Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
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If you've been staring at your divorce papers, wondering whether your window for love has closed, I have someone I want you to meet.
I recently sat down with Lauren Handel Zander. She's the creator of the Handel Method, my former boss, my mentor, and the woman whose framework forms the backbone of everything I teach as a dating coach..
She also got divorced at 52 after a 25-year marriage, which she never saw coming apart.
And she found her person.
Are you a Good Lover?
This is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb.
The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things.
Here is the most useful definition of love…
Whose Fault is It?
Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy!
Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS!
Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple:
IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT.
Here is what I told my coach were the issues…
My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?
It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between.
I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve taken away a very important learning…