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Why Good Enough Beats Perfect in the Dating Game
You keep swiping because you're sure someone better is one profile away. Here's why good enough on Head, Heart, and Hoo-ha beats hunting for a 10, and how to know by date three.
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How to Communicate in a Relationship: Laurie Gerber's Complete Guide
If you keep having the same fight, or you swallow what you need to say because you are afraid of scaring him off, communication is probably the real issue. In this guide, I break down how to be honest earlier, listen without preparing your defense, apologize in a way that…
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3 Signs a Recently Divorced Man Is Ready to Date
Dating a divorced man means his former marriage, ex, and family dynamics may come with him. But those complications do not automatically mean he is unavailable. These three green flags show whether he has actually healed, knows what he wants, and can build a serious relationship…
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Sex and Intimacy After 50: The Complete Guide
Desire does not disappear after 50. But your body, confidence, and needs may change. This candid guide covers menopause, libido, body image, erectile dysfunction, sexual health, and the conversations that make intimacy better. If you are ready to stop treating this part of life…
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5 Reasons Men Are Drawn to Older Women
I have coached daters for over 20 years, and one theme keeps getting louder every year. Younger men (and of course older men) are actively seeking out older women, and it is a real, growing part of the dating world. If you are a woman over 50 wondering whether you still have…
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First Dates After 50: The Complete Guide to Early Dating
If you're over 50 and standing at the edge of dating again, first dates feel enormous. More than they did at 30. More than they probably should. That's because at this age, you know things. You know what a bad relationship costs. You know how fast years go. You know you're not…
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5 Telltale Signs of Relationship Incompatibility
You matched on a dating app, or maybe a friend set you up, and the first date felt promising enough to keep going. For a minute, you let yourself hope this could be it. Then a few weeks in, something feels off. You can't quite name it, but the excitement fades faster than it…
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When to Have Sex While Dating: 6 Questions to Ask
The dating game after 50 comes with a lot of unwritten rules. The biggest one? The third date is when sex is supposed to happen. Maybe you followed that rule. Maybe you walked away from a promising new relationship wondering why romantic relationships that felt so real suddenly…
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Are There Securely Attached People on Dating Apps? (And How Do You Find Them?)
If you've spent more than ten minutes on online dating apps, you may have asked yourself: "Are there any emotionally healthy people on here at all?" Fair question. Because sometimes dating apps can feel like a strange social experiment where 1 person wants a soulmate, another…
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Living Apart Together: Is It the Right Choice for You?
The number one concern I hear from many daters is: there are not enough eligible people where I live. My heart goes out to you. It's enough to make you give up altogether. On the other hand, I meet happy couples every day who started (or even remained) in a long-distance…
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6 Red Flags in Dating Over 50 You Keep Ignoring
Most of us don't miss the red flags. We see them. We just talk ourselves out of what we saw. I've been helping women in the dating pool for over 20 years, and I will tell you with total certainty: the problem is rarely that you're oblivious. The problem is that you're hopeful.…
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Changed these 3 things in Dating Profile and Was Shocked by The Results!
You know the feeling. You've spent hours on your profile. You answered the prompts, picked a few photos, filled in the basics, and hit "publish." Then... crickets. Or worse, messages from men who seem like they wandered in from a different planet. Here's what I want you to know:…
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How to Stop Repeating Old Relationship Patterns
Here's a story I've heard a hundred times. A woman finally gets out of an unhappy marriage. She promises herself: this time, things will be different. She gets back in the dating game, meets someone new, and then, slowly, a familiar feeling creeps in. Same fights. Same dynamic.…
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The Complete Guide to Apps, Profiles, and Showing Up Like Yourself
Let me be honest with you about online dating. Most women over 50 approach it like a chore they've been assigned, at best. They download an app, spend ten minutes on a profile, upload a photo from three years ago, and wait to see what happens. Then they come to me completely…
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The Complete Guide to Finding Love Again After 50
I've helped hundreds of women through this exact moment: standing at the edge of the dating pool, wondering whether the water is too cold, whether anyone will even be there, whether you are somehow too late.
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Why Is a Man Over 50 Still Single?
In my family, there is a famous story about my grandmother Sylvia, who came to the US from Poland in the 1930s. Sylvia was notoriously skeptical, untrusting, and frugal. She could spend hours in a store examining potential purchases and still leave with nothing. No decision came…
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7 Things People Lie About in Dating Over 50 (And Why It Matters More Than You Think)
If you've been in the dating pool for any amount of time, especially in your later years, you already know this: People lie. Not always in big, dramatic, scammy ways. Not always with bad intentions. But in small, strategic, sometimes unconscious ways that can derail your chance…
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Dating Over 50: How to Actually Feel Good About It Again
Dating over 50 can feel like stepping into a whole new world. And not the cute "new adventure" kind of way. More like: Wait, what is this? Why does everything feel harder?
