"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…

The only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it.

Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…

I remember while complaining about my relationship, telling my coach “I've tried everything!”

And by “everything” I meant, nagging, complaining, blaming and trying to “be nice.” My quiz will give you LOTS of new ideas for things to try that have been proven to help relationships…

On January 1st, 2021, I made a promise to myself, and on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021, I kept that promise–for the first time in my life.

I’m going to tell you all about it, as a way to talk about making your year end powerfully and meaningfully…

No two people conceive of vacations the same way. No two people want the same thing from their holiday. Have you discussed what’s most important to your partner, in a calm moment?

If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes…

This is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb.

The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things.

Here is the most useful definition of love…

Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy!

Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS!

Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple:

IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT.

Here is what I told my coach were the issues…

It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between.

I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve taken away a very important learning…