…

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