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Attracting The Wrong Men After 50? The Real Reason
If you are a smart, self-aware woman who has done the inner work and still ended up in a romantic relationship that looks exactly like the last one, hear this: you are not broken. You are unconsciously running a pattern. And patterns can be changed. Dating over 50 brings a…
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8 Things High-Caliber Mature Men Actually Want
As a dating coach, I hear it constantly. "Men just want someone younger." "Older men just want sex." "The older guys on dating sites just want a caretaker." I get why women believe this. The dating world can feel brutal, especially after a long marriage or years on your own. But…
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Dating After Divorce: What Really Works Over 50
If you've been staring at your divorce papers, wondering whether your window for love has closed, I have someone I want you to meet. I recently sat down with Lauren Handel Zander. She's the creator of the Handel Method, my former boss, my mentor, and the woman whose framework…
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Should I Have Sex on the 3rd date?
One of the biggest mistakes women make when they first get back into dating, especially after a divorce or a long dry spell, is having sex on the 1st date, the 2nd date, or following the famous "third date rule" on the long-awaited 3rd date. I’m not judging you. I understand it.
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Where Are the Good Men?
I hear this every week. “Laurie, where are the good men?” "I can't seem to find any." "I don't think there are any good ones left." "All the good ones are taken." "I've been on the dating apps, and there are none there. Where are they?"
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Sex Over 50: What Nobody Tells You About Desire
I am going to say the thing most women over 50 are thinking but not saying out loud: I am not sure I can have a great sex life anymore. Maybe you have quietly decided that the chapter is closed. Maybe the physical changes, the low libido, the vaginal dryness, the hot flashes,…
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How (Not) To Use AI For Your Dating Profiles
I had a small breakdown recently. Not a dramatic one. Don't worry. But I was struggling. A client sent me his dating app profile, and the second I read it, I knew. ChatGPT wrote it. Not him. And something in me cracked.
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Are You Sending Mixed Signals? 7 Things Women Say They Want and What They Really Mean
What men say—over and over—is that women tend to speak in signals instead of just asking directly for what they want. And here’s the uncomfortable truth: most women aren’t doing that on purpose. They’re doing it because they don’t actually know what they want yet.
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Dating Over 50: Are Your Girlfriends Helping or Hurting?
Dating over 50 is brave. Tender. Hopeful. And yet—sometimes the hardest part isn’t the men.
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Handling Rejection After 50 Without Losing Hope
Romantic rejection is part of life. It always has been. But that doesn’t mean rejection hurts less just because you’re older or wiser. What changes after 50 is the emotional reaction it can trigger and the meaning we sometimes attach to it.
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5 Dating Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make — And How to Stop Them Fast
If you are dating over 50, here is the good news. Dating can actually get better with age. Not easier. But better.
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The "One" Didn’t Get Away: Letting Go and Moving Forward
First of all, there is no ONE “the one.” Second of all, this notion that your "one" got away, whether because: He picked someone else You picked someone else He had an insurmountable issue He died As a relationship coach, I can tell you: It just isn’t true.
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How to Tell if a Man is Ready for Long-Term Commitment
One of the biggest reasons women grow tired of online dating is simple: it can feel like a waste of time. Based on years of work as a dating coach, I can tell you this: only a portion of the people on dating apps are genuinely ready for a committed relationship or a long-term…
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4 Types of Questions to ask on the First Date
If you’re dating again after 50, the first thing to remember is this: chemistry is not the only thing that matters. You can have a good time, enjoy the small talk, even feel sparks on a first date, and still end up with a partner who is all wrong for the kind of life you…
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Liability Compatibility: Why the Awkward Conversations Matter Most
If you’re over 50 and spending any time in today’s dating scene—or even just warming up to the idea of dating again—I want to talk about something most people would rather avoid. I want to talk about what doesn’t work.
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The 3-Date Strategy: Key Signs He’s the Right Guy After 50
If you’re back in the dating world after 50, you already know what’s changed. There are more options, more confusion, more false starts, and more ways to lose time with someone who was never really right for you. What I want for you instead is clarity. Not eventually. Not after…
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How to Know What You Want in Love After 50
If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I want anymore,” you’re not alone. That moment usually comes after a lot of heartbreaks, compromises, and the quiet realization that your love life didn’t turn out the way you once imagined.
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The Secret Reason You're Not Ready for Love: How to Detox from Your Past Relationships
If dating feels like the same movie playing over and over—same type of person, same disappointment, same ending—you’re not imagining it. And no, this is not because you’re “bad at dating.” It’s not because the dating pool dried up. It’s not because you waited too long. What’s…
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The One Pattern That Subconsciously Wrecks Midlife Dating (and How to Stop It) 💥
If you keep dating the same types of men… It’s not because you’re “bad at dating.” Even if you're in midlife or beyond, you haven't "missed your window." And as I say in my podcast "Love at Any Age", love has no expiration date.
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Self-Love After 50: 6 Hidden Obstacles That Block Love
If you’re thinking about dating again after a long time — or maybe you’re wondering whether you even want to try — I want to start by saying this: there is no expiration date on love. You are not too late.
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How Women Can Get Ready for Dating Sunday and Make Their Love Resolution Come True
If finding love (or getting back out there) is going to make your New Year’s resolution list, this is your perfect moment. The holiday season will soon be over, and everyone’s in that new beginnings mindset. Are you ready?
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Ready to date again after 50? Laurie Gerber shares 10 practical, soulful steps to prepare your head, heart, and hoo-ha for real love—starting now.
If you’re over 50 and thinking about dating again—whether it’s been a few months, or a few decades, or since your last heartbreak—it’s time to get intentional. No more winging it, hoping for chemistry, or letting the dating apps decide your fate. You get to do this your way:…
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Dating Over 50: 8 Unrealistic Expectations That Keep You Single — And How to Shift Them
If you’re dating over 50 and wondering why it feels harder than ever to find your person, you’re not imagining it. The dating landscape has changed — and so have we. You’ve lived, loved, raised kids, maybe divorced, maybe lost a partner. You’ve learned a lot about yourself. But…
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We're Finding Love On My New Podcast: Love At Any Age
At the beginning of 2025, I promised myself I'd start my own podcast. I had rejected the idea of it in the past because it seemed like too much work, but THIS felt like the year!
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Giving Thanks for Past Loves: How Gratitude Heals the Heart
In this season of thanks-giving, I am going to lay out an unpopular opinion: Every choice in love you’ve made in the past has been in your best interest! "What, Laurie?" You must be asking yourself if I’ve gone off the deep end.
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Body Image and Dating Over 50: What’s Really Holding You Back
In response to a recent article about reasons not to date common in women over 50, I received this comment: “All valid points. What is holding me back is my weight (overweight now) and having been celibate for over 10 years, the thought of intimacy. My body has cellulite, rolls…
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How to Answer eHarmony Prompts (Especially for Women Dating Over 50)
If you’ve dipped your toe into the modern world of dating apps, you’ve probably noticed they all have one thing in common — you have to work them if you want them to work for you.
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4 Myths About the Dating Site Algorithm That Need Busting
Do the apps secretly rate your attractiveness? Are you being punished for swiping too much? And is there really a way to “beat the system”?
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Post-Divorce Casual Dating: To Fling or Not to Fling?
Two of my three kids are grown, so I think I can safely say now that I wish they had taken a gap year between high school and college, or during college. At least they studied abroad. The amount of worldly knowledge and independence they gained from studying abroad got me…
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4 Bad Reasons 50+ Women Quit Dating (and 1 Good One)
For every woman in the 50+ age group who responds to one of my articles, hopeful about dating again, an equal number write back with a heavy sigh: “Never again. I’m done.”
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Get Better at Dating With "Main Character" Energy
If you’re a woman over 50 and haven’t done at least 7 of the 10 things I’ve listed below, you may be missing out on your “Main Character Era.”
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Unpopular Opinion: Men Over 50 Deserve a 2nd Chance
I don’t mean get back together with the man you divorced. I certainly don’t mean stay with someone who abuses you. I mean, in early dating—even in texting. I mean, when something rubs you the wrong way and you’re ready to call it quits before chemistry has had a chance to…
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I Can’t Fix Your Dating Profile Without These 2 Things
I get this a lot as a dating coach: Women send me their online dating profile to analyze—as if I could tell them whether it’s “good” or “bad” without knowing them first. That’s not how it works.
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Thinking About Dating Older Men: But Don’t Want to Be A Nurse Or A Purse?
Once women are done complaining to me about how older men are only looking for younger women, they turn around and complain that they’ll end up being an older man’s nurse, purse, or, dreadfully, both!
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What to Expect When Dating a Man Over 50
If you’re a woman in later years looking for a mature man around your own age, there are some things you should expect. This list isn't meant to scare you—it’s to help you experience the dating scene with greater ease. First off, they might help you feel less crazy, because if…
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5 Most Awkward Dating Situations and How to Deal
You might be hesitant to jump back into the dating scene because you’ve heard stories from your girlfriends about some truly cringe-worthy moments. But here’s the good news: with a little preparation from your trusted dating coach, you can walk into any date feeling confident,…
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So you have an STD, To Date or Not To Date?
Once upon a time, I used to coach people in weekend workshops. About 15 people would sit in a circle in my living room and talk about their secrets and lies. The premise of the retreat was: “the truth will set you free.” I did a whole TedX talk about it.
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Why Your First Date Should Be a Video Chat
If you met online, your first date should not be a glass of wine at a noisy bar. It should be a video call. Full stop. I know, I know. It’s not the fantasy. But we’re grown-ups now. With real-time energy levels, complicated schedules, and no time (or patience) for last-minute…
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The Do's and Don'ts of Dating Site Prompts
You finally open up the dating app, and there it is—the blank box next to "What makes you unique?" You freeze. Is this the best place to share your love of New York bagels? Is it too soon to mention your three divorces and obsession with Candy Crush?
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How Honest Should You Be on a First Date?
Let’s brush our teeth before we kiss, he said on our first date, implying I had bad breath! I was mortified. But I brushed my teeth, and we had a great first kiss. That was decades ago, and now we’ve been married 27 years. When asked how I knew he was the right person, I harken…
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The Real Reason So Many Women Fake Orgasms—And What To Do About It
According to Journal of Sex Research, 67% of heterosexual women admit to occasionally faking orgasms. And just remember, that’s the number that’s admitting it! Here’s another fun statistic. Only 20 percent of men think their partners might fake their orgasms…
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3 Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating Banter
When you first spot someone on a dating app and your interest is piqued, the next big step is kicking off some fun, flirty banter. Since they can’t read your body language, your online banter has to carry all the weight of making that initial spark happen.
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The Problem with "Love Languages" in Early Dating
Have you ever found yourself at the end of an exhausting fight shocked that, after investing in someone feeling loved, they felt, well, just the opposite?
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Are You Undateable? 6 Things You May Not Realize
If you’ve ever secretly Googled “Am I undateable?”—first of all, hi, welcome, you’re in good company. Second, the fact that you’re asking that question probably means you’re not. Truly. Single women who are reflective, curious, and willing to assess their love life honestly are…
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How Do I Get a Man to Talk to me? 5 Great Ways to Make a Conversation Flow
Are you tired of struggling to get your dates/your partner to open up and share their thoughts and feelings? Does it sometimes feel like you're interrogating them instead of having a real conversation? Or do they accuse you of that? 😇
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30 Dating Questions to Ask To Get to Know Someone Better
As a relationship expert, my mission is to help you stop wasting time on dead-end dates and find someone who’s a good match for you for long-term love. By "good match," I mean you are "in sync" on all 3H's: your head, your heart, and your hoo-ha.
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Navigating Dating with Ease: 4 Tips for Soothing Anxiety
Do you wish you could get excited about dating but find yourself battling pesky anxiety butterflies in your stomach? These 4 things have helped my clients immensely with dating anxiety.
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How Women Over 50 Can Support a Partner with Erectile Dysfunction
When you think about dating, one of your major concerns might be about sex. In fact, sex is what differentiates a long-term love partner from just another friend. As a dating coach, I want to give you the best chance at healthy, lasting love, and that means giving you the…
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The New "Honesty Is The Best Policy" In Dating
Is Honesty the Best Policy in Dating? Now that you are dating over 50, you can finally be honest!
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Top Advice for Dating App Fatigue When Every Swipe is a Soul-Suck
If you’ve ever slumped onto your couch after a dating app session feeling drained, disheartened, or downright numb, you’re not alone. Dating app fatigue is real, especially for women over 50 looking for a meaningful relationship.
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What Makes 2 People TRULY Compatible: It's Not What You Think
What makes two people truly compatible? It’s not what you think…
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The Worst Dating Profile Mistakes Women Over 50 Still Make—And How to Fix Them
Dating apps and dating sites can open up a world of possibilities, even after 50—but only if you know how to use them wisely. As a dating coach, I see the same worst dating profile mistakes over and over again, especially from attractive women who should be having a good time…
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Should I Give A Guy I Wasn't Attracted To A Second Chance?
So, you aren’t attracted at first, but you’re lonely, and you are looking for the love of your life! And maybe you haven't made such good choices in the past when you picked based on what you were attracted to, so….
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Dating After Divorce: How to Do It the Right Way
Dating after divorce can feel like stepping into a strange new world—especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a long time. You might feel like the dating pool has changed, the rules are unclear, and your comfort zone is nowhere to be found. But here's good news: not…
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5 Tips to Avoid Being Ghosted Forever 🚫👻
One of the main complaints I hear from daters is about BEING GHOSTED. Ghosting is a pretty new term. I know because my 80-year old dad said “huh, what’s that?” He stopped dating before computers, texting and online dating sites. You could still ghost someone in those days– but…
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What Do Older Women Think Men Want—and Are They Right?
If you're a mature woman trying to make sense of modern dating, you’ve probably asked yourself: What do men actually want? Are they after “just sex,” younger women (only), a casual fling, a committed relationship, or none of the above? Do older women actually know what men…
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Why Do Men Ghost: Some Important Coaching
If you keep getting your heart broken when you get ghosted, here is the coaching: STOP FALLING FOR THOSE WHO SAY, BUT DO NOT DO, THE THINGS YOU WANT!
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Top 5 Reasons To Believe In Love and Romance Again
My name is Laurie, and I have been a dating coach for women for the last 20 years. If you are finding love after 50, you must begin with believing it’s possible!
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The Best Way to Meet Men in Real Life (Even If You’re Nervous)
If you’re an older woman trying to find a romantic relationship in the real world, you’re not alone. I’ve worked with thousands of single women over 50, and I hear this all the time: “I’m tired of online dating apps. I want to meet a great guy in real life.” The kids call it…
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Should I Hire a Professional Matchmaker?
Ever wondered what it’s really like behind the scenes of a professional matchmaking service? I recently sat down with Jill Dunn, a seasoned matchmaker with years of experience helping single men and women find long-term relationships.
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The Top 5 Reasons Women Give Up on Love
Quick question: What’s the top reason you’ve given up on finding love after 50?
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7 Best Dating Sites for Women Over 50 in 2026 (Reviewed by a Dating Coach)
The dating world has evolved. We’re swiping, chatting through mobile apps, and scanning dating profiles like pros. It can feel overwhelming at times—but here’s the good news: there are plenty of quality dating services out there filled with potential matches looking for…
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How to Protect Yourself From a Narcissist
As a relationship coach, every so often I have to encourage someone to leave their relationship. But how do we know when it’s time to cut losses?
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10 Key Questions to Ask on the First 3 Dates for Mature Daters
I have been coaching people for 20 years on how to date effectively, based on Handel Group™’s awesome methodology. I've taught countless clients how to maximize the utility, intimacy, and fun of the first 3 dates, with great questions…
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Love at First Site: How to Choose the Best Dating Site Without Losing Your Mind
There are dating services offering "meaningful connections," platforms for casual relationships, and apps boasting compatibility scores and in-depth personality tests. Some are free, others want your credit card before you even send a first message.
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Can Sex Get Better After Menopause?
If you’re post-menopausal and dating (or thinking about dating), I want you to know: you are not alone, you are not too old, too dry, too rusty, and you are not done. So many women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond are re-entering the dating world and wondering with regards to sex……
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The Importance of Shared Values in a Romantic Relationship
My sense of priorities in relationships has changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
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How to Flirt Naturally (and Still Be Your Authentic Self): Clean and Dirtier Come-ons Included
First of all, warning: this blog is for women. If you're a man and reading this, you may get some value and some chuckles, but the rules and ideas are really different for men. Maybe I'll write that one next. Now, ladies, if your flirt game is rusty, good news: you don’t need…
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How Women Can Avoid the Top Five Dating Mistakes
As a relationship expert, I have been studying dating over 50 for the last 20 years, and I have made an important discovery. The good news is that the biggest mistakes women make in dating can be avoided.
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The Biggest Dating Dealbreakers for Women
One moment you're excited about a potential partner, and the next, you’re wondering if you just wasted a lot of time. Welcome to the dating game! What a ride.
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Most Common Third Date Mistakes to Avoid
The 3rd date is a significant milestone, it assumes you are really interested in each other and attracted– but you need to know some very important things in order to take it further.
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Biggest Mistakes That Ruin a Second Date
A couple of weeks ago we discussed the most common 1st date mistakes, if you missed it, here’s the link. This week, I want to warn you about the 2nd date pitfalls!
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Fun First Date Ideas
First, let me just remind you, there will be no first date unless you have had a good time getting to know the person over text, phone call, or video chat, and feel that they meet your 3H criteria.
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Biggest and Most Common First Date Mistakes To Avoid
Good news, everyone is making the same mistakes and they are fixable. To save you boredom, frustration and heartache, don’t make these FIRST DATE mistakes:
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Understanding Relationship Compatibility in Early Dating
The biggest mistake women make in midlife dating is staying for a long time with the wrong person. If you’re lonely, you are susceptible to picking badly, and then staying put, hoping it will turn into a successful relationship if you’re patient or work hard enough to fix him.
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Am I Good Enough to be Loved for What I Am?
One of the biggest obstacles I see stopping women in midlife from finding a meaningful romantic relationship is a deeply rooted belief that they are somehow “not enough” to deserve it. That they're too old, too damaged, too late, too this or that.
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Why Do Men Talk So Much On First Dates?
Some men are narcissists. Some men are full of themselves. Most men are neither.
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Worst Date Ideas
Bad dates are the worst. We've all been on crappy dates and been wondering the whole time, when will this be over? I want to save you from ever going on a bad date again with some top tips for the first three, which are the most important!
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Examples of Canned Responses for Dating Multiple People
Almost every day I hear about the overwhelm and exhaustion women feel when engaged in online dating. Have you ever just wished you knew all the tricks to make it easier?
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First Date Signs He Likes You
So many of my clients come to me upset and frustrated, because for sure they thought a gentleman was "into them"--only to find out he wasn't serious at all. How soon can you tell if a man likes you, if you can tell at all? Here I will inform you about some key early dating signs…
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How to Make Yourself More Attractive: 4 Practical Strategies
You may think it seems shallow to care about being attractive. But it is the most important element that determines whether or not you will find a love match.
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What is the 3-date Rule for Finding Love After 50?
The biggest mistake women make, which prevents them from finding the right person for them, is staying too long with the wrong person.
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You’re Training Someone How to Treat You—From the First Interaction
Did you know? You are teaching someone how to treat you from the very first interaction. If you are wondering why someone treats you a particular way, think back to the behaviors you ignored or didn’t speak up about at the beginning.
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Is Dating in Digital Times Even Worth It?
Are you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself if it’s even worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites.
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The Big Myth About Older Men and Younger Women: Busted!
The myth that older men only want to date younger women is understandably upsetting to older women. But, just because you’ve heard it a hundred times (or have seen it play out on social media and in bad rom-coms) doesn’t mean it’s a universal truth.
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Love, Hormones, and a Fresh Start: Your Guide to Dating After 50
At our age we’ve come to understand we don’t NEED a partner. You’ve spent plenty of time without one and you are okay.
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Top 12 Safety Tips for Dating (Including Online)
If you feel unsafe dating, that’s fair. The online dating world is filled with wonderful potential partners, but it also has its fair share of red flags. Scammers, fraudsters, and people with bad intentions do exist, but that doesn’t mean you should live in fear. Healthy…
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Get Your Baggage out of Your Dating Life With This Exercise 🙃
If you have been working hard at dating or even just on yourself, to change your past patterns and you haven’t found success there may be a very important step you are overlooking.
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Got Daddy Issues?
A few days ago I found myself saying something for the 3rd time in a week to a 50+ woman who was trying to get back into dating. “It’s not about whether or not YOU are good enough.”
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A Guide To Dating As A Single Mom: Happy Mother's Day
SINGLE MOMS: I’ll give you the bottom line first: A person who doesn’t think your kid(s) is a value add to life itself is not YOUR soulmate!
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Divorce Detoxification: Do You Need It?
What happens if you are not OVER your divorce? You need DIVORCE DETOXIFICATION!
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Obstacles To The Click
Remember when I talked about “the click”? It’s when you finally know you are ready to find your soulmate. You’ve stopped whining, resisting and fearing the process or the result.
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Have You Had "The Click?" The One Where You Know You Are Going To Find Your Soulmate?
What’s the click? It’s that moment when you go from being a victim of your past failures in love to being the author of a brave new chapter of love-hunting!
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Are You An Unhappy Single Person? Here's Help.
There are millions of unhappy single people in the world and I don’t want you to be one of them!
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Why Must I Swipe Swipe Swipe, Delete, Delete, Delete
My first answer is, dating is an honest job and you DO need to be willing to put in the work. Finding your soulmate does take time and a good attitude, like any other important accomplishment.
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5 Questions to Ask to Know If You're Ready for a Committed Relationship
It’s not marriage…but, deciding to get committed is a big step! You’re taking yourself off the market and that is a real risk. So, make sure you’ve done your homework!
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New Year's CHECKLIST
It’s a new year and I hope lasting healthy love is on the top of your list of goals for the year! If so, here is your checklist for preparation:
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5 Strategies to Infuse more Romance
If you are looking for New Year’s resolutions for your love life, take this quiz! Are you showing up the way you want to show up? If not, this quiz will give you some very good ideas for improvement.
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7 Questions to Ask Yourself at the End of the Year
Here is your end of the year exercise. I never miss doing it myself and it works every time! Answer the following, in writing!
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Want To Establish An Ideal Relationship? Set These 4 Boundaries!
FAQ: What are boundaries I can implement in dating to establish my ideal relationship? ANSWER: These 4 things:
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Are Your Holidays Delightful or Disastrous? A Little Design Goes A Long Way!
No two people want the same thing from their holiday or vacation. Have you discussed what’s most important? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes:
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My One and Only Gift Guide for Those Looking for Their One and Only
Are you in the market for a gift for yourself or a loved one who is looking for love? There could not be a better time than now to purchase a digital course as a gift.
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The Antidote To Fear And Loneliness: Gratitude, 8 Ways To Practice It
I understand holidays can: …remind you of loss …remind you of loved ones who have passed …make you feel lonely …make you feel fat …make you feel vulnerable to comparison
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Doing Holidays Solo? 5 Strategies for Making Peace with Being Single
Are you headed into another holiday season without a "special someone" by your side? Wouldn’t it be easier to handle your family’s craziness if you had a partner with you? At the very least it might get them focused on something other than your singleness!
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Are We Compatible? How to Know if You Should Proceed With a Particular Someone
A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that their partner needs to be the same as them–similar interests, similar finances, family situation and maybe even the SAME in some areas like: level of education, race, politics, religion…
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Charm, Don’t Spook Them: 4 Essential First Date Tips Revealed! 🎃
Sometimes you unintentionally cast a scary spell on your date and send your potential mate running. Here are the tips to keep your first dates bewitching without the fright factor.
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Testing the Dating Waters: 6 Red Flags to Watch Out For During the First Three Dates
Do you ever get so excited to finally find someone decent to date that you let your guard down and excuse or disregard RED FLAGS??
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Best 3 Tips for Handling Rejection Well While Dating
So you're out there on the dating scene, and let's be honest, rejection is just part of the game. But fear not y’all, here are the tips you need to handle rejection like a pro…
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4 MUSTS For Developing Trust While Dating
Why is Trust so important? You might say developing trust is what dating is all about--to see if the person is a good match for you.
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Discovering Invisible Labor In Couples And What To Do About It
One of the top 3 things couples fight about is: division of labor in the household! Successful couples uncover invisible labor, and acknowledge and appreciate it--and might choose to change some of the assigned responsibilities.
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4 Must Ask Questions for YOU after your FIRST date
Do you ever end up dating someone longer than you should? Do you watch your friends TRY to make it work only to entangle themselves with not-the-one for ages?
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5 Tips For A Succesful First Date
Good news! Everyone is making the same dating mistakes and they are fixable! With these 5 tips!
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Top 5 Dos and Don’ts For Your Slam Dunk Dating Profile 🏀🧺
Everyone makes the same mistakes with their profiles! Yes, there is a right way to design your online dating profile to make your dating experience more fun and effective…
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Unlocking the Mystery: What is Love Actually? 🤔💭💖
What do you think “Love” actually is? It’s give and it’s take. I love you, so here is what I want to give you:
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Setting the Record Straight: What A Good Partner Does (and Doesn't) Do For You
If you’ve been following me on Insta you know I am not just about you finding your person, but I’m all about you keeping the love alive, hot and healthy. Are you frustrated that your partner can’t provide certain things you want?
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Dating Hack: 5 Things You'll Learn From A Video Chat That You Need to Know
There are 5 things THAT YOU NEED TO KNOW that you will learn by setting up a video chat with a potential date…
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Attention Daters: How to Get off the Apps and Into Real Life Dates
Are you frustrated by dating apps? Are you tired of endless texting but no real action? Are you confused and overwhelmed by what’s expected in dating these days?
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Make Awkward Talks Less Painful with this 8-Step Awesome Cheat Sheet 📜
Dating requires many awkward conversations–whether it’s… ...asking for the next date ...talking about STIs…
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How to Have the Conversation to Establish Monogamy in 4 Easy Steps 👣👣
It’s a mistake to think there is monogamy in a dating relationship if it hasn’t been specifically agreed upon. If you are in my Master the Art of Love program you know that there are stages of dating and specific things you need to address at each stage.
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Bad Listeners Never Run Out of Excuses. Check These Out!
I was the worst! Meaning, I got a lot of feedback that I was a bad listener. So it’s from experience I can tell you, excuses are what keeps the bad behavior in place…
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Apology Pitfalls Are Everywhere. I'll Tell You How to Avoid Them
Here is another example of a bad apology. If you missed last week’s example…
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Effective Apologies: This Is How They Work
The format of a good apology should go like this…
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4 Secrets To Evaluating Your Relationship
You should know this much if you've been following me for a while: Your partner has to be satisfying the needs of your HEAD, HEART AND HOO-HA in order for you to be/stay happy in love..
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Partner Not Listening? I’ll Show You How to Change That
So many people feel their partners don’t listen well. Here is what doesn’t work to inspire listening…
Read moreWhy Dating While Ashamed Doesn't Work and How to Fix it
For every person I coach about dating I find a secret or two hiding in the closet! It’s something they think if others knew– it would mean no chance for them…
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Love is the Only Game in Town, Here's How to Play
Love is the only game in town. In this podcast you’ll hear how to play the game…
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How an Expert Masters Love: Take Advantage of My Experience 💖
If I wake up and decide to make pancakes without water, milk and eggs I will definitely have something, but I can assure you, it won't be pancakes…
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Would Pavlok-style Shock Therapy Work For Your Relationship Problems?
When I first tried to stop my bad habit of interrupting, it was VERY hard! I knew it didn’t help my relationship and was considered socially wrong, but I didn’t find I had the willpower to stop…
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How to Keep Your Love Connections Fresh, Tight and Lasting
This conversation is full of A-HA moments, tips, and straight up great advice to keep your love connections fresh, tight, and lasting.
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My 4 Best "Back to School/Real Life" Hacks
Does your household go haywire in September? Mine does. Here are the best household hacks I have discovered to make things run more smoothly…
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Is the Division of Labor Fair in Your Household? 🙋♀️
I’ll be frank, the patriarchy is really getting on my nerves. There are other battle cries I could sound right now, but given Labor Day tomorrow, this is the one that’s bothering me…
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4 Tips for Positioning Negative Feedback So it Can be Heard
Do people get defensive when you give them negative feedback? Here are 4 tips on how to position negative feedback so the person listening can really hear it!
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In Conflict, Do You Own Your Part? Ask Yourself These 8 Questions!
When you are giving negative feedback, do you own your part first? If you want the person to whom you are complaining to care about your experience…
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3 Curious Things We Learned from Practicing Listening 🙉
Yep, we've been practicing our drills and improving our speaking and listening skills. There are 3 important takeaways we've gathered from this work.
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🏆 The Biggest Predictor of Relationship Success Revealed 🥇
What we think are going to be the predictors of success in relationships simply are not! And now there is scientific proof…
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The Secret Ingredients To Getting The Love (And Sex 👉👌) Back
In this podcast, you’ll get the details about putting the “fun” in marriage fundamentals, using sex dates (ooh la la) as an example, and the magic of lube and candles, and finally, an explanation of why if I were a fictional character, I'd be a fairy godmother.
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Are you A Good Listener? 👂🙉 Find Out and Fix With These 3 Steps.
Has anyone ever accused you of: being a bad listener being “checked out” interrupting not really getting them losing focus while they are speaking…
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The #1 Communication Problem in Couples, Do you have it?
In a recent survey we discovered what couples fight about most. Communication topped the list with complaints like…
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Vacation Planner for Couples and Families
Vacations are something many of us eagerly look forward to, but they can bring a great deal of stress and disappointment. This summer I want you to nerd out in your planning, like I do, to ensure you get what you want and everyone else is happy too!
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Father’s Day Re-Imagined
I am writing to people with fathers or without fathers. Imagine the father you wish you’d had. What’s he like? What traits does he have? How does he talk to you, think about you, behold you?…
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How to Stop Predictable Fights in Their Tracks 👣
Quick, without thinking hard, name the top three fights you always have with your partner. My husband and I fight about money. I am more nervous and controlling, he is more trusting and generous. We fight when we’re hosting guests. Again, he thinks everything will turn out fine.…
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Your Phone Is Stupid, and It's Making You Stupid 📱😱
In a few years, we are going to look back at our relationship with phones, and consider it barbaric. We are in denial about this. We make excuses constantly. To be very blunt, essentially, the phone is evil and it does evil things to you. And you, like a lemming, comply.
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Popcorning: What it is, Why You Do it, And Why you Have to Stop
Popcorning: Interrupting your partner (popping in) to get attention on whatever you want to discuss. Distinguishing feature: it could happen at any time! Couples have been complaining about “popcorning'' for years but it got WAY worse in the pandemic when we were all living on…
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Determining Your Type in 3 Easy Steps
It’s easy to think that “your type” is some elusive thing, but it’s not: IT’S A SACRED THING! And I want you to reclaim it!
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#1 Dating Tool: How to Use the 3H Chart Whether You're on the Hunt Or Long-Term Committed
Once you start using this incredibly useful dating tool, the 3H chart, you can say goodbye to heartbreak. What, you may be asking, are the 3H’s?
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Your Parents, and Why You Suck at Love the Same Ways They Did
A lot of you picked for the wrong reasons. Maybe the person satisfied one, or two, but not all three, and you thought you couldn’t have it all. But maybe you still can–with a little bit of work!
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Become More Competent at Love: Learn the Art of The Bandaid Trade 🩹
It’s scary to rip off a bandaid. That's why you just have to commit and do it all at once. It stings for a few seconds, and then it’s over –the wound can breathe, and do its last steps of healing! Giving your partner feedback about something that is not working is a lot like…
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Do You Have Integrity in Love? It's Urgent You Analyze These 3 Things!
Have you ever asked yourself if you have integrity when it comes to love? Most people don’t think of integrity the way the Handel Group lays it out. The Handel Method™ teaches that there are 3 levels or forms of integrity…
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Are you Addicted to A Person? 🤔 Use this Free 6-Step Detox To Believe in Love Again, Now.
Sometimes your inability to get over someone reaches the level of an addiction, which means you feel like you have no control over what your head is busy thinking about. How do you know you’re addicted?
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15 Excuses for Bad Relationships and Why They Are Actually Certified Crap 💩
Not everyone can afford private coaching, but everyone deserves somebody to help them debunk their favorite excuses about why relationships don’t work. Allow me to debunk the most popular 15 excuses I hear, by category….
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Are You Having The Right Amount And Kind Of Sex, According To Experts?
I have never worked with a couple that didn’t need to talk more about sex. So let me get the ball rolling!
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These Excuses are Killing Your Relationship
Everyone makes excuses about their relationship. I know I did. My first round had to do with being better than most, then I blamed my partner and then finally resorted to believing I had tried everything. There is nothing wrong with excuses except t
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My Favorite Dream Writing Exercises
I’ve been trying to impress upon you how important it is to assess your purpose, and your values, when it comes to your relationship. If you haven’t already done the compare and discuss exercise with your mate, DO IT! It’s a great start to creating a jointly held dream.
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The Step by Step Guide to Figuring Out What You Really Want
Last week, I told you I’d explain how my sense of priorities in relationship changed over the course of coaching. I had to reexamine my values because what I was valuing when I came to coaching wasn’t giving me the relationship I really wanted…
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I Found a Better Purpose for My Marriage, Have You?
I promised I would give you some examples of purposes from former clients, and here they are…
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Why My Coach had a Great Marriage and I Didn’t
"What’s the purpose of my marriage?" I had never asked myself that question…
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How I Almost Lost My Marriage
The only reason I ever shaped up in my marriage is because I realized I was going to lose it. Turns out I needed to do way less, and listen way more. When I do, the results are profound…
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You Have Not Tried Everything!
I remember while complaining about my relationship, telling my coach “I've tried everything!” And by “everything” I meant, nagging, complaining, blaming and trying to “be nice.” My quiz will give you LOTS of new ideas for things to try that have been proven to help relationships…
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I Finally Did it 💪🏼
On January 1st, 2021, I made a promise to myself, and on Wednesday, December 15th, 2021, I kept that promise–for the first time in my life. I’m going to tell you all about it, as a way to talk about making your year end powerfully and meaningfully…
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Avoid the Top 3 Relationship Pitfalls: Holiday Edition
No two people conceive of vacations the same way. No two people want the same thing from their holiday. Have you discussed what’s most important to your partner, in a calm moment? If you haven’t, you can expect these 3 outcomes…
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Are you a Good Lover?
This is NOT about your sexual technique, though we will be getting to that. This is about LOVE, as a verb. The word love is so loaded. It’s impossible to know what someone means when they say it, because it has been co-opted to mean so many things. Here is the most useful…
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Whose Fault is It?
Last week I encouraged you to self-assess and cop to your REAL issues. Blaming your partner is just too easy! Nonetheless, it is exactly what I did, FOR YEARS! Yup, when my coach asked me why I was unhappy in my relationship then answer was simple: IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT. Here is…
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My Relationship is On The Rocks: Is it Me?
It’s normal to ask yourself if the problems in your relationship are your fault. It’s also normal to blame them on your partner. The truth lies somewhere in between. I’ve been coaching clients for 17 years including thousands of people trying to make love work well and I’ve…
